Many astrologers say that Taurus man and Cancer woman are the perfect love match. Both of you have so many similarities that you may immediately feel that you’ve met your soulmate. Both signs are patient, generous, and introspective, with a deep reverence for home and family.
This may have seemed like a love match for the ages. After all, you are both big time homebodies and you both love the simpler things. Loyal and dedicated, both of your signs are very warm and caring.
Considerate and sensitive, both signs are also somewhat doting in relationships. So, what on earth could have possibly gone wrong here?
The Truth About Your Taurus Man’s aloofness with you
You have probably read that Taurus man and a Cancer woman are an almost perfect match and this is absolutely true. You can be one of those couples that just make everyone around you green with envy over the sweetness of your love. So why is it that when you’re out in public he seems so distant? Why is it that he pulled away?
You both share this really romantic outlook in your lives and you both want nothing more than emotional and material security. You’re both fully capable of providing that for one another. Some of the longest standing relationships I’ve ever seen have been with a Taurus man and a Cancer woman.
You may know by now that he’s loving and kind, and this is something you have been looking for in a man. You may also now that you are gentle, loyal, and ever the nurturer.
So, if you’ve read up on what a Taurus man wants, you know that’s it in a nutshell. You two actually could have an incredibly stable, loving household together and the happily ever after you both seek.
But, what can be a problem between Cancer woman and Taurus man?
He’s stubborn and he resists change. He goes from over the top loving and romantic to this weird sort of cold front silent treatment.
Taurus man might act a little weird and jealous even though you cannot figure out why. Of course, you’d never, ever cheat on him; and yet, why is he being this way?
This jealousy and possessiveness are one of the hallmark traits of a Taurus man and it can often be the biggest area they shoot themselves in the foot. Even a whiff of what seems to him to be a betrayal and he may back off fast and far!
He may perceive your emotional shifts as being very unsettling. As well, he may worry about the way you’re behaving, so it may put him off. But, there are ways around this that do not involve watering yourself down, Cancer!
Once you are able to find that balance between your two signs, you will find that very few men can help to soothe your moods like he can. And, you may be able to bring out the deep, intense feelings he often tries to stifle and is uncomfortable with in himself.
Before we go into this, here are the things you need to know about your Taurus man. I go into all of this more deeply in my book, Taurus Man Secrets, but here’s a brief overview.
Top 5 Taurus Man Dealbreakers
1. Pushiness
Though you’re not typically “pushy” per se, he may find that at times, your need outweighs his ability to give, Cancer. In such cases, he may distance himself quite a bit to catch his bearings and you might panic.
You might try to send him text after text: don’t do that. If you have, it’s okay- just stop right now and I’ll tell you how to fix the issue and bridge the gap a little later on.
2. Not knowing you care
This one is typically not a problem for you, though if you’ve been hurt, you may be hesitant to convey your feelings. Don’t be. They do tend to be safe with Taurus.
3. Being confused about how you feel
He loves it when you are affectionate yet may back off when you mention love. At the same time, if you seem too aloof, he’ll get confused, afraid and may back off as well. Find a balance between the two.
4. Mind games
You have to be absolutely careful about passive aggressive remarks and otherwise with a Taurus. They really hate that sort of thing and what you may not really mean- may mean everything to him.
5. Emotional Superiority
Though yes, it is entirely likely you express yourself a lot more than he does- that does not mean he doesn’t feel, Cancer. Never ever accuse a Taurus of having “no feelings”. There are gentle ways of bringing them out, and you are just the woman to do it!
If you have inadvertently already done any of these things- don’t panic! I can help you get back on track with your Taurus man. That is why I always recommend my clients to first read my FREE guide called 30 dirty little secrets about Taurus man. It will definitely help you understand that Taurus man better and it can be your as well completely FREE. Just click HERE.
Use your strengths to navigate your Taurus man’s mind and heart!
As a Cancer woman, you are deeply caring and romantic. You offer a lot of emotional support and encouragement which the Taurus man craves. When you fall in love, you go big or you go home. You like to make sure that not only your partner knows, but often, everyone else around you!
You’re not really into one night stands or the superficial and what you want from others is emotional security. Actually, you want to know your feelings are safe and a Taurus man certainly has the potential to be just the man for you.
You are also a highly sensitive, sensual and creative person and your intuition is just dead on the money most of the time. You can intuitively sense whenever something isn’t going well. But…on occasion, your doubts may cloud that judgement, particularly when you get into how Taurus seems to just shut down!
When this happens, you may be inclined to shut down a bit yourself- or even worse: you might brood and get moody, which is often hard for a Taurus to understand.
Instead of allowing yourself to shift moods suddenly and throw him off balance, understand that when he shuts down, it’s typically because he needs time to process whatever it is he’s feeling.
You see, Taurus men are not as in touch with their feelings as a Cancer women. It can often be difficult for them to face them. Good or bad, if the feelings are strong, a Taurus may distance himself or shut down because he just needs to figure out where he stands.
You need to draw on those big reserves of patience you have and not assume that this distance means you’ve done anything wrong! It probably does not.
The very best thing you can do to better understand and relate to your Taurus man is to allow him that space without being clingy.
If he’s taking it, he needs it and he isn’t going to stay gone for long if he realizes how stable and loving the relationship can be. A lot of the time he’s really not running from you or freaking out but rather, he’s taking into account everything you have been through together or the experiences he’s had with you, to determine whether or not you’re a safe bet.
Taurus man and Cancer Woman in the Bedroom
He is one of the more lust driven signs of the zodiac- which can be a bit confusing for you, as you are lusty, sure, but there’s usually a lot of emotion behind it. For him, sex can be emotional- but it can also just be really great sex.
He’s a very passionate and intense lover- sensitive, sensual, and you may read that as being an expression of his feelings whereas it may not be, just yet. If you can hang in there and show him the stability he craves- it may get there.
He isn’t really the type to play with your emotions but he does take things very much on the surface- so, if he hasn’t explicitly said so, do not assume his sensuality means a whole lot just yet. It isn’t that he’s using you, either.
Taurus men are notorious for taking their time in actually building trust but, sometimes get caught up in that whole “in love” feeling. Taking it from simply “in love” to loving- that will take some time and will be something that you need a specific declaration of from him.
He is ruled by the Planet of Love- Venus, though this is also the planet of romance and sensuality.
He’s more simple about his romancing than others- he’s looking for a best friend and a wife, more often than not: so he probably won’t say things he doesn’t mean, though he can be a bit on the indulgent side when it comes to sex and nice things.
The two of you should have no troubles in the bedroom as you are both very much into the same sorts of sensual delights. As long as you just enjoy yourself, there should be no issue there between you.
But again, be very careful not to allow yourself to be tricked into thinking sex means love for him! In time it most definitely can but he can be quite the player at times. So, being clear on what he’s after and what he’s offering will help you a great deal there.
Your biggest challenge as a Cancer woman with a Taurus man
Though he enjoys affection and romance, he isn’t one that cares a whole lot for being smothered, Cancer. You are very into lavishing your love all over your partners, all of the time.
He prefers those sort of things to be very private for the most part and both of you are incredibly trustworthy. But, if you doubt in each other’s trust, you can feel insulted.
You have a tendency towards pessimism which causes you to be a bit possessive, too. This is something you’d think he’d understand as he can be this way, as well. But all too often, what’s good for this goose- isn’t good for the gander.
Allowing yourself to meet him halfway here will help a great deal in preventing him from veering into the jealous cold shoulder- but also, prevent you from pushing him away by making him feel you do not trust him.
Both of you may need to work on the possessiveness issue, as both of you can sometimes be a bit on the over the top side with that.
Yours tends to express itself in a much more positive fashion than his does and this is another thing to be careful of.
If you spoil him too much and act as though you want nothing in return: that may be what you get! Maintain some healthy boundaries and make sure that you are both on the same page and that he is reciprocating.
All too often a Taurus man may think that it’s okay to kick back and be spoiled, leaving his Cancer woman wanting and confused! This doesn’t have to happen, however, and can certainly be avoided.
Because you have a strong tendency to worry a lot, his at times, thoughtless behavior may get the better of you. You both love that security- except, he’s just not as mindful as you are, and often, this manifests in situations where you may not be clear on how he feels because his actions seem to say he doesn’t.
Again, though Taurus men are prone to showing how they feel in their actions- when it comes to forgetting things or thoughtlessness, it’s hard to take that one on face value with them. They do tend towards being a bit prideful when called on this: so gentle reminders usually do the trick as opposed to nagging.
With a Taurus man the best communication is the simplest. Though you may feel like you should fully illustrate your feelings using your words, this can often be very confusing to him and even intimidating. Just keep things very simple and plain. And always, always, always say what you mean and try to avoid ever speaking out of your anger or frustration!
Taurus man as a Fixed, Earth Sign, Cancer woman as a Cardinal, Water sign
I talk about this a great deal more in my book, but, here’s the low down on your elements and modalities.
Though his Earth is the opposite of your Water- this is actually a highly compatible pairing that can be a way of knowing there’s more to life than just stability. Both carry a need for pure and loyal love.
And, though the concept of unconditional love is a bit perplexing to an Earth sign- it’s highly appealing. With the elements, this is only one small part of the overall picture of compatibility between you, but, generally, your element, Water, works very well with his element, Earth.
It goes a step further into modalities. You may not know this, but your sign’s modality is Cardinal, whereas your Taurus man’s is Fixed. This is where a bit of a problem comes in as you lead through kindness and love whereas he’s not likely to budge.
If you see that there is a problem, you are inclined, usually, to try and change it- even if he sees a problem, sometimes, he won’t do anything about it and this can be VERY frustrating!
What you MUST remember about Taurus men, as a Cancer Woman
Though you do have a tendency towards pessimism, you shouldn’t allow this to cause you to panic too much when he’s distant, Cancer. This relationship has got everything it takes to be a long term, stable relationship that has a lot of shared ideals between the two of you. This not only makes for a strong relationship- but a powerful friendship, as well.
When you get to the guts of this, you will find that the fact that you both crave security matters a great deal here. You’ll find that you balance one another out very well. Of course, from time to time there will be clashes due to your emotional intensity. He can understand where you’re coming from very well when you do talk about it plainly and clearly with him.
You may find that you two do not go out a whole lot together. You’re pretty private and so is he- though he may be a bit more reticent in terms of showing affection publicly than you are.
This is simply because he’s a traditionalist at heart and something that can change as time goes on. You’ll find though that, when the doors are closed, the affection is most certainly there!
Now, if you find yourself getting that famous Taurus cold shoulder, Cancer woman- here’s what you need to do while you’re pulling back and allowing him some time.
For now, ask yourself these questions:
● Are things actually going as well as you thought or are you only seeing what you want to?
In the case of a Cancer and Taurus pairing sometimes you may move a bit more quickly emotionally than he does. Don’t get ahead of yourself or him with your feelings and you should be just fine.
● Before he dropped out of touch, what were the things he tried to tell you?
You may have misread some of the things he said- owing to his keeping such expressions as simple as possible.
● Have you been unclear with him about the level of commitment you felt you had or that you wanted?
If you were intimidated or nervous about broaching the subject, he may just not know where he stands or where you stand.
● HOW have you communicated with him so far?
If you were engaging in a little emotional projection, he might not have cared much for that. He is someone who says what’s on his mind and not always what’s on his heart. Although, it is there and if you made some assumptions, this may be what’s hanging you up.
Famous Taurus man – Cancer woman couples
- Jack Nicholson and Angelica Houston
- Anthony Quinn and Katherine DeMille
- George Lucas and Linda Ronstadt
Final Thoughts
I think at heart, there’s a tendency in all of us to want to connect well with others. For you, Cancer, this is the utmost important thing. It just so happens that this is also the way that a Taurus man feelings. Though to you, it may really not seem that way at times.
Fear might cloud his mind (and yours too). Often we put up a lot of walls due to our past hurts and with a Taurus, those are very prideful walls. Whereas, with you, they may be more doubtful, more worrying. When we know more, we can allow ourselves to feel more profoundly.
If you’re ready to understand more about how compatible are Taurus man and Cancer woman, check out my brand new Taurus Man and Cancer Woman Love Compatibility Guide, and if you want to catch him and keep him click here to learn more about Taurus Man Secrets.
I just met a cancer and she so pretty and sweet and i really like her
I met a Taurus man online last year we hardly knew each other we only met a couple of times but were in daily contact via text and only lasted about 6 weeks things didn’t work out and went our separate ways I thought I’d heard the last of him, then a week before Christmas he got in touch asking how I was and had I met anyone else which I thought was odd at the time!! Anyway he has been in touch again twice very short messages and again asking if I’d met anyone of which I find very confusing as I didn’t think he was that interested in me or am I just reading to much into this?
I’m a cancerarian woman and I liked him from outset I felt as though I’d know him for years we found our conversations just flowed and never short of things to talk about, we’ve both been married before and have children who are adults now.
Can anyone shed any light as to why he got in touch after 3 months of nothing but has since disappeared again!!
Just my opinion now :)… Possibilities are: Taurus is seeing someone else or has a girlfriend, but is not totally happy; Taurus man is possessive and likes to keep any girls he can on a string, hence calling you to see if you might still be “available”; Taurus man may have liked you very much, but for some reason or another, you were short of his ideal…this could very much depend on his age?; Taurus, I have found is very connected (almost synonymous) to the word “Wait”… And I mean for anything and for a long, long time. They are also passive, can do fine alone for long periods of time, and are usually extremely slow in any endeavor or process. So, if he tries again to get in touch with you, and you are not available, it won’t really matter to him. By this point lastly, from my own personal experience (as a Cancer myself and my various relationships with Taurus men), if a Taurus man really wants to be with you, this is the only time you’ll find him moving quickly, for he doesn’t want to take a chance of losing you to another man, and conversely, if he takes his time or acts the way this Taurus is to you, he will likely never commit to a real relationship, like I said before, at best he’ll keep you on a string forever… So, my ultimate suggestion is just forget him! There are plenty of other Taurean men out there who won’t waste your time wondering, maybe indefinitely, when you could be out looking for another man. Love from me as a fellow Crab :).
Hi Junemoonchild!
Thank you for sharing your own input and experience. I don’t think she should write him off that quick though. He may have valid reasons for going quiet. Maybe he wasn’t ready before or maybe he was scared because he actually likes her. I think she should find out the truth directly from him by asking him before just blowing him off and finding someone else. This guy could end up being a diamond in the rough. She won’t know though unless she finds out.
He is very interested in you and afraid to tell you that so he make indirect hint that he want to be for him (ask you if you have someone else !) so he make sure that you don’t belong to anyone , he in my bull perspective lool is fall hard for you and afraid from his emotions to get hurt so he ignore you little bit (by saying little bit I mean he get to talk you again and again) most of taureans got harsh and brutal injury from past emotional relationships because we bulls are so sensitive and we don’t show it only to very trusted lovers , it’s tricky to approach us , so take it slow , text him and be funny in tender way , show him that you are sensitive and need protection tell him about your insecurities be gentle , ask for meeting and when you meet him touch him often in spontaneous way and look if he is comfort when you touch him and let him touch you , BE FEMININE like make your lady inside show up and be like flower or rose that your bull want to smell and protect that rose and fall in love with , and the most important thing make him feel is secure with his love for you and you be so loyal to him , and again touch him with tenderness and spontaneity first and look if his comfort when you touch him ,then for example in crowded place cling to him and make him feel that he is your protector and you are so vulnerable and need his power and shield to make feel safe that will melt his heart
Hi Maher the Bull!
I really appreciate you chiming in. I do agree with much of what you’re saying. In my own personal experience with Taurus men, this seems to be the case with many of them. Thank you so much for giving your own personal view as a male Taurus. I love it when you guys actually give your own experience and share what you’re really like. Blessings!
Hi Joise!
It would seem that this Taurus guy spent time away from you and started thinking about his life, who he is, what he wants, and who you are. In other words he thought about you while he was away from you so that sparked him to want to see if there is still any hope with you. My guess is that he’d like to see if the two of you can find something special together. This disappearing act isn’t that uncommon with Taurus men when they are confused. Though if you do get involved with him, you should tell him up front that you want something real and true. Tell him disappearing is no good and if he’d like to push forward he’ll have to stick around.
As a cancer woman, I feel like the taurus I love for sooooo long, never wants to talk about love, feelings, and I can’t stay with someone who don’t express feelings yes I love that taurus way too much but I don’t feel love back so it makes me sad, and very unhappy. I need love not just affection, I’m not a dog and this isn’t enough for me. I’ll pass, it’s like saying to a wall “I love you”. Cancer women deserves to be loved, and to hear that they are!
Hi Esor!
I’m sorry to hear you’ve had a rather sour experience with a Taurus man. Not all Taurus men are the same and not all of them have problems talking about their feelings for the woman they love. However, you cannot ever think that he knows what you’re thinking either. With Taurus, you have to let them know when something isn’t right and that your needs are not being met otherwise they’ll think everything is alright. They’re not good at guessing or trying to figure things out. You need to be open and honest with your needs so that this doesn’t happen to you again.
I am cancer woman and married (to taurus man). We have been married for 20 years (married for 13). I profoundly agree with all comments and the article above. Thank you so much for sharing. I am very expressive and do not fall short on sharing my feelings and he is slow to respond. Thanks to the above article, I now better understand the blank cold look on his face while I am laying my love and life out on the table for him and he has no responses back, sometimes. Like a true bull in a china cabinet, he holds his feelings back, makes me feel unworthy due to his lack of communication/sharing, and when he does finally open up, he usually blows up. His feelings can bottle up for so long that by the time he lets it out it can seem abusive to my sensitive nature. Now, there will be times he does his best to express himself and avoid his own blow up; however, since he is not always conscious about his expression, it can come of as rude, demeaning, hurtful, lacks respect, etc. In this, I understand Esor’s comment above, it is the most difficult thing to deal with; however, when you weigh out the Taurus’s positive attributes: great father, loving protector, giver, great sex, etc, I choose to deal with the Idiocy of poor communication and will wait for him to “mentally sort” out his feelings before it can be logically discussed. It took a lot of growing on my part… All the other positive points of a Taurus is worth trying harder for. Both JuneMoonChild and MaherTheBull both have great points above. It’s hard to consider which way to look at this… Does he have another girl or is he waiting for you to subtly open up the platform by asking if your taken yet? That’s such a hard thing to read. My Taurus husband was clear on the fact that he did not like approaching woman and was more inclined if the woman dropped subtle hints that the woman is intersted. If she seems aloof, he will not open up to be rejected. She has to show interest for him to open up. From my experience, Taurus men think very highly of classy, well dressed woman, and appreciate her good smell. He is self conscious about his appearance and same goes for his woman. If you really like the guy and want him to be interested, definitely follow Maher the Bulls suggestion, show the Taurus man interest, like touches and hand strokes work well. But don’t go to far, like suggested by JuneMoonChild, be preparred to walk away if he doesn’t open up. JuneMoodChild could not be more true when she wrote in her article, “He isn’t really the type to play with your emotions but he does take things very much on the surface- so, if he hasn’t explicitly said so, do not assume his sensuality means a whole lot…” but that doesn’t mean he won’t come around… Just don’t read into it. Stay on the side of caution in the beginning and may take quite a while before your figure out his intentions for you.
Hi Deborah!
Thank you for writing about your own experience. You are right about weighing his pros and his flaws. Taurus men are typically not the best with communication or expressing their feelings. They do want tender loving care and they don’t like playing guessing games. They want you to be up front with things and how you feel. If your needs aren’t being met then tell him exactly what they are and that you need it for the relationship to succeed. He will try his best. He won’t be perfect I can tell you but he will at the very least try.
Hello,
I’m a cancer woman and have been talking to a Taurus man for about a month. We both agreed to just talking and getting to know each other for a bit which I actually really appreciate. I’m just really confused though by this distance thing he does. Sometimes I’ll text him and he won’t respond so I’ll send another message later in the day and he still won’t respond. Very rarely do I send a third and if I do it’s just a continuation of the first message as like a little add on. So with no response I just stop messaging him and leave it alone and then I won’t hear from him for like a day or so then I will get a random text from him and I’ll respond and sometimes he just won’t reply even though he sent the first message to start the conversation. My brain instantly goes into overthinking mode and I just get super confused. Any idea what is going on and what you suggest I do? After reading the article it doesn’t sound like I’m doing anything to make him lose interest besides that double text but I’m going to stop doing that. I’ll just leave it at the one text and if he responds he responds and if he doesn’t he doesn’t even though that’s a little stressful for me because then I question if I said something wrong or if he’s lost interest. The back and forth gets confusing though.
Hi Bre!
I am being completely honest with you when I tell you that Taurus men have an old fashioned mentality and do not like texting. They don’t mind doing it here and there but they really don’t like it. It’s not a shock that he doesn’t always answer. He finds it inconvenient and he’d rather talk on the phone or in person. That’s just how they operate. It’s not really about you or his feelings for you, it’s him and his disdain for text messaging. It’s one of those things that if you really like him, you have to accept. Keep the bonding for in person. I doubt he’s lost interest honey. If you want to learn more about this guy, check out my books on Taurus Man Secrets!