Have you met a Taurus man with whom things got hot really quickly and then he suddenly turns into a cold fish? Perhaps he’s dodging your phone calls, texts, or has stopped asking you out on dates. What is going on? Keep reading on why is your Taurus man being hot and cold all the time.
Moves Too Quickly
Taurus men are known to be slow movers. That being said; you need to know that if a Taurus man moves quickly; something is not right. They normally don’t do this and if they do; they will regret it.
In fact; this is often what happens when he comes on so strong and then suddenly disappears. It leaves many women very confused and hurt. He doesn’t mean to do this but sometimes his self-worth is involved here.
When he meets a woman who is loving, adores him, and seems to have it all together; he feels he may have found the right woman for himself. Sounds romantic right? This is when he pours his heart out and women think the world of him.
Women fall in love with his man when he lays it on thick. It’s hard to resist him. However; he begins to think about the ramifications of his actions and then he decides he needs time to think.
He’ll do this by taking the time and not letting the woman know what his mental state is and what is going on. He’ll just stop talking, will be less attentive or affectionate, or will stop talking for a while.
Some Taurus men disappear altogether until he figures himself out, what he wants, and that the woman he let go of was probably really good for him. This is when he’ll re-emerge and be all hot and heavy again.
The bottom line here is that Taurus man should never jump into a relationship quickly. He shouldn’t but sometimes he does. If you’re the target of his affection; you may need to put the brakes on yourself.
Just be careful because if you hold him off too much; he may decide that you don’t really want him anymore and will disappear thus moving on. Just ask him to go a little slower so you can really get to know each other.
Beware of the Taurus Man That Instantly Wants Marriage
If you already read what I wrote above; you’ll understand what I mean by this statement. No Taurus man should be telling you after a very short time that he wants you to be his wife.
Taurus men need a great deal of time to make sure they have their own head together and have their ducks in a row. If he tells a woman how much he loves her and wants to marry her before he should; he will definitely shut himself down.
He begins to realize that he’s moved way too fast and that he isn’t totally sure if this woman is the right one or if he’s even really ready to open his heart to someone let alone make a commitment.
Taurus men can sometimes let their fantasies and dreamy side take over. They want the happiness they know they deserve so sometimes it’s hard for them to resist when they meet a terrific lady who has lots to offer him.
If you find that you’ve met a Taurus man who in a very short time is telling you he wants to marry you, wants to have kids with you, etc; please be very careful. Ask him to move a little slower.
Even if your heart wants to leap and do what he’s suggesting; realize that he’s probably not thinking clearly and if you jump in quick with him; you may end up getting hurt when he realizes that he needs to put the brakes on.
Maybe if you can get him to take things slower; you can really solidify the connection you have and you can actually eventually get married. It typically works out better when the two people can really get to know each other.
When He Knows it’s Not Going to Work
Taurus man isn’t the best at breaking things off. He may know or plan months ahead before he actually will say something about being unhappy and wanting to part ways.
He doesn’t want to hurt anyone and feels like he may be a bad person if he is the one to call it quits. He’ll go out of his way to seem a bit like a jerk so that the person he’s with will decide to break up with him instead.
One of the ways he’ll do this is by ghosting his partner. He’ll pull back, stop calling, stop or slow down on responses via text, he’ll keep going out without asking his partner to go, and he’ll basically live his life like he’s single.
If you find that he’s beginning to do this sort of thing to you, you really should confront him head on and ask him “how do you feel about our relationship and where do you see it going?” He will feel compelled to tell you.
It’s possible he won’t know what to say as he cannot believe you realize what is going on. If he’s speechless then tell him how you feel, what you’ve observed and you’d like clarity on where things are headed.
He will have to answer you. It may not be what you want to hear but at least you’ll know the truth of the situation. I do need you to be aware in all of this that Taurus men absolutely suck at communication.
There are times where they get very comfortable with someone and figure they don’t need to do much chasing so they stop. They get a little too relaxed.
He will neglect to answer right away, he will figure if you want to go out; you’ll let him know, etc. Again, simply talk to him and tell him what you feel and he should try to fix things unless he thinks it’s not working for him.
I hope this helps you better understand why a Taurus man can blow hot and cold as well as what you can possibly do when he does. Always stick with what your gut tells you!
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I’ve been on four dates with my Taurus in a time span on 3 months.. There was a week that he completely disappeared and then later reappeared & apologized & told me that something very bad had happened and that was the cause behind it… I forgave him, didn’t even comment about his absence.. We went on date 3 & he planned it out, it was sweet.. We spoke and then he disappeared for like 3 days.. Date 4 came along and I think he was drunk but he asked me out and said that he wanted to see me and was in need of good company.. He picked me up at like 11 at night, we went to his favorite spot & then in his truck things got hot and heavy but no sex.. He took me back to his house and I was fully expecting sex but instead he tells me he doesn’t want to rush things cz he likes me & I ended up staying the night, brought me home at 7am.. That was a month ago.. I asked him out and he couldn’t go because he had his daughter (understandable) then the following week he was sick for two days (I didn’t ask him out that week) and then the following week he disappeared for 8 days.. Reappeared as if nothing had happened.. We planned to go to a game together a few weeks ago but it isn’t until the 19th.. I asked him yesterday if he had his daughter this weekend and he said yes.. didnt ask why, didn’t offer to look for a sitter.. nothing.. It drives me crazy because he’ll play games on the phone against me and chit chat with me until eleven at night, sometimes three in the morning but he hasn’t asked to see me and when I asked it was no.. He’s flirty… I don’t get him.. Do I give him more time? Do I move on? It’s been a month since I’ve seen him and if he does really go to this game with me it won’t be for another three weeks.. That’s a long time.. I’m ready to throw in the towel.. I don’t want to though 🙁
O jeez. Thats a pretty mixed up stuff
Been seeing, hanging out with this guy for a year now, here and there. Things are great. We get along well and have a lot in common. Everything has been slow and steady and laid back. However, back in October he asked me out of the blue ‘do you love me?’ I was completely flustered that I couldn’t answer.
Instead I replied with all the things I love about him. Then recently in January he asked again and I replied ‘i adore you’ and this last year I have grown to love you’ (meaning love you as a friend) anyways things were great when I last saw him in January and then I text him a few days ago and ask to see him and hang out and he replies, ‘what do you have in mind?’ I said, ‘that’s a loaded question, if I say anymore I believe I’ll faint for I simply wish to see you’ and he responds, ‘I need details. No bs. Otherwise not interested. ‘ So i give details , I become quite vulnerable in my response to him but it’s not what he wants to hear. He doesn’t want sex. He doesn’t want to go out bcuz it’s late around midnight or later. He wants details on what I want to do. No bs as he continues to say. I am so confused Idk wth is happening or what details he is seeking. I dont. Help me!! I really like the guy and everything was fine last time we hooked up I just don’t know where this side of him came from. Demanding details and no playing games. I am NOT playing games nor have I ever with him. So what is he seeking that I am missing.
Would like my name/email to remain private plz. Not be posted. Thank you!
He wants you to open up to the point of vulnerability. He wants you to trust him. So the question is can you with him? Does he do the same? Do you require that of him?
I met a Taurus guy recently, he divorced but 44 years old, he saw me and became attracted to me ,I’m a Gemini lady, I had spent some time with him and it was great,though I was vulnerable as at when we met , he was visiting me often and we had sex and it was great one,I could not stop myself from having sex with him, but there are some…committed words he speaks that made me feel he loves me,he uses song to pass messages to me but after that night we had sex ,he’s not coming like before but he still calls me like 4 times in a days and speaks as if nothing has gone wrong..
I’m confuse and unfortunately I have fallen in love already…what do I do? Do I forget him or I should call him and ask what the problem is? Please reply me
Hi Jennifer! Thank you for writing in regarding your Taurus guy. What you probably will struggle with is having great patience with the process. Taurus men get excited about someone and may dive in but they will not commit and give their heart away to a total commitment until they’re sure of what they’re doing. If they move too fast, they may regret it and go backward. When they’re unsure where things are headed or what they feel, the go back and forth with feelings. Yours sounds like he’s trying to establish a level of comfortability which could include balance via having some space in between. You might want to check out my book “Taurus Man Secrets” as I believe it would greatly help you further.
So l have been seeing this Taurus guy for 5 months and he is everything..He says he doesn’t want a relationship but he includes me in his plans trips etc he says he just wants a fwb but these 5 months he has been acting like we could be more..l finally had the courage to tell him how l felt and he rejected me but we still decided to carry on what were doing..I’m so confused l DONT know if l should stay friends with him and keep being patient or just leave him alone..Now he has not texted me or won’t respond to my texts after we had fun together l dont know if l did something wrong or if he is with someone else or what… I’m hoping that everything is OK but lts killing me to have the urge to text him first etc…What’s going on
I have been seeing a Taurus man long distance for a few months. The last time I saw him, he was in town for work and we had plans to hang out. I saw him for an hour and he blew me off when we were supposed to hang out later that night. The rest of the week he was too busy with work to even text to say he couldn’t meet up.
I of course did not respond well which was out of character for me as I did not know I was having a side effect of a new medicine. I did apologize when I realized it like a week or so later that he did not deserve how I reacted that I was hurt that he could have at least told me he could not meet instead of just forgetting I even existed. He understood and said it was not a big deal and asked how I was feeling. We talked for a while and said I would talk to him the next day. I haven’t heard from him in two weeks. Should I contact him? Is it too late or is it over?
I have been dating a Taurus man for 4 months and it has been nothing but a HUGE roller coaster ride. He is one of the biggest game-players I have ever met in my life. I have caught in numerous lies concerning women. In fact, he was still talking to a lot of his women in the past. This has been a living nightmare. If you are with a Taurus man run like hell!!!!!!!!!
Hi Gina!
Oh my! I’m sorry you had a bad egg. Not all Taurus men are like this though. It sounds like your guy was probably very unsure of himself and so he played around while he was confused instead of trying to fix himself and get on top of things in order to have a long lasting relationship. Immaturity can cause problems as well. Just don’t write the sign off due to one guy that didn’t act accordingly. You can do better and I wish you the best!
Hi Anna,
Is there any way to private message you?
I have all the online books about taurus man but I still have a few big questions.
If possible please email me and I can reply then.
I sooo dont know whats going on with him.
Thank you
Hi Lizzie!
I’m afraid I do not have a way to private message me. If you have all the books then that means you have access to your one free VIP consultation. Please reach out to my support team and let them know so that they can send you to me. Their email is support@annakovach.com I look forward to talking to you more sweetheart. Taurus men are not easy to read sometimes and I totally get why ladies need so much support while dating one.
Taurus man online dating. Whats the deal? We exchanged beautiful passionately written (not sexual) messages for 6 weeks, so much in common too, then he withdraws… no more kisses, much more subdued. He originally wanted to meet me, said he wished I was with him. Now I see him online (must be talking to others now). I’ve tried to be cool and wait, but its driving me nuts. He does to respond to messages but its not the same. We haven’t met, but I really like him. Is he just trying to get rid of me now? I wish I knew what was going on. Id rather just know, than hang about like this. Torture.
Hi Lola!
It’s a tough call when it comes to online and Taurus. They don’t take it too entirely seriously until they’ve met the person and spent some time with them. They can flirt and they can day dream just like anyone else but they are not committed to anything until they can be face to face with someone. That being said, he’s not committed to you and is why he’s acting this way. He was probably excited in the beginning but now is realizing it may not be realistic to his life or he may be interested in someone else that you don’t know about. Either way you’re not going to find out unless you just point blankly ask him what he feels and if he wants to have some kind of future with him. He should tell you the truth and if he skirts around it then you probably should just move on. Take control and don’t wait to get answers. Do what you have to do to make yourself happy honey.
I’ve been with my Taurus man for 9 months. It took 5 months for us to become intimate. And 6 months to make it official. All on his terms. (I’m a cancer woman)
I read Anna’s tips on how to catch, handle a Taurus man, as I didn’t want to make the same mistake like I have in past relationships. I followed each step carefully. And I got the man!!!
But now…. I’m confused. Out of the blue, he said he wasn’t sure of the relationship. That something was missing. But then said I’m everything he wanted and needed? (I did moan at him for feeling like a buddy with benefits) he gave me 3 weekends of his time. I made his social media!! BIG THING FOR A TAURUS MAN!
This all kind of came from when I had plans to see him, I rang him and said I would be late, as I had a fight with my family. He invited me round to his house. Told me everything was okay and I can always rely on him and I could turn up at 4am if I needed too. He’s there for me. Etc. And then a couple of days later. I got the text of ‘something is missing, can’t quite put my finger on it’ I then rang him and asked him if he’s okay? And where has this came from? he said he didn’t want us to end as he didn’t want it to be the biggest mistake of his life walking away from me. So I asked him what he needed from me. He said just some time and space.
I gave him just that, only replying to text messages when he messaged me. He then messaged me and said ‘I NEED to see you’
I let him come round. It was ‘normal’ then he opened up to me. I didn’t push him. He said he feels he needs to find balance with life and relationship. I said that’s fine. You can have a social life, I’m busy next couple of weeks also! But promise to talk to me and don’t venture too far. I reassured him that I’ll be here. I’m not going anywhere.
He left and it was okay….. he messaged to say thank you. He loves me and feels better about the future.
I told him to go find his sparkle and whatever I can do on my part I will do. I’ve gave him space and again only messaging him when he texts me. (I promised him space) texts have been passed back and forth, but not nearly as much as before. Over the weekend, he asked what I was doing. So I sent a picture! And he couldn’t believe what I was doing! And how I didn’t tell him! He said YOU NEVER TELL ME ANYTHING. I played it down and said I honesty thought I told you. I’m sorry. He said he don’t want to know the ins and outs but it would be nice to know what MY MRS is doing at the weekend…. I said I understand and can see his point that I could be more open. (I’m a cancer, I don’t like to over share or bore him and plus he asked for space!!) and I never know what he’s doing!!
we had a laugh and a joke about it in the end. And then the texts died down. As he was out. Again I have always respected him when he’s out not to text him unless he texts me. I even tell him to put his phone down and enjoy his time with his mates….. I felt he criticised me as he called me hopeless (at telling him things)
I’ve not text him today. As I don’t want to fall back on the promise of space.
I feel the distance. How’s he’s being hot and cold. Am I doing something wrong here? Am I missing something here? Like do I give him space? Or is he secretly reaching out I don’t know…. I’ve downloaded Anna’s new book. Secrets of a Taurus 2020. I’ve read it soo many times and it’s making sense slowly.
But then I read other articles and it’s like it’s his way of ending the relationship?? Even though in the heart to heart we had, I told him as much as I love him and want him, if it’s not what he wants, that’s okay. He can tell me. But he’s the one who said “I never said I was finishing with you, I’m not here to break your heart, I’m here to make your heart” I am so confused. Can anyone shed a little light This? Is it his way of ending things? Has he got scared?
Hi Ellie!
It sounds to me like he’s confused and so he’s trying to distance himself until he can figure out what it is he wants and if that means being with you. Communication or lack thereof can definitely hinder a possible relationship so if or when he talks to you again, you should be very clear with him as far as what you want and what you feel. Don’t let him blow you off. If he does then he doesn’t deserve you and you can find better. If he’s telling you he wants to still make a go of it though, give him the time and patience he’s asking of you. He is trying to get himself in order to feel good enough for you. Don’t be scared. Don’t give it any energy. Simply focus on yourself and wait a week or two then try reaching out in a casual way. That should open the door back up but if it doesn’t, you may want to think about what you really want and if you want to continue. You have to decide. I have faith in you!
I have been with my Taurus man for a couple weeks now. We met online and he reached out to me first. We spent 7 hours on the phone one night and then the next day he came to see me. He was very sweet, opened my door for me and walked me to my door in the rain that night. He came down a couple days later for the afternoon and then a few days later he came to my house where I cooked him his favorite meal. We were sitting on the couch after supper and he said I love you. I looked at him in disbelief and asked him if he was serious. He froze and I could tell that it had slipped but he said that he meant it, he just didn’t want to say it that quickly. We went and ran a couple errands that night before he went home and he told me he would see me the next day. I sent him a message that night before I went to bed saying that it meant a lot to me that he was so vulnerable about his feelings and that he told me he loved me but that I was ok with taking it slow since we both have had some very bad luck in relationships. He text me the next morning saying “Awww. Thank you for the message. Means a lot to me” I told him I meant every word and he said “Thank you.” He text me a little bit more that day but as soon as I asked him what time he was coming over he went silent. The next day I called him twice and text him twice. My last text message said “If you’re done please than just say that you’re done. We talked about this the other night and I don’t deserve the silent treatment. If you’re busy I get it, but being ghosted hurts.” He responded within an hour and said “I’ve just been busy hun. Sorry.” I asked him if he would call me and he said “In a bit ya hun.” He never called and I haven’t heard from him since. I also haven’t tried texting him or calling him since that night (Friday) and it is Monday today. Is he done with me or is he just taking time to figure out what he wants? I am so confused. When we first started talking he said he would never ghost me but I feel like that is what is happening. Please help!!
Hi Lindsey!
Alright first of all, Taurus men suck with texting and calling. They prefer old fashioned face to face. That being said, they get busy and they tend to blow off things that aren’t too important to them. If he feel comfortable with you and feels you’re his then he’s not worried about trying to impress you by keeping up with such things anymore. That’s lazy on his part but that’s how they operate. Go ahead and reach out to him. My guess is he WILL respond to you. He will probably explain what has been going on as well. Give it a shot. If you need more help, check out my book “Taurus Man Secrets”.
Dating a Taurus man with Moon in Aries, Ascendant in Aquarius and Venus in Cancer. We’ve been dating for almost 7 weeks now – I’m a Capricorn btw – and things are great. But… he’s got family issues (his mom cheated on his date and an ex-girlfriend cheated on him) and thus deep seated commitment issues. He says I’m every man’s dream woman, but that he wants to be able to date other women still. As a Capricorn, I already know that I want to be exclusive. I feel good with him and want to give it a proper chance without distractions. But he’s saying that he wants to be able to date other women – despite the fact that for the past 7 weeks, he hasn’t done so. He hasn’t sought anyone out, but women do come to him on social media and he’s keen on going on a date with one of them. Is he testing me? Does he really want to “double check” I’m the right woman for him?
Things are very hot & heavy, but also emotionally we’ve had some very intense moments where we’ve both laid out fears and struggles. He has a bit of toxic masculinity too, so when he told me about his mom cheating on his dad when he was a kid, he was crying and also let me know he’d never said that to anyone before. So despite him having commitment issues and wanting to date others, he’s telling me deeply personal stuff that he’s not felt comfortable sharing with anyone else ever before. Is he scared of that connection? Especially bc the connection is only 7 weeks old?
Help!
Hi Lotte!
With his Venus being in Cancer, that means he’s most compatible with a Cancer woman or another water sign (Pisces or Scorpio). It also counts as far as what his 4th and 7th houses are in his chart to determine his full compatibility. He’s a slow mover since he’s Aries with Aquarius rising. He’s guarded and careful. Yes, he may very well be testing you honey. Be patient and give him a bit more time and things will unfold. It might be lucrative for you to find out what your Mars is as that will tell you who is best for you. If you need more information about Taurus man, please check out my book “Taurus Man Secrets”.
Hi. I’m a Leo with a Taurus moon and rising in Leo. I have a baby by a Taurus man. He has a Virgo moon and rising in Gemini. He always does the hot and cold thing. Lately I stopped contacting him bout our daughter I told him in a text I was going to stop. Well every time I talk to him he got something smart to say to me like our daughter is stubborn like me she’s dramatic like me she looks like me every thing is bout me. Well I called him one day saying his daughter wants to talk to him he talk with her. He talks my ear off on the phone but not on video chat if he does that with our daughter. He gives me vibes he’s trying to push me away and not deal with me period for the sake of her. We hooked up a year ago but he’s been distant since the last time I saw him. What do you think is up with his behavior?
Hi Kiyana!
You’ve got to trust your vibes sweetheart. If he isn’t willing to video chat with you or make visits then he’s only talking to you because of the child you have together. I think you should confront him about it and ask him what is going on with the two of you. Ask him if he still wants to be with you and if so, you two need to work together to make that happen. Get your answers instead of driving yourself nuts contemplating. If you need more help, check out my book Taurus Man Secrets.
After 18 months, these Taurus men don’t get any easier!
Just saying ladies…..
We spent 2 months apart. (He ended it) due to the pandemic. It was just too much for us. Arguing over silly things…. it was for the best. They do it in the most nicest way though. Any ways…..
He would keep in touch with me every now and again sending me a casual message. And then one day out of the blue, he asked to meet me (when lockdown restrictions was lifted) absolutely I accepted this!!
And boy was I glad I did!! We got back together, he changed his ways. Giving me more of his time. Spent pretty much every weekend together. We went away for the weekends. Had some really nice date nights. What more could a girl want. Celebrated our first anniversary. You know, the perfect love story.
And then one day (yesterday) out of the blue….. he said “I think we should just cut ties now” I was a bit shocked. I could only reply with “okay” he then went on to message me, saying I hope you find your Prince, you deserve it. Thanked me for the past 18 months….. I asked what I did wrong, he said “nothing, I just don’t want a relationship right now, I wanna do me”
I said okay, I respect your decision….. I mean what do you reply to that?
In my eyes it was okay. Actually no it was perfect!! Despite the little odd arguments…..
Now let me rewind – during our time before the first break, he was constantly liking another girls pictures. It was then known that he was out with her when he got back together with me. I asked him about it. He said he only had a drink (same circle of friends) he then went onto block and delete her off his social media! (That’s when you know you’ve won your Taurus’ heart! He went out of his way…… but then he started doing what he does best ‘texts slowed down, less time spent together’
I asked him, and he said he was busy with work. I said that’s fine, but sometimes communication is key. Rather than ignoring me. I’d much prefer you to say. He accepted that.
Didn’t see him for two weeks, then I asked if I could make him a meal. He said yes….. he invited me round, I cooked. He asked me stay over. I stayed. It was like it was back on track.
We went out that weekend on the Sunday for lunch. Text the following day. Literally had no idea…. had a couple of days of no texting (which I’ve learnt if he doesn’t want to talk, he wont and you leave him alone) but then I reached out and asked if everyone was okay…. he messaged to say “sorry babe, I’ve been really poorly, hope you’re okay” I thought I’d leave him a few hours if he was poorly and then out of the blue….
I got that text…..
Managed to get through today…… with about 3 meltdowns…..
What is your advice? What do I do now? I’m really confused!!!!
Hi Ellie!
It sounds like he’s going through some heavy stuff and hasn’t talked to you fully about it yet or has played it down. Doing poorly indicates he’s starting to fold under the pressure and may be a bit depressed or ill from anxiety. I hate to say it but he may not come out of this until things start to change with his environment and that would mean he would keep pushing you back until he gets to a better point in his life. He is putting his relationship with you on the back burner until he can handle everything. So either you give him that time and be patient or you decide to stop worrying about love and focus on yourself for a while. Then maybe he’ll come back around with some news for you! If you want to learn more about Taurus man, check out my book “Taurus Man Secrets”.
I started dating a May 2nd Taurus man a few weeks ago. We hit it off instantly, have everything in common, and fit each other like puzzle pieces. We went on two incredible dates. By the second week he already loved me and told me so. I had fallen for him as well, and life was bliss between us. But yesterday afternoon he sent me a message saying he doesn’t think he’s ready to commit. He just got out of a three year relationship with an abusive scorpio woman, and he’s not sure he’s over it yet. He promised me that I did nothing wrong and that he just needs time to figure things out. I was really really hurt, but I told him that I would wait for him and give him the space he needs. He thanked me for this. Knowing the nature of the Taurus man, I’m fairly confident he’ll be back. But something inside is telling me it may be over. What should I do?
Hi Sarah!
Well given that he was brutally honest, it tells you that he does very much care for you but he jumped the gun by telling you he loved you and getting involved in two weeks. He knows darned well he needs to clear himself out and let the baggage go before he should move on but you excited him because you’re probably someone who could very much be right for him. He doesn’t want to mess it up so he wants to slow back down. I think he probably will be back unless he floats off onto another women but I don’t think he would given his situation.
Hry. Guys im a cancer women i just recently dated a tarus we stayed togather had no argument he used to run my bath water cook for me everything but on Christmas of 2020 we had a disagreement because he was filling like i didn’t care about him but he never did say we had broken up.he said he think we should be friend yes sometimes i text him but he tskes a while to text back yesterday he was textin me calling me his baby. So idk what to say this morin he texte and said good morin and he asked me was i feeling ok i told him kinda i miss that man so much how do i get him back im useless without him
Hi Brianna!
Take it very slow and try to go with the flow. Try to compliment him more. He’s fishing for it so give it to him as best as you can. If he’s still calling you his baby then he isn’t done with you. He wouldn’t do that if he was done. He’d stone wall you and you wouldn’t hear from him. It’s totally alright to tell him that you miss the way things used to be because he made you feel so fantastic. Communication is what can save you two. Give it a try!
I’ve been dating this Taurus guy since last year and it’s long distance. He made it official last year May and came to see me December. Stayed in his home. Met his family and spent quality time together, he even at some occasions calling me his wife. He was married and was thinking of getting married again but getting it right this time. When he traveled back he was all over me. Talked about getting married in March and I sensed he was a bit scared so I told him to relax, he shouldn’t feel compelled. We will get there and we would know when. He kept telling me he needed to reset that I had me all over his thoughts. He had some serious bills to settle and then started saying he was busy and the texting and calls reduced. I complained and he said sorry he was just busy and all. He calls and kept calling me his sweetheart and talked about how I would come over and all our plans and then the communication was getting slower and slower. He has stopped using personal terms with me, hasn’t called in 9 days and I don’t know if it’s stress or has issues in his job but he isn’t sharing and hardly gives opportunity for long chats anymore. He replies late sometimes and even normal goodnights now he doesn’t respond. He does business on Facebook and I see him online a lot there but hardly is he online on WhatsApp these days. I don’t know if he needs space but I decided to give it to him since I don’t want to be overbearing but I have little project I and doing for him he responds when I give him answers. Should I just give him space to come round? Could he be stressed because usually he would open up if I push but now it’s obvious he doesn’t want to be reached so much. He even said maybe we should get married before I come over and said he would be back March, asked what I wanted him to get me and then the weirdness started. I’ve read your book but I am probably in too bad a state to even understand much. Kindly advice pls. Anonymous please
Hi Nicole!
First thing you need to do is ask this guy if he still wants to be with you. If he asks why you are asking that then explain to him what you just told me. Tell him you’ve noticed him backing off or not reaching out like he was before. He may be having issues going on in his life and has put priority in those issues. Yes, he may be stressed or overwhelmed. You won’t know for sure though unless you ask him. Give it a try. Perhaps if you do ask, he’ll tell you exactly what is up or he will tell you sorry he didn’t realize he wasn’t the same. I wish you all the best!
I had a kind of friendship/relationship with a Taurus guy and he has moved to another state 4 years ago. We have been in touch on and off because of misunderstandings especially because of his lack of communication. When we stop talking it can go up to 9 months then we re-establish contact.
The latest scenario has been that we didn’t communicate since last October 2020, and 3 weeks ago I sent him an email saying: Hey, how are you? Just a little message to say I thought of you and that I miss us being in touch.
He replied after about an hour and said: Hey, how are you. My mom and sister are here visiting me. I will send you a pic. When are you coming to visit me in U.S.? I send you a big hug!
I didn’t reply to his email because I didn’t think there was anything for me to say. The question about going to visit him, to me they were just empty words. It’s been 3 weeks now, and no news, is the ball in his court now? since I initiated the contact. I feel very stressed and I don’t want to make another move, it should be up to him. However, he is very slow moving. I would appreciate your advice please.
Thanks.
Hi,
Further to my email above, I forgot to mention that I sent him the email with the hope that we would
re-establish contact. But I don’t want to keep on waiting, so I decided that if I don’t hear from him by the end of the month, I will send him a final closure email (but still a bit skeptical about sending another email).
In this situation, is sending a closure email a good idea? or I should not send anymore emails and leave it at that. Kindly advice please.
Hi Laura!
I’m confused here. You sent him a message that he replies to but then you didn’t respond to that but are no wondering why he hasn’t contacted you since? Honey… you should have answered him. You could have said something like “Aw how sweet, thank you, I’d love to see the pic and big hugs back to you too!” then the conversation would have continued. Always answer him or he’ll think you’re not really that into him band will continue to be silent. Message him right now!