Are you feeling something just isn’t right with your Taurus and you know he’s had some contact with his ex recently? Perhaps you know for certain they’ve become friends again and you’re concerned if it’s going too far. Does your Taurus man still have feelings for his ex? Keep reading for some things that you should probably pay attention to.
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In my years as a relationship astrologer, I’ve worked with thousands of women loving a Taurus man, and this exact worry surfaces more often than you might think. It’s not paranoia. Your instincts are usually sharper than the surface evidence, and with a Taurus man specifically, there’s a real reason his past tends to linger longer than it does with other signs.
In our survey of over 5,600 women involved with Taurus men, nearly 1 in 5 described their situation as “it’s complicated,” and a loud piece of that complication is almost always the ghost of the woman who came before. That’s why I want to walk you through this carefully, not just with surface-level red flags, but with the deeper Venus-ruled psychology that actually drives a Taurus man when an old love is still on his mind.
If you’d rather cut straight to the language that pulls a Taurus man’s attention fully onto you and quietly off the ghost of any other woman, my Taurus Magic Phrases guide is built for exactly this moment. Every phrase in it speaks directly to his Venus-ruled heart and reminds him where his peace actually lives.
The Complexity of His Feelings
Ok so as I’ve mentioned a few times in other blogs, Taurus men typically cut an ex off and they’re never to be heard from, especially if things went badly. He may not talk much to her but there are other cues to look at.
If you find that her phone number is still on his phone or he’s still connected to her via social media. There is more going on there than it meets the eye. He’s still watching her as he’s still harboring feelings.
He may not talk to her, may not comment on her, or even click “like” on any of her stuff but he still isn’t deleting or blocking her either. He won’t unless things were really bad prior to the breakup.
So you realize that she’s still on his phone and/or on social media but unless he’s showing signs of interest that you can SEE, then you may not need to worry. He can still have feelings for her as long as he’s not acting on them.
Taurus men tend to commit for life once they commit and so when that commitment somehow comes to an end, he still has a hard time letting go of what he glued himself to before.
Why Venus Keeps a Back Door Open in Every Taurus Man’s Heart
Here’s the part most women miss. Taurus is ruled by Venus, the planet of love, beauty, pleasure, and attachment, and Venus is a keeper by nature. She gathers, she preserves, she holds on. That’s why a Taurus man doesn’t just bond with a woman in the abstract. He bonds with the scent of her perfume on his pillow, the way she laughed during Sunday morning coffee, the Christmas they spent at his mother’s house, the restaurant where he finally said I love you.
All of that lives in his body memory, not just in his head. Because of that, when a Taurus man loses a woman he genuinely loved, he doesn’t grieve her once and move on. He grieves her in pieces, for a long time, triggered by songs, smells, places, and even seasons.
That kind of quiet sentimentality is not the same thing as active feelings. It is Venus doing what Venus does, which is holding every version of love that ever mattered to her. The problem for you is that from the outside, the two things can look identical. Your job is not to erase her from his memory, because with this sign that is genuinely impossible. Your job is to learn the difference between a man who is honoring what once was and a man who is secretly still invested in what could be again. That is exactly the line this article is going to help you draw.
The Truth About What a Taurus Man Will (and Won’t) Do With a Woman From His Past
Though the Taurus man may still have feelings for his ex or even want her back, he’s not going to easily give up on the relationship he’s in unless it’s a bad relationship.
If things are going very well between you two, you shouldn’t worry unless he starts pulling back and perhaps is showing signs of losing interest. Naturally, if you see him talking to his ex on social media or email, you may want to ask him about it.
Taurus men can be complicated for sure but he’s not going to give up a sure thing by messing around with an ex. Cheating is a very rare thing for a Taurus man to do. That is likely not going to be an issue.
However, there are those rare guys that do decide that they want to see if there is still any “magic” with an ex and can partake of some intimacies. What I mean by this is possibly oral sex or playing around at the very least.
He may stick to his guns and not do intercourse as that’s more serious and that would make him feel incredibly guilty for cheating on his partner. He cannot easily live with himself when he carries such guilt.
Her Stuff Still in his House
Ok, something very obvious if you aren’t living with him but you visit him often, will be seeing some of her stuff still there. If he still has feelings for her, he won’t have an easy time getting rid of it.
He may even box it all up but he’ll keep it for a while before returning it to her, if ever. He’s a sentimental guy and this is a HUGE red flag for you to consider if you’re still just dating and not living together.
If you find a brush with a long blonde hair in it and he has short brown hair, this may be his ex’s hairbrush. This is just one example of what he could be holding onto as he’s not ready to fully let go.
You may want to suggest getting it back to her or perhaps donating it if he doesn’t want to throw it out. He needs to let it go and get it out of his home so he can focus on the present and on his relationship with you.
When Your Taurus Man Starts Pulling Back After His Ex Reappears
When a Taurus man starts to get comfortable with someone, he starts to back off and seems as though he’s lost a little interest. The fact is, he’s comfortable and that means he doesn’t have to try so hard to win you anymore.
That doesn’t mean he wants to get back with an ex or get together with anyone else. However, if you notice that he starts to pull back because he’s heard from his ex then he is re-assessing his feelings.
Even if she’s calling to tell him she’s getting married, he may have an adverse reaction because he still loves her. Clearly, her getting married means he has no chance but he will grieve none the less.
How to Respond When His Ex Suddenly Reappears (Without Pushing Him Straight Into Her Arms)
Almost every woman I work with has had this moment. His ex messages. Maybe it’s “happy birthday,” maybe it’s something about a song on the radio, maybe it’s a full paragraph about how she misses the dog. And suddenly you’re sitting across from him trying to read his face and pretending you don’t care.
With a Taurus man, the worst thing you can do in this moment is explode. He is one of the most stubborn signs in the zodiac, and he does not take kindly to being told what to do, especially about his personal life. If you demand he block her on the spot or fly into a panic, his Venus-ruled sense of peace gets trampled, and the part of him that hates conflict will quietly start to associate that chaos with you, not with her. That is the opposite of what you want.
What actually works with a Taurus man is the calm, grounded response. Ask him directly and softly what she wanted. Listen without interrupting. Then tell him how it felt in your body to see it happen, not what he is allowed to do about it. “When I saw her name on your phone, my stomach dropped, and I just needed you to know that.” That kind of honesty lands in a Taurus man in a way rules and ultimatums never will. He speaks the language of physical reality, so “my stomach dropped” reaches him in a way “you need to cut her off” never can.
Nine times out of ten, once a Taurus man understands that a piece of his past is actively hurting the woman in his present, he will quietly handle it himself. The key is letting him handle it as his choice. Bulls don’t respond to the whip. They respond to the woman who knows how to hold the reins without yanking them. If you want more on this exact dynamic, here’s what I tell women when a Taurus ex messages out of the blue, because the emotional rules are the mirror image of what you’re dealing with now.
What Every Woman Needs to Understand About a Taurus Man’s Capacity to Still Care for a Past Love
Just keep in perspective that when a Taurus man gives his heart 100%, he expects it to last so when it doesn’t he’s broken and it takes him a very long time to get over, if ever.
If you’re able to keep this in mind then you will understand that there is a part of him that will always love and care for his ex. That doesn’t apply to all his ex’s. It only applies to the one that he really loved and was close to (if he has one like that).
Naturally, if an ex of his that tries to reach out isn’t that good of a friend, he probably won’t bother. He may say hi back but he won’t try to carry on and try to really be friends with her. In his head, he was already done with her and not going there again, especially if he loves you.
All in all, Taurus men aren’t much for cheating or for scheming. He may still have feelings for his ex. So what?! As long as he’s not doing anything about it nor stalking her to keep an eye on her, you shouldn’t worry.
If he’s professed his love to you, you likely have nothing to worry about. Watch for the signs and you’ll probably be just fine with your Taurus man!
Warning Signs That Separate Harmless Nostalgia From Real Emotional Cheating With a Taurus Man
This is the fear underneath every other fear, and I want to address it head-on. Yes, a Taurus man can cross from “I still have a soft spot for her” into quiet emotional cheating, and yes, there is a very specific behavioral fingerprint when he has. You don’t need to snoop through his phone to know the difference. You just need to know what to look for.
A Taurus man with a harmless sentimental attachment is an open book about it. He’ll tell you when she reached out, he’ll shrug when her old song plays, he’ll keep one framed photo in a box because of who gave it to him, not who is in it. There is no secrecy, no sudden phone flipping, no quick app switching. That man is safe. Sometimes annoying, but safe.
A Taurus man who has slid into emotional cheating behaves very differently. He starts protecting the connection with her. His phone goes face-down on the table where it used to be face-up. New passwords appear. Trips to the grocery store start taking ninety minutes. A new soft tone creeps into his voice on a call he says is work. Taurus men are terrible liars because their bodies give them away, so watch the body, not the words.
In our 90-day check-in survey of 880 women still loving a Taurus man, the single most common fear was some version of “is he giving her what should be mine?” Your instincts on this are usually right. The fix, though, is not surveillance. The fix is a direct, calm, unapologetic conversation about what you need in order to feel safe. Taurus men respect honesty more than almost any sign in the zodiac, and they quietly despise sneaky women. Tell him what you need, tell him what you don’t need, and then watch what he actually does. His actions over the next two to three weeks will tell you everything his words can’t.
The Red Flags That Actually Mean Something (And the Ones You Can Let Go)
There are plenty of red flags here for you to consider when you’re seeing or dating a Taurus man. He will for sure show you when he’s not into it just like he will be sure to show you when he is.
If you’re just scratching the surface with your Taurus guy, you should really learn all you can about his sign. It may help you in the long run. Click here for more details on him.
Taurus Man and His Ex: Your Most Asked Questions, Answered
Do Taurus men usually go back to their exes?
Sometimes, yes. A Taurus man struggles with change more than almost any other sign, and an ex represents something deeply familiar to him. He already knows her routines, her family, her smell, the way she likes her coffee. For a fixed earth sign who prizes comfort above nearly everything else, the familiar ex can start to look like the path of least emotional resistance, especially if his current situation has turned stressful.
That said, going back does not mean staying back. Most Taurus men who reunite with an ex eventually remember why they broke up, because the issues that ended the relationship are almost always still there when he walks back in. If your Taurus man is tempted by his past, the long game is almost always on your side. He will re-test the waters, confirm that what was broken is still broken, and return to the present more committed than before, provided you didn’t beg him to stay.
The real question to ask yourself is not whether he might go back. It’s whether you are willing to be the kind of stable, grounded presence he can’t stop comparing her to. Taurus men come home to peace. If you are the peace, you win.
How long does it take a Taurus man to get over an ex?
Longer than he will ever admit. Taurus men can appear fully moved on within a few months because they are excellent at compartmentalizing. They bury emotions in work, in food, in the gym, in a new woman. But the Venus-ruled sentimentality underneath doesn’t have a fast processor.
As a rough rule, I tell my clients a Taurus man is usually still quietly grieving an ex for about half as long as the relationship lasted. A two-year relationship leaves him tender for about a year. A seven-year marriage can echo in him for three or four. That does not mean he cannot love you during that time. It means he may love you with a small part of his heart still looking backward, especially on anniversaries, birthdays, or whenever something triggers the memory of her.
The good news is that his loyalty belongs to whoever is present. As long as you are there, steady and patient, his heart realigns toward you slowly but permanently. Rushing him only slows it down.
Will a Taurus man cheat on you with his ex?
Cheating is genuinely rare for this sign. Taurus men are loyal to a fault and their physical bodies struggle to carry the guilt of lying to someone they love. But here’s the caveat, and it’s an important one. If a Taurus man has not fully grieved an ex, and the relationship with you has gone into a stressful cold patch, and she reappears in a moment of his vulnerability, the temptation can overwhelm his usual loyalty.
It almost never happens from a place of wanting her more than you. It happens from a place of wanting the familiar comfort of who she used to be, when his nervous system is exhausted. The prevention is almost entirely about the emotional temperature of your current relationship. If you stay connected with him physically and emotionally, especially during his stressful seasons, the window for that kind of mistake stays shut.
Watch for the warning signs in the section above. If any of them are firing, don’t panic. Address it with him directly, calmly, and quickly, and ask for the reassurance you need. Almost every Taurus man will give it to you, because almost every Taurus man knows in his gut that what he has now is worth more than what he had then.
How do I know if my Taurus man is still secretly in love with his ex?
There is one question that cuts through every other signal, and it is this. Does he light up when he sees you, or does he light up when he talks about her? A Taurus man cannot fake his body language when it comes to real attraction. His eyes soften, his shoulders lower, his hands find you without thinking. If that is how he responds to you, his heart is here, even when his memory sometimes wanders.
If, however, he lights up when he talks about her, her name brings a softness into his voice he does not bring to yours, and he is always looking for a reason to bring her up in conversation, that is a hard sign. He may not be actively pursuing her. He is still emotionally orbiting her.
73% of women in our survey said their Taurus man makes intense, consistent eye contact with them. If yours doesn’t, anymore, and used to, that is a data point you should not ignore. Pair the eye contact test with the question above, and you will have your answer without having to go through his phone.
Should I ask him directly about his feelings for his ex?
Yes, but timing and tone are everything. Never ask during a fight. Never ask right after he has mentioned her. Never ask in a text. Taurus men need a calm, unpressured, in-person setting to answer anything vulnerable, and they will shut down completely if they feel cornered or accused.
When the moment is right, sitting next to him on a quiet evening, after a good meal, during a comfortable silence, ask him softly. “I need to understand what she still means to you, not because I don’t trust you, but because I want to know how to love you better.” That framing works because it makes him the hero of the conversation, not the suspect. A Taurus man will open up for a woman who invites honesty instead of demanding it.
Whatever he says, listen without arguing. You can process your feelings later. In that moment, you are gathering information, and the information is gold.
If you want to make sure his feelings stay anchored in the present with you, my Taurus Magic Phrases guide was built for exactly this situation. Every phrase in it is designed to remind his Venus-ruled heart of the peace, warmth, and presence only you give him, so that no ghost of a past love stands a real chance against the woman actually standing in front of him.
And if you want a fuller picture of how to love a Taurus man without accidentally pushing him back toward the comfort of his past, this guide walks you through what actually brings a Taurus man fully back into the present with you. Once you understand him on that deeper level, his ex stops feeling like a threat. She starts feeling like a part of his history that he chose to close.
Now I’d Love to Hear From You
Every Taurus man is a different blend of fear, loyalty, nostalgia, and love, and your situation with yours is one of a kind.
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My taurus man broke up with his ex wife three years ago after she left him for another man. They are no longer in contact and he doesn’t talk about her much. We’ve been together almost a year and all is well but I’m worried he still has feelings for her deep down and will always carrying around the heartbreak. Is the Taurus man ever able to completely commit to someone new? He had committed to her for life but was devastated by the betrayal.
Hi Lou!
There is no way for sure to ever know if his feelings are still there but if he isn’t talking about her then that’s a good thing. Even if he does have feelings for her, he’s with you and the love for her shouldn’t tarnish that really. Try not to be insecure in yourself. He’s with you for a reason. Stick with that and be happy he chose you. Yes, of course they can completely commit again.
Hi, am married a taurus man, he is still in connection with his ex, sometimes he praises her, he is stalking her, chatting with her.. Recently he deleted chat also because I was argued with him about her before. But he is telling that they are just friends, I deleted that chat because u will make fight by seeing it, and so on.. He was told me to make friend her in social media if I want. Am very much insecure about this… What I have to do??
Hi Sheyn,
He probably doesn’t feel respected, appreciated or loved, and therefore protected emotionally enough. More than any other astrological sign, Taurus guy needs to be praised by his special woman so he could feel special too.
By keeping in touch with his ex, he proves to himself that he is still attractive, highly respected, adored or needed. And in this sense, be aware that most affairs don’t happen just like that, all of a sudden. It takes time.
What you can do is show your support. Compliment him all the way. He needs to feel appreciated by you.
I hope all goes well for you both! Sending Love.
Hi Anna,
I have a taurus boyfriend and he lives far from me.
Because when I open up about my past, but he did tell me about his ex-wife who passed away.
in the beginning. Is it okay to ask my boyfriend about his ex before me or not.?
What is the reason why he hates talking on the phone?
Thank you.
Dear Renee,
It is hard being far away from a Taurus man. At some point, you and the Taurus man will both want to actually spend time together. Face to face is absolutely necessary for a Taurus man to continue a long distance relationship.
The complication arises when he realizes that he cannot be with you while you’re at a distance.
He could become cold or restless thus sending you fewer messages or calling less. The Taurus man is in need of physical interaction with the woman he’s been spending so much energy on. You need to come up with a plan to see him in person. He will then have a perspective about your future plans. The worst thing would be to just chat and be on the phone without making any effort to be together physically. This is a deal-breaker for a Taurus man.
Best of luck!
Hi Anna
I have been in a Relationship with a Taurus ma for 10 years In April of 2023 he confessed to me that he had been seeing another woman for 7 years she broke up with him and he was upset so he decided to come clean was devastated but I forgave him. I have been seeing him again He goes hot and cold on me Should I come out and ask him if he is talking to her again? I am afraid to because if he isn’t he will think I don’t trust him (which I don’t) I forgave him but I don’t think I will ever forget Heisthe love of my life and I have been a very loyal and trusting companion to him He tells me all of his deepest darkest secrets I just don’t want to lose him Please help
Dear Kathleen,
My suggestion for you is that you make a decision about what you want. Decide whether or not you want to stay with him and work on this issue, or if you need to move on.
Neither of these choices are easy, but they are both definitely necessary in your process of healing. Taurus man cheats when he doesn’t feel respected, appreciated or loved, and therefore protected emotionally enough. More than any other astrological sign, Taurus guy needs to be praised by his special woman so he could feel special too.
My suggestion is, face it right away, don’t ignore it and don’t ever allow him to make you his second choice.
I hope this situation will be resolved in your favor. Sending Love!