Today, we are going to talk about a Taurus man psychology after a breakup. As some of you would know, my lovely husband Frank, is a Taurus man. And when it comes to the world of dating, the Taurus man is a special breed.
Some of their characteristics are being loyal, reliable, and steadfast. And this can definitely influence how they behave after a breakup. You see, Taurus men are known for their stubbornness and their tendency to hold onto things, even when it’s not healthy for them.
So, when a Taurus man goes through a breakup, it can be a bit of a rollercoaster ride. Breakups are usually difficult for them, as they struggle to let go of the relationship and move on.
Immediately after the breakup, a Taurus man may try to cling to the relationship, hoping to work things out. They’ll likely be in denial, refusing to accept that the relationship is over. It is so tough for them!
Are you dealing with a breakup with a Taurus man? And curious about how he’s coping? Well, you have come to the right place. Let us explore what you can expect from a Taurus man after a breakup.
Before we go further, I want you to know that you are far from alone in this. In my years as a relationship astrologer I have worked with thousands of women loving a Taurus man, and in my survey of over 5,600 of them, roughly 7% told me the man they were writing to me about was already an ex. That is close to 400 women who were still hoping, still checking their phone, still trying to work out what was going on inside a man who had gone quiet. If that is where you are tonight, you are in very good company.
What makes this sign so hard to read after a breakup is that his silence is not absence. A Venus-ruled man feels everything through his body and his routines, and when the routine of you is suddenly gone, he goes very still rather than very loud. Stillness reads like indifference. It almost never is.
If you already know you want him back and you are searching for the right words to reopen the door, my Taurus Magic Phrases guide has the exact phrases that reach a Taurus man’s Venus-ruled heart without pressuring him into a corner.
Taurus Man After A Breakup — How Do Taurus Men Deal With Breakups?
You might be wondering how do Taurus men deal with breakups? Well, as I have mentioned, it is not an easy process for these loyal lovers.
Firstly, a Taurus man may go through an extended period of sadness and grief after a breakup. They tend to take breakups quite personally and feel like they have failed in some way. It can put him through a big heartbreak.
He may resist the idea to move on, believing that he can fix what has been broken. Taurus men are often reluctant to let go and may try to reconcile with their ex, even if the relationship was unhealthy.
He may become depressed, withdrawn, and even lash out in anger. He may experience a range of intense emotions, from anger to sadness to confusion. But the number one thing you can expect from a Taurus man after a breakup is stubbornness.
Being stubborn gives him a feeling of control when he feels totally out of control. Taurus men have a tendency to cling to the past and resist change, so a breakup can be especially challenging for him.
This stubbornness can manifest in different ways. For some Taurus men, it may mean refusing to accept the breakup and continuing to try to win their ex back. Some may try to stay friends with their ex, even if it’s not healthy for them.
Most crucially, one of the biggest challenges for Taurus men after a breakup is learning to let go. Taurus men often feel like they have to prove that they are “okay” after a breakup, and may struggle to show vulnerability or admit that they are hurting.
Read also: How Does A Taurus Man Act When He Is Hurt?
Breaking Up With The Taurus Man — What Happens When You Break Up With A Taurus Man?
When a Taurus man is the one being broken up with, it can be an even more difficult and painful experience for him. As I mentioned, Taurus men are extremely loyal and they take their relationships very seriously.
So, when a Taurus man is on the receiving end of a breakup, he may feel completely blindsided and betrayed. He may have a hard time understanding why the relationship ended, and may even try to convince his ex to give him another chance.
What I’ve seen in my own experience with Frank is that a Taurus man may react with intense anger and lash out at his ex. He may try to make his ex feel guilty or try to convince them that they are making a mistake.
This may come as a shock because they are usually so peaceful and easygoing. Alternatively, a Taurus man may retreat into himself and become withdrawn and depressed. He may isolate himself and struggle to open up to others.
He will probably feel incredibly hurt and confused. A Taurus man is someone who believes that relationships are built to last, so the idea of a relationship ending can be devastating for him.
The key thing to remember is that a Taurus man may take longer to get over a breakup than other signs. He may even try to reconcile with his ex long after the relationship has ended.
So, if you’re considering breaking up with a Taurus man, be prepared for a difficult and emotional process. He won’t make it easy for you.
The Silent Grieving Stage Every Taurus Man Goes Through (And How Long It Really Lasts)
Every sign grieves on its own clock, and a Taurus man grieves on the slowest clock in the zodiac. This is the part almost nobody warns you about, because from the outside those first weeks look like nothing is happening at all.
Here is what is actually going on. For the first two to three weeks he is not processing the breakup, he is absorbing the shock of it. Taurus is a fixed earth sign, which means his nervous system treats a change in circumstance the way a tree treats a change in season. It registers, slowly, from the roots up. He will still go to work. He will still cook the same dinner. He will still watch the same shows. And underneath all of it, almost nothing has been felt yet.
Weeks three through eight are when it reaches him, and this is usually the period when women hear from a Taurus ex out of nowhere. A song, a smell, the empty side of the bed, and the whole thing arrives at once. Venus does not let him grieve in the abstract. He grieves in objects, in places, in the physical shape your absence has left in his day.
After that it becomes a much longer, quieter process that can run for months. Where a fire sign burns through heartbreak in a matter of weeks, a Taurus man can carry an ex in the back of his mind for a year or more without ever mentioning her name to a single person. This is not weakness. It is the same loyalty that made him such a steady partner, pointed at something that is no longer there.
So if it has been ten days and he seems completely fine, do not read that as your answer. You are watching a man who has not caught up to his own life yet.
Taurus Man Broke Up With Me — What To Expect From A Taurus Man After He Breaks Up?
If a Taurus man has broken up with you, it can definitely come as a surprise as these guys tend to hold on to things and relationships for dear life. Something must have been seriously wrong for a Taurus man to end things.
You can expect him to go through a period of intense grief and sadness. He may be disappointed in himself for not being able to make the relationship work. Taurus men may feel like a failure and struggle to accept the fact that the relationship is over.
On the other hand, a Taurus man who is the initiator of the breakup may also try to convince you to take him back. There is a very good change that he will instantly feel regret and try to undo the breakup.
Taurus men tend to stay in relationships they know aren’t good for them because being in a relationship is better than not being in any at all.
Ultimately, a Taurus man who has broken up with you may give mixed signals. It’ll seem like he is a bit indecisive. However, if his stubborn streak does kick in, he may completely shut you out of his life and refuse to communicate at all.
Why Your Taurus Man Acts Perfectly Fine While He Is Falling Apart Inside
This is the question I get more than any other from women in your position. He posted a photo with friends. He looks rested. He replied to a mutual friend within minutes but has not answered you in nine days. How can he be fine when you are not?
He is not fine. He is composed, and with a Taurus man those two things look identical from the outside.
Taurus rules the second house of security and self-worth, and a Taurus man’s sense of who he is gets braided together with his ability to hold steady. Being the calm one is not a mood for him, it is an identity. When that identity is threatened, he does not stop feeling. He doubles down on looking like a man who has it handled, because falling apart in public would cost him the one thing the breakup has not already taken.
There is also a Venus dimension to this that is easy to miss. Venus governs value, and a breakup tells a Taurus man that he was valued and then unvalued. That is a specific injury for this sign, and his instinct is to prove his worth by demonstrating that he does not need reassurance from anyone. The stronger the performance of being fine, the deeper the wound usually goes.
In my survey of over 5,600 women involved with Taurus men, 64% said they felt a definite connection with him, while nearly a quarter said the connection was fading with no explanation ever offered. That gap is this exact pattern. The feeling did not leave. His willingness to show you the feeling did.
What this means practically is that his composure is not evidence. Do not use it to decide whether he still cares, because it was never designed to tell you the truth. It was designed to protect him.
Will A Taurus Man Come Back After A Breakup?
This is a common question that many people have when it comes to Taurus men. Given the Taurus man’s tendency to hold onto relationships, there is a good chance that a Taurus man will try to come back after a breakup.
The Taurus man’s desire for stability and comfort in relationships means that he is often reluctant to let go, even when a relationship is unhealthy. He will hold on and on and on, believing that things will change or get better.
So, if a Taurus man has broken up with you, there’s a good chance he’ll come back, especially if some time has passed and he’s had a chance to cool off.
However, I have also seen that when a Taurus man is completely over a woman or a relationship, he will never look back. If that’s the case, you may never hear from him again.
Once he has made up his mind it is usually final! So, if you’re hoping for a Taurus man to come back after a breakup, it really depends on the specific situation and how the breakup occurred.
If he is still sticking around and trying to be your friend then chances are very good that he wants you back in some capacity. But if he has completely cut off contact, it may be a lost cause.
What You Should Never Do In The First Two Weeks After A Taurus Man Breakup
The first fortnight decides more than most women realize, and almost every irreversible mistake I see gets made inside it. Not because the woman did anything wrong, but because the instinct to reach for him is completely human and completely counterproductive with this particular sign.
Never demand a conversation about what went wrong. A Taurus man has not processed it yet, remember, so what you are asking him for does not exist inside him at that point. Pressed for an explanation he does not have, he will invent a firmer one than he actually believes, and then his fixed nature will make him defend that invented position for months. You will have forced him to build a wall out of a feeling he had not even finished having.
Never apologize repeatedly. One clean apology reaches him. The second one starts to sound like anxiety, and the third teaches him that your calm depends on his response, which makes him retreat further to protect you both from a dynamic he does not want.
Never involve his family or his friends. He keeps his worlds separate on purpose, and my survey data shows just how seriously he takes that boundary. 40% of women dating a Taurus man had never met a single person in his life. Reaching into that circle after a breakup reads to him as a breach of the perimeter, and it is very difficult to come back from.
And never issue an ultimatum in this window. A Taurus man will accept an ultimatum rather than be seen to fold under one, even when accepting it costs him the thing he wants most. His stubbornness is not a bluff you can call. It is the load-bearing wall of his personality.
What should you do instead? Almost nothing, and I know how impossible that sounds. Give him the silence to catch up to his own heart. The reaching-out that works with a Taurus man is the kind that happens at week five, not week one.
Taurus Man Wants To Be Friends After Break Up — Does It Work?
One of the most common things a Taurus man may do after a breakup is try to stay friends with his ex. He may genuinely believe that he can maintain a friendship, even if the romantic relationship didn’t work out.
However, this is usually not a good idea for a Taurus man. Taurus men have a very difficult time separating romantic feelings from platonic ones. If he is trying to be friends with you still, chances are very very good that he still has strong feelings for you.
This may be a tactic of him trying to get you back into his life, even if it’s not in a romantic capacity. This is when his manipulative side might come out. But the truth is, he is just really struggling and wants to try and control the situation in any way possible.
It’s usually best for a Taurus man to take a clean break and have some space and distance after a breakup, rather than trying to maintain a friendship. He might not realise this, but if you really care about him it might be a good idea to implement some space between the two of you.
This will allow him the time and room he needs to properly heal and move on. So, if a Taurus man wants to be friends after a breakup, I’d caution you to be very careful. You may end up getting your own hopes up or being taken advantage of emotionally.
It is important that the two of you do what feels most healthy and right for you, even if that means taking a complete break from one another. It is hard, but it may be what you both need.
Read next: How To Get A Taurus Man Back (5 Ways That ALWAYS Work)
If Your Taurus Man Is Doing These 3 Things, He Has Already Decided To Come Back
A Taurus man makes his decision long before he announces it. In fact he will often have made up his mind weeks before he says a single word to you about it, because saying it out loud is the very last step for him, not the first. Which means the signals arrive early if you know where to look.
The first is that he keeps something of yours. Not sentimentally, not visibly, just quietly. The mug stays in the cupboard. Your things stay in the drawer. He does not return the jacket. For a sign that experiences love through physical objects, refusing to release your belongings is him refusing to release the relationship, and he will usually do it without ever consciously deciding to.
The second is that he keeps the routine intact. He still walks the same route past your street. He still shops on the same evening you used to shop together. He has not moved a single piece of furniture. A Taurus man who has truly finished with a relationship rearranges his physical world, because that is how he closes a chapter. If his life still has the shape of you in it, the chapter is open.
The third is the low-stakes contact. A photo of something he knows you would find funny. A question with an obvious answer. A message about a bill or a delivery that could easily have gone unsent. This is a Taurus man testing the temperature of the water without committing his weight to it, and it is the single most reliable signal in the whole list. He is not being casual. He is being careful.
In my 90-day check-in survey of 880 women, the most common question, still, three months on, was some version of “is it worth continuing to wait, or am I wasting my time?” These three signals are how you answer that question with evidence instead of hope.
When you do see them, what you say next matters enormously, because a Taurus man who is leaning toward you can still be pushed back into his shell by one pressured sentence. If you want the word-for-word approach that works on his Venus-ruled heart, my Taurus Ex Back Bible walks you through the whole sequence step by step, drawn from years of my work with Taurus men.
FAQ On Taurus Men And Breakups…
You may have a couple more questions about how Taurus men behave after a breakup, so let me try to address some of the most common ones.
How To Make A Taurus Man Miss You After A Breakup?
If you’re hoping to get a Taurus man back after a breakup, one of the best things you can do is give him space and time. Taurus men tend to appreciate the space and the opportunity to miss you.
You can also focus on yourself, your own interests and goals. He is one of the guys that will likely feel the distance the most, so if you step back a little chances are very good that he will miss you.
Read also: Will Leaving A Taurus Man Alone Make Him Miss You?
There is a timing element here that makes all the difference. Missing you is not something a Taurus man can do while he is still absorbing the shock, so space given in week one does almost nothing. Space held through weeks three to six is when it works, because that is exactly when Venus starts delivering your absence to him in physical form.
One more thing worth knowing. A Taurus man misses routines more than he misses drama. He will not miss the arguments or the big emotional conversations. He will miss the ordinary Tuesday. So the version of you he comes back toward is the calm one, not the one fighting for his attention, which is a relief once you understand it.
How To Tell If A Taurus Man Wants To Break Up With You?
There may be some subtle signs that a Taurus man is considering ending the relationship, such as becoming more distant or less communicative. He may also start picking fights more often or withdrawing emotionally.
If a Taurus man is truly unhappy, he may even start making comments about the relationship not working or hinting that it’s time to go their separate ways. He will always be complaining, but the truth is, he is very unlikely to make the first move in the breakup.
He will try his best to avoid the conversation, so you may need to initiate the tough talk yourself if you suspect something is really wrong. It might be easier for him for you to be the bad guy who ends it.
Watch his hands and his generosity rather than his words here, because those tell the truth long before his mouth does. My survey found that 62% of women said their Taurus man always insisted on paying, and that when a Taurus man stops reaching for the bill, stops fixing the thing that broke, stops bringing the coffee, the withdrawal is already well underway. He will say everything is fine while his hands have already stopped.
How Long Does It Take A Taurus Man To Get Over A Breakup?
Longer than you have been told, and longer than he will ever admit. A realistic range for a relationship of a year or more is six months to two years before a Taurus man is truly, fully finished with it internally.
The reason is structural rather than emotional. Fixed signs do not release attachments, they outgrow them, and outgrowing takes time that cannot be compressed. He may date someone new at month four. He may look completely recovered by month six. Neither of those things means the attachment has dissolved, and a Taurus man can be perfectly sincere in a new relationship while an old one is still quietly resident somewhere behind it.
What this means for you is that the door stays open far longer with this sign than with almost any other. It also means that if you are waiting for him, you need to be honest with yourself about whether you are prepared to wait on his clock, because you will not be able to speed it up. Only he can, and he will not be hurried.
Do Taurus Men Regret Breaking Up?
Almost always, and usually sooner than they expect to. But the regret arrives in a very particular shape that women often miss.
A Taurus man rarely regrets the decision in an abstract, philosophical way. He regrets it in the moment his hand reaches for his phone before he remembers. He regrets it when the house is too quiet at seven in the evening. The regret is sensory, situational, and it ambushes him rather than sitting with him. This is why a Taurus ex can go from total silence to a long message at eleven at night with nothing in between. Something in his day reached him and the regret arrived whole.
Whether he acts on that regret is a separate question entirely, and it comes down to his pride. If the breakup involved his sense of worth being damaged, the regret may never make it out of his chest, because reaching out would mean admitting the loss and admitting the loss would mean sitting with having been unvalued. Some Taurus men would rather carry a regret for a decade than risk that particular conversation.
Will A Taurus Man Reach Out First After A Breakup?
He will, but on a delay that will test you, and rarely with the opening line you are hoping for.
A Taurus man almost never reaches out with the real thing first. He reaches out sideways. He will ask about a piece of post, or send you a link, or comment on something inconsequential, and he will do this specifically so that he can retreat with his dignity intact if you respond coldly. Reading that message as trivial and ignoring it is one of the most common and most costly misreads I see.
If the breakup was initiated by you, expect the first contact somewhere between weeks three and eight. If he ended it, it can take considerably longer, because he has the additional obstacle of his own decision to walk back, and a fixed sign walking back a decision is a slow and painful piece of engineering. In either case, when it comes, it will look smaller than it is. Treat it as the door it actually is.
I Would Love To Hear Your Story
Every breakup with a Taurus man has its own shape, and I know yours feels complicated right now. Tell me what is happening with your Taurus man in the comments below. Where are you in the timeline? What has he done since, and what has he stopped doing? Share your story and I will do my best to help you work out your next step. I read every single one.
He must feel THIS, if you want him to come BACK…
So you want your Taurus man back…
But you are struggling to convince him to give you another chance.
Or maybe you just have no idea how to reach out.
Well, if you’re tired of your Taurus man pulling away from you…
And you want to know how to make him want to come back and never leave again…
Here’s the secret.
In order for a Taurus man to come running back to you, he needs to feel two things:
The first one is REGRET for pulling away in the first place.
If you attack or punish him for pulling away, you’ll only make him want to pull away further.
Instead…
You want him to feel like coming back to you is more pleasurable than being away.
The second thing you want him to feel is that he MISSES you.
He can’t miss you if you smother him with calls and messages.
Apologizing, trying to see if he’s mad at you, seeing if he’s okay…
This only makes him feel like he needs more space.
But there’s a trick to getting your ex Taurus man back.
This will literally make him want you back…
And commit to you all over again.
Wishing you love and light,
Your friend and relationship astrologer,
Anna Kovach
P.S. Here’s a secret formula to get your Taurus ex back.
My Taurus man decided to break our relationship off.. we where together for 2yrs.. we worked together and we became intimate, due to a previous relationship I was end wasn’t working out.. the first yrs or so we didn’t spend much time cause I was in a relationship with some else. So he said I had to chose. And I chose him…so for almost a yr he has been at my apartment… so a few months ago I asked him did he love me.. he said NO and loudly.. but I stayed.. he said he care about me.. and I thought we where bonding since I backed off the subject…and last Thursday he said it was over… I admit that I was clingy, didn’t trust him, and so.. but I do love him…sometimes he could be so cold towards me.. and my question is.. so I hope and look for better days.. is it really over, do he just need time… my heart is hurting so bad.. and I just wanna die..
Hi Kay!
There is no way to know at this point if he may come back to you or not. All you can do is focus on yourself and your life. If he does decide he wants to be with you, he will certainly let you know but you shouldn’t wait around for someone who clearly told you he didn’t want what you want. That being said, you need to decide if he’s worth waiting around for or if you’re ready to let go and open your heart for someone who will come in and give you the world. Wishing you the best!
Kay, what ended up happening?
My Taurus man also said he didn’t love me and that it was over. Just like that! After a 4 year relationship and three years of marriage!!! I, like Kay, am also looking for answers. That’s why I am reading this page. Trying to figure out how someone could do that. How someone could treat their wife, whom they claimed was the “love of their life” like that. I would appreciate any additional insight into this matter if anyone has it! Also, I am an Aquarius. that might be helpful information. 🙂
Thanks!
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As Taurus man who was dating an Aquarius woman, idk where y’all problems were but wit me and her we argued damn never every time we disagreed but tbh the argument was never over the disagreement. We argued how it was handled. One thing I can tell you that I was tryin to get thru to her is with both of us being set in ways for a long time, we have to find balance on things. So my advice is seek balance. Compromise with each other. And oh God listen to him like you want him to listen to you. Truly communicate to understand and not to just be heard. Treat em how you want to be treated in every area. And make sure he knows he’s secured.
I broke up with my Taurus man over a week ago, but we didn’t part ways because our relationship is not working. We’ve been dating for 7 months and everything is going well for us. I know a lot will say that the bull and the archer is not a good match but we do. We love each other so much. We never had a fight ever but would always calmly discuss problems and work on it as a team. Our relationship is one with love, trust, understanding, loyalty, stability, consistency, time, and effort. No drama. No bullshit.
I had to let him go because he is being forced into an arranged marriage. He is from an influential family and public image is very important for his family. He fought for our relationship, he said that I am the one he wants to be with for the rest of his life and could not imagine a life without me. But even so his family did not budge to the extent that his grandma started to manipulate him emotionally by not eating properly and taking her medications. I know how a Taurus values their family and friends and though it was really hurting him, still he was refusing the loveless marriage.
I assured him that no matter how difficult it gets I will stand by him, but I cannot do it alone. He needs to be firm with his resolve as well as it takes two to tango. He said that he is very determined and his decision won’t change. However, last week he admitted to me that he feels that he might not be able to stand his ground if his grandma would continue putting her health on the line like that, apologizing to me. That’s when I decided to end our relationship. I told him that I don’t want to let him go but I have to because I know he already made his choice and it’s not me. Continuing our relationship would only hurt us more. He cried and kept begging me to stay, not accepting the break up.
For a week after the breakup he kept on messaging me telling me that he doesn’t want to lose me, he doesn’t want me to leave him but he doesn’t know how to convince his family. He even sent me a handwritten letter professing that his love for me defies words, he is in agony knowing that we cannot be together, our separation torments his soul, and that his love for me is undiminished. He said that he is still holding onto the hope that one day fate will smile upon us again. That letter broke me into tears. My love for him did not change either.
I called him telling him that I wish it was me who gets to spend forever with him and that I hope and pray that his future wife makes him happy in all the ways I wish I was given a chance to. I pray that she loves and supports him the same way I do, even more and that his happiness is always and will always be important to me. I love him, and if fate will smile on us again, he knows where to find me.
I am grieving our relationship. I feel so lost and confused.
Dear Rhian,
I am sorry this happened.
It is certainly hard being selected for marriage where both him and his bride are selected by family members other than themselves.
Unfortunately, there is nothing you can do about it.If he cannot find the strength to resist the strong family’s influence, then you should let him go.
Try focusing on yourself and making your life path successful. When you do that you’re healing your own wounds and learning to make yourself happy. When time elapses you will find a way to let another man into your heart.
Stay strong!
Hi Deanna!
Yikes! It sounds like h had things going on in his head that he didn’t share with you. They don’t just pull this out of thin air or randomly even though it really feels like it when they do it. They act relatively normal but if you look back, I bet you were small red flags you didn’t notice because of your love for him. They plan this type of things months in advance because they want to do it right and because they want to be sure for themselves that they really do want out. They don’t like hurting anyone but when they’re unhappy with themselves, they often will project onto the partner what they don’t like or find flaw with. Personally, I’d totally ask him what the hell happened and why he ended it. Ask him for closure. Perhaps it can still be fixed but then again maybe not. You won’t know though unless you get your answers darling. Go get them!
Same here…my Taurus was my best friend … we weren’t in a committed relationship due to come complications, however our feelings were shared & he even said he had fallen in love with me – that he loved me on multiple different occasions…. then right before Christmas he got mad cause I ask some questions when he wanted to be left alone. Sent me a message & said he had had a crap day, things weren’t going well & was a little pissed I kept asking things when he went quite… I apologized & waited. The holidays rolled around & nothing… so I tried reaching out & messaging again. He deactivated his FB & told me to stop messaging him… I’m at a loss. I miss my best friend & love him. I think some heavy stuff went down & he is lashing out…retreating into his shell… I don’t know what to do.
I don’t want to make things worse, I want to be there for him & I also want to shake the ever living crap outta him. This is what friends are for, this is what being in love is about…being there for one another, not shutting doors & breaking my heart.
So yes, what do I do?
I’m a Leo…if that helps
HI Kay!
Yikes, Leo wants love and attention. Taurus avoids drama and pressure whenever he can. He probably felt you were pressuring him by asking questions he didn’t want to answer. Then by continuously messaging him when he was quiet made him get very annoyed and he just decided you were filling his world with drama thus him cutting you off. Once they tell you to stop contacting them, they’re pretty well done and it would be VERY difficult to win them back. You may have to let him go as much as I hate to say it. If he ever did care, he may come back on his own terms later but I wouldn’t bank on it. I’m so sorry sweetheart. You deserve a lot better!
My man is a Taurus we been together for a year and a half but he is argumentative and he likes to accuse me of things I am not doing he is also controlling so I packed up all my stuff ready to move then he looked crazy so he wanted to work it out but it’s no better it’s the same bull I am confused I don’t think he wants to be in a relationship but he doesn’t want me to be with anyone else
Hi Shakia!
He sounds very insecure which would mean that he was likely burned by someone badly which is why he’s terrified now. What you need to do is find out what his fears are and where they come from. It’s quite possible a past relationship really messed him up which makes it hard for him to trust. Clearly he wants to be with you as per him telling you he wants to work it out. Be patient and try to talk to him. Ask him why it is that he accuses you of things you aren’t doing. He should open up and talk to you about what has happened to make him that way. Maybe you can find a way to make him feel more secure in the relationship you two share by letting him talk to you. I wish you the best!
Your time is precious ladies (especially if you want to have kids). Don’t waste it on a man who doesn’t know how to care for you as he should. Trust me, I wish I had an experienced woman in my life to tell me this when I was younger.
I’ve spent over a decade and a half (mainly all of my youth) trying to work it out with an insecure Taurus man who continued to stab me in the heart over and over again. These were important years I could’ve spent doing better on my own and attracting everything I wanted in life. Instead, I’m now over 40 having to rebuild my entire life from the ground up because I accepted this treatment.
Taurus men are a completely different animal than Taurus women (I’m one). And an insecure, immature Taurus man will tear your heart and soul down and drain you emotionally until there’s nothing left. Mine was not damaged from a previous relationship but from childhood emotional neglect (that he still has no self-awareness of and refuses to work on).
Shakia’s comment is right, this kind of man will freak out when you’ve had enough and want to leave but it’s only because he doesn’t want you to be with anyone else, not because he’s truly emotionally ready to be in a healthy relationship.
Focus on loving yourself, pursuing your dreams, and living your best life FOR YOU. If he truly loves you, you won’t have to do anything else. He’ll see your value and do his best to show you that he’s serious about opening his heart to you.
Let the lyrics to Madonna’s “Express Yourself” play on repeat in your head every time you consider letting him back in without proof of his commitment to an equally supportive partnership.
And forgot to add that my experience with my Taurus guy was the same as Shakia’s. He was argumentative, controlling, and projected his issues onto me (accusing me of negative behavior that he was actually doing). I even went to therapy to try to understand and learn more about myself, something to this day he won’t do for himself.
Hi Holly!
A Taurus man with baggage doesn’t know how to operate properly in a relationship. He should always work on his healing and letting go otherwise when he gets into another relationship, he tends to screw up big time. That’s no secret. Not all Taurus men are this way though. Only the ones who have not released their baggage will tend to be this way.
yes my taurus man went and divorced me after 10 years and a child im gemini im reading this trying to figure how his mind works trully heartsore
Hi Jacqueline!
Thank you for writing in. I’m so very sorry you’ve gone through this hard time honey. Clearly there is much to his reasoning for having done this and you won’t know until he actually tells you. I’d demand he tell you the reasons because you deserve to know so that you can find closure and be able to move on.
Hi,
My ex was a Taurus. At the time of dating which is last year he was 24 and I was 27. Yes a huge difference in age. I was also his first real relationship. But we were both each other’s first love. He was my second real relationship and something felt right. I don’t date to date or haven’t felt this way to make it serious, my first relationship was when I was 21? My first boyfriend was not my first love. This one I knew we had a connection and we both knew it felt right. Yes we jumped quickly, he is from Zimbabwe. Before we made it serious, I agreed to do the half marathon in South Africa with him and his family. So the tripped was booked. I was the first girl he brought home, he did a whole trip for me from South Africa to Zimbabwe. Meeting most his family and friends. We went a week sailing together which he loves, so we got to know each other really well and I even took a poop in the bush with him. Say I was comfortable. I bungee jumped for the first time. So many firsts for us both in the relationship. Well during this depression hit me hard, I avoided it for a while. I wasn’t myself and he knew and we were open. I kind of pushed and had our fights and all.
Well when I got home, we had more fights. But we still had love and friendship or so I thought. I decided to get help and therapy because I was done feeling this way and it was time. I guess I loved him more at the time. He gave up on me. But he obviously wasn’t willing to wait some more and couldn’t even end it with me, he “led” me on and etc. He was a coward and immature.
His family, his mom still talks here and there and likes my things. His best friend and I still talk. Goes to show you, I wasn’t all that bad. I had moral character and someone his mom liked. She is a tough woman in a good way, I think her and I were a like in many ways. Weird I know. I think they all knew my battles and it’s normal.
Well two weeks later after our official break up, he got into another relationship with the first girl he saw. Blonde but total opposite. She worked on the yacht he was working. He could have anyone in the yachting industry and could’ve waited but no he needed that love and attention. She gave it to him and maybe even while we were dating. She is his age. He took no time to heal and learn. He likes to take care of someone and I knew he didn’t like my independence.
I learned it takes TWO to be in a relationship. Ever relationship regardless has lessons. He gave me he loves me but not in love with you (he has her in the back), he said he never lied but so many lies.
We didn’t end on good terms. i had to make me block him on Whatsapp to avoid contact. He did not normal things on social media he never did with me, re posting her posts and posting about her. When he never did about me, he barely posted. Showed signs of Grass is greener and showing someone can love him. He wasn’t a man. He has a lot of growing up to do. It was such a long battle comparing, etc and the fact he took her home and still is with her. I know when he went home he thought of me, he even retagged himself in photos I forgot to delete on social media when we dated but yet he is with that new GIRLFRIEND..weird?! Never heard of that. So when life hits and they have to deal with normal and struggles, is he going to run from her? Who knows. I will never know. He will learn and he will grow, he is still a the time we had together. A first love I will never forget, a relationship I learned from, and memories to keep.
I know one day he’ll realize what he lost, what we had was real no matter what. He disappointed me. Thanks for this article. I believe what they have about your signs and characteristics are mostly true. Thanks for this article.
I’m a Leo, well you can tell why that didn’t work besides the age. But everyone’s relationship is different and scenarios. Some want love and to be loved. Some don’t know what love is until they are by themselves and love themselves. Some need someone to feel good. I believe what comes around comes back around.
HI Sara Sully!
I absolutely agree with you honey. I hope you don’t write off all Taurus men though because they’re not all the same. Yes, karma will take care of business for sure. Take care of yourself sweetheart and be sure you’re giving yourself love as you need it. You should stay open for someone wonderful to come sweep you off your feet!
Me and my Taurus broke up 2 weeks ago… he was becoming very distant and didn’t seem to have any time for me and spent more time staring at his phone screen than talking to me. I tried to reason with him. But in the end as a cancer woman I couldn’t handle this and broke it off with him. I apologised after I calmed down explained my ‘issues’ but I woke up to the ‘goodbye text’ I replied with ‘Goodbye’ because let’s face it, how do you even get through to a Taurus man?? But then he seemed to message every 3 days to tell me he loves me, misses me etc.
He then asked to meet up at the weekend. But on the Thursday he messaged to say can we meet up ‘after the lockdown’ has ended as he wants to win me back by dating me and wooing me again.
He also said that he’ll always love me. And dropped it in ‘I understand if you’ve found new love or want someone else’ not sure if that’s his way of seeing if ‘I’ve moved on’ I again told him I I don’t work like that he might but I don’t. Reassurance obviously needed. He said he don’t expect me to wait around for him. But he loves me and will probably always love me. You know the normal things men do to keep you at arms lengths. But I am so confused by all of this, because he says one thing, but does another? Do I wait around and wait until ‘he’s had his moment’
Is he wanting to sort this out? Or is he simply just keeping me at arms lengths just incase he doesn’t in his words ‘I’ll never find another you, I know I won’t’
Any advice?
Hi Becs!
He was definitely checking to see if you still love him and if there is still room for him. I think your Taurus guy probably is dealing with other stuff that has nothing to do with you and he doesn’t want to burden you with it. His checking his phone could be checking for family, friends, work, etc to make sure things are running smoothly. You can try to talk to him and express your concerns and see what he wants to do about yet. Yes, he’s trying to see if you’ll give him another chance otherwise he wouldn’t bother. Give it a chance!
its been 2 years.. still cant get over here . i have beautiful new lover standing next to me .. still my ex is always there 24*7 pain in heart and i love her alot
still despite of my wish.. if she wants to be happy without me.. she is already.. but cant acept the fact small factory will overpower more percentage of good memories 🙂
Hi vipsweb!
You need to work on letting your ex go so you can move forward with your new lover. You are short changing her by not giving her your all. It’s not fair. You need to start cutting ties and focus on what is ahead instead of what was. If you need more information about Taurus man, please check out my book “Taurus Man Secrets”.
I am Pisces women and my ex is a taurus male i am 6 years older then him .. We where together almost 2 years we hit it off from the first day we met but he broke it off with me after i lied about something stupid.. But 2 weeks later he just moved on with a Aquarius women younger than him and she as well just came out off a relationship . they are together 6 months now.. before we broke up we cried together and he told me he loves me very much and then he just left .. We had contact 3 months after the breakup still talked everyday while he was with his new gf he will tell me daily he misses me even on weekends while she is with him always asked if i am oky and if i need anything and ppl spread untrue rumours that other men and different cars is always infront off my house and stuff like that he still got angry and upset about it and always asked me if it was true or not even thou he left me and has a new gf …. he told me over and over i must always remember that he loves me very much and always will.. She found out that we chatted but she didn’t know the context she made him change his number after that he isnt allowed to jave any contact with me ..we didn’t chat anymore but i still needed to sign his bail slip for him after his court case was done .. And each month the date moved on to a new date the next month .. And 2 months ago he stoped infront of my house after not talking for a month to tell me the date got moved again on the same day his sister sent me his new number after he left and we chatted again but every second day or so ! for bout 2 weeks and he told me i looked good and asked if iam chatting with anyone and seeing anyone i lied and said yes chatting but not seeing anyone that made him a bit upset he wanted to know who is it where he lived and everything but i change the subject everytime … Then he just got quiet again for bout 3weeks and then i thought of him and just send a msgs again we chatted the whole day and he told ne they broking up i still said i hope they can fix things between them and was supportive towards him we stopped chatting and 2 days later he sent me a msgs they back together and i must not bother him again and then he blocked me. His family his own mother couldnt even get hold off him and they asked me if i know how he was doing witch i did not ..they all love me to bits and chat regularly .. Couple of weeks went by and his court case finished up last week ppl that he is living with contact me to please go to court to sign the slip and get the money back for him so i went and that is the first time we saw each other in 2 months again when he saw me he smiled and looked me straight in the eyes he asked how i was doing and so on bit of small talk … i caught him stairing at me a few times and smiling when i asked what it is he just said nothing after a few second s i could feel he wanted to say something but he didnt when we left i walked to my car and he towards his he said thanks for everything and hope to see me again soon witch i replied i dont think so he then asked why not then i just looked him in his eyes and said goodbye and left … I still love him very much .. I would like to know if he realy loved me at all and what does everything mean will he come back or is he just playing with my emotions .. in all our chats he would say he wishes things could off been different and that every thing will be oky .. What should i do just block him out off my mind or should i still be hopefull
Hi Soso!
I wish I could tell you whether or not he ever really truly loved you but there is no way for me to know that. I’m an Astrologer so I don’t have psychic ability. Even if he does come back, could you trust him not to do this stuff to you again? Think about it. A Taurus man in love isn’t going to keep screwing around and doing the things this guy has done. You may want to let go or find yourself another Taurus man. If you need more information about Taurus man, please check out my book “Taurus Man Secrets”.
Hi Kay,
I am an Aquarius/Pisces cusp (or so I’m told. Born just before midnight on 13/2. I’ve always described myself as an Aquarius with Pisces tendencies.)
I recently told my Taurus man (of 14 months) that I was worried that he wasn’t happy with me (my insecurities I think) and that I was worried he still had feelings for his ex (Mother of his 9 year old Virgo daughter) He insists that they hadn’t been “together” for a long time, but she is a friend (who he says he wouldn’t be friendly with if it weren’t for his little girl) I struggled with the fact that he spent time, as a family, in their home of 10 years, and would stay over on the sofa. I know I am probably being unreasonable, but with no chance of ever having children with him I guess I was jealous that she could give him something I couldn’t and it hurt.
Anyway, I am truly wishing I hadn’t “let him go”, as I put it to him. Is there any hope of reconciliation, or have I ruined everything?
Hi Emma!
I am sorry that you felt insecure about him. Yes, you probably can get him back by building your own confidence and let your fears go. Show him why he is important to you and that you’re working on taking a different path with your life. Apologize to him for having worries like you did and that now you’re ready to show him that you trust him and will believe what he says going forward. It’s not an easy thing to prove but you definitely can do it over time. Reach out and tell him you cannot get him off your mind. If he still cares, he’ll bite and come back. I wish you all the luck of the stars. Check out my book “Taurus Man Secrets” for more helpful tips.
Taurus men are so confusing 🙁 I have been dating my Taurus man for 8 months, (we wrote to each other for 9 months before that)… he is separated 3 years but still in family home with ex (he is sorting things soon). He goes from sweet love and being the most beautiful, kind caring man, to deep anger and disgust with me, often times very quickly. Half the time I don’t know what I have done. Its like treading on eggshells sometimes. I love him deeply, we have bonded. He has told me he loves me many times, we plan for the future, we talk. But his moods are depleting me spiritually, emotionally.
He is Taurus, Virgo moon, Gemini venus, I am Taurus also! Not sure on my moon (Capricorn or Aquarius) with Taurus venus. I have read Taurus Man Secrets over and over, infant, with out it I would not have gotten this far!
We only see each other at weekends but he calls every day. We have had big arguments (due to his being so ready to be offended at everything, or in his eyes ‘disrespected’, he is very very difficult)…..he will ignore my texts consistently if he is upset with me, ignore me for a couple of days; though we have so far worked through things. After can then be super loving, almost to the opposite degree for a few days or weeks until BANG! same again.
I’m exhausted. I texted him today to say I was not around for a chat tomorrow… I’m so tired, drained, I need space to think….as we had an argument tonight, when I called him a pet name that he found offensive (even though it was said with love and nothing derogatory in it).
How can he go from so loving, being kind and sweet, to then so sharp and cold, argumentative even? Is it his situation at home? Are Taurean men selfish? Sometimes he doesn’t even ask how I am! I wonder if he is ready for a relationship, he has admitted he is sad that his marriage didn’t work (while I value honestly, its troubling).
I am trying not to worry what he thinks about me taking a day out… no doubt he won’t call me the day after to punish me… I hate uncertainty. Taurus women are VERY different to Taurus men, thats for sure. I feel so unhappy. I love him, he’s so amazing in so many ways, I feel like I will never make him happy.
Hi Robyn!
You are in a sticky situation with your Taurus man. I’m not sure anything will change for the better if he’s still living with his family. They are still priority which makes you less than a priority. I don’t see him doing anything to change his behavior unless he gets his own place. Yes, Taurus men can be mean and selfish. The are one of the signs that do have potential narcissist tendencies. I think that you should let go of him. Go quiet and if he wants to be with you, he will do what is necessary. He will leave the house he’s in and get his own place so that he can be with you. Until then, your energy would be best spent working on your path and your future. If you want more Taurus information, check out my book “Taurus Man Secrets”.
So my question is different. I’m a Taurus man and my Aquarius GF of 6 years just ended things. I’m crushed to say the least. It’s the longest relationship I’ve ever had. I am now 44 and she is 31 so there is am age gap but she is very mature. We’ve had our issues but I thought have worked through them together. We discussed marriage in the early years and she was pretty opossed to it and she had kept that stance for most of the relationship. Over the last year she had made comments about me getting a ring and us settling down, kind of in jest, so I’m not sure if this is something she really wanted. She would go back and forth about it if I brought marriage up. I had some insecurities In the relationship, she’s much younger and is genuinely absolutely gorgeous. She gets ALOT of attention from other males. I’d say I’m a tall good looking guy but she was definitely in a league above me. I was always a bit insecure about the amount of attention she got from others but she was very good about addressing it and telling me she loved me. I’m also getting to the age where I’m getting stuck in my ways and habits while her Aquarius personality is always ready to try the new thing or adventure. I’m more of a stable, “boring”, lower energy guy that’s only gotten worse with age. Anyways, I know where the problems are and I’m willing to change. I understand I’m in panic mode and would do just about anything to keep this amazing woman, especially after 6 years together. I guess my question is about Taurus men and change. My heart is broken and I want her back so badly. Can we Taurus change? Is it common to just say whatever is needed to keep the person only to fall right back into our old ways? I’ve never been through a breakup where I was losing someone I loved. I don’t want to promise her the world, not deliver and be right back here again down the road. I know I’m rambling. This split is days old so it’s been a lot of soul searching. Any insight into Taurus behavior related to my situation would be great. Please help this broken hearted Taurus.
Hi Chase Hayes!
Thank you for writing in. I love hearing from the men sometimes as well. You can change if you really want it, yes. I wouldn’t tell her whatever she wants to hear though. Aquarius wants to know the truth. Be forthright and honest. Compromise with her in doing fun things here and there if she’s willing to accept that you also love to be home. You absolutely can find a middle ground. You both have to want it and you both have to actively practice it. Soul searching is fantastic! Take steps to heal your heart so you can be open again. My suggestion is finding a meditation that works for you. There are plenty online. Find a subliminal one or guided one. Do it once a day for a month at the least. You will notice change over time. I would say it’s good to use meditations such as “letting go of fear” and “better communication” or “be the best you”. I wish you all the best!
I’m a Taurus female together with a taurus male…he is the typical boring chill food and crafts loving but also funny type of guy, I’m the opposite,I need sport action fun adventures everyday or I get angry and I’m not really that funny, or witty like him. But(!) Taurus in general needs to learn to pay attention to their partners…it’s like…yes we hear you but we don’t react…we react too late. I know it from our relationship and other Taureans and their relationships. Also Taurus needs balance…we either do too much in a relationship,or too less…pay attention taurus….don’t act slow…shy unsure or insecure. Let love in but give love back too
Good luck
Hi Silver!
Thank you for chiming in and sharing your Taurus on Taurus relationship. I love finding out all I can as it helps me help others. I’m glad you figured out a great formula between two Taurus lovers. Fantastic! I appreciate you and wish you all the luck of the universe!
Hi, I need to know your opinion on my case. Thank you.
I’m Taurus. I was single and 14 years apart when I met another Taurus coworker. I’m married to a Capricorn old friend a couple of months later to fulfill my parents wish.
On the 5th years of my marriage I was getting so close with the Taurus coworker, while my husband was starting to show his materialistic and rude side. Although he’s kind of thorned with the fact that I’m older, married, and with the differences in our cultural background there’s no way for us to even thinking of getting married, but with the extreme chemistry we’ve got we decided to hook up.
After a couple of months indulging the great chemistry we’ve got, the Taurus coworker later on left me and broke me up but asking to keep the communication as he still want us to be friends. We keep the communication alive while I’m falling out of love from my husband who even said that he met my deceased father, telling me that my father couldn’t make it to the heaven yet.
Months later the communication with the younger Taurus coworker who moved away to another island was getting me tired, for all he did was pointing out how wrong out relationship is and that I should get back to my husband for he doesn’t want to ruin my marriage as it is forbidden by his religion.
So, I decided to cut the communication between me and the younger Taurus, while I still couldn’t get rid of the annoyed feeling when dealing with my husband.