Many astrologers say that Taurus man and Cancer woman are the perfect love match. Both of you have so many similarities that you may immediately feel that you’ve met your soulmate. Both signs are patient, generous, and introspective, with a deep reverence for home and family.
This may have seemed like a love match for the ages. After all, you are both big time homebodies and you both love the simpler things. Loyal and dedicated, both of your signs are very warm and caring.
Considerate and sensitive, both signs are also somewhat doting in relationships. So, what on earth could have possibly gone wrong here?
The Truth About Your Taurus Man’s aloofness with you
You have probably read that Taurus man and a Cancer woman are an almost perfect match and this is absolutely true. You can be one of those couples that just make everyone around you green with envy over the sweetness of your love. So why is it that when you’re out in public he seems so distant? Why is it that he pulled away?
You both share this really romantic outlook in your lives and you both want nothing more than emotional and material security. You’re both fully capable of providing that for one another. Some of the longest standing relationships I’ve ever seen have been with a Taurus man and a Cancer woman.
You may know by now that he’s loving and kind, and this is something you have been looking for in a man. You may also now that you are gentle, loyal, and ever the nurturer.
So, if you’ve read up on what a Taurus man wants, you know that’s it in a nutshell. You two actually could have an incredibly stable, loving household together and the happily ever after you both seek.
But, what can be a problem between Cancer woman and Taurus man?
He’s stubborn and he resists change. He goes from over the top loving and romantic to this weird sort of cold front silent treatment.
Taurus man might act a little weird and jealous even though you cannot figure out why. Of course, you’d never, ever cheat on him; and yet, why is he being this way?
This jealousy and possessiveness are one of the hallmark traits of a Taurus man and it can often be the biggest area they shoot themselves in the foot. Even a whiff of what seems to him to be a betrayal and he may back off fast and far!
He may perceive your emotional shifts as being very unsettling. As well, he may worry about the way you’re behaving, so it may put him off. But, there are ways around this that do not involve watering yourself down, Cancer!
Once you are able to find that balance between your two signs, you will find that very few men can help to soothe your moods like he can. And, you may be able to bring out the deep, intense feelings he often tries to stifle and is uncomfortable with in himself.
Before we go into this, here are the things you need to know about your Taurus man. I go into all of this more deeply in my book, Taurus Man Secrets, but here’s a brief overview.
Top 5 Taurus Man Dealbreakers
Though you’re not typically “pushy” per se, he may find that at times, your need outweighs his ability to give, Cancer. In such cases, he may distance himself quite a bit to catch his bearings and you might panic.
You might try to send him text after text: don’t do that. If you have, it’s okay- just stop right now and I’ll tell you how to fix the issue and bridge the gap a little later on.
2. Not knowing you care
This one is typically not a problem for you, though if you’ve been hurt, you may be hesitant to convey your feelings. Don’t be. They do tend to be safe with Taurus.
3. Being confused about how you feel
He loves it when you are affectionate yet may back off when you mention love. At the same time, if you seem too aloof, he’ll get confused, afraid and may back off as well. Find a balance between the two.
4. Mind games
You have to be absolutely careful about passive aggressive remarks and otherwise with a Taurus. They really hate that sort of thing and what you may not really mean- may mean everything to him.
5. Emotional Superiority
Though yes, it is entirely likely you express yourself a lot more than he does- that does not mean he doesn’t feel, Cancer. Never ever accuse a Taurus of having “no feelings”. There are gentle ways of bringing them out, and you are just the woman to do it!
If you have inadvertently already done any of these things- don’t panic! I can help you get back on track with your Taurus man. That is why I always recommend my clients to first read my FREE guide called 30 dirty little secrets about Taurus man. It will definitely help you understand that Taurus man better and it can be your as well completely FREE. Just click HERE.
Use your strengths to navigate your Taurus man’s mind and heart!
As a Cancer woman, you are deeply caring and romantic. You offer a lot of emotional support and encouragement which the Taurus man craves. When you fall in love, you go big or you go home. You like to make sure that not only your partner knows, but often, everyone else around you!
You’re not really into one night stands or the superficial and what you want from others is emotional security. Actually, you want to know your feelings are safe and a Taurus man certainly has the potential to be just the man for you.
You are also a highly sensitive, sensual and creative person and your intuition is just dead on the money most of the time. You can intuitively sense whenever something isn’t going well. But…on occasion, your doubts may cloud that judgement, particularly when you get into how Taurus seems to just shut down!
When this happens, you may be inclined to shut down a bit yourself- or even worse: you might brood and get moody, which is often hard for a Taurus to understand.
Instead of allowing yourself to shift moods suddenly and throw him off balance, understand that when he shuts down, it’s typically because he needs time to process whatever it is he’s feeling.
You see, Taurus men are not as in touch with their feelings as a Cancer women. It can often be difficult for them to face them. Good or bad, if the feelings are strong, a Taurus may distance himself or shut down because he just needs to figure out where he stands.
You need to draw on those big reserves of patience you have and not assume that this distance means you’ve done anything wrong! It probably does not.
The very best thing you can do to better understand and relate to your Taurus man is to allow him that space without being clingy.
If he’s taking it, he needs it and he isn’t going to stay gone for long if he realizes how stable and loving the relationship can be. A lot of the time he’s really not running from you or freaking out but rather, he’s taking into account everything you have been through together or the experiences he’s had with you, to determine whether or not you’re a safe bet.
Taurus man and Cancer Woman in the Bedroom
He is one of the more lust driven signs of the zodiac- which can be a bit confusing for you, as you are lusty, sure, but there’s usually a lot of emotion behind it. For him, sex can be emotional- but it can also just be really great sex.
He’s a very passionate and intense lover- sensitive, sensual, and you may read that as being an expression of his feelings whereas it may not be, just yet. If you can hang in there and show him the stability he craves- it may get there.
He isn’t really the type to play with your emotions but he does take things very much on the surface- so, if he hasn’t explicitly said so, do not assume his sensuality means a whole lot just yet. It isn’t that he’s using you, either.
Taurus men are notorious for taking their time in actually building trust but, sometimes get caught up in that whole “in love” feeling. Taking it from simply “in love” to loving- that will take some time and will be something that you need a specific declaration of from him.
He is ruled by the Planet of Love- Venus, though this is also the planet of romance and sensuality.
He’s more simple about his romancing than others- he’s looking for a best friend and a wife, more often than not: so he probably won’t say things he doesn’t mean, though he can be a bit on the indulgent side when it comes to sex and nice things.
The two of you should have no troubles in the bedroom as you are both very much into the same sorts of sensual delights. As long as you just enjoy yourself, there should be no issue there between you.
But again, be very careful not to allow yourself to be tricked into thinking sex means love for him! In time it most definitely can but he can be quite the player at times. So, being clear on what he’s after and what he’s offering will help you a great deal there.
Your biggest challenge as a Cancer woman with a Taurus man
Though he enjoys affection and romance, he isn’t one that cares a whole lot for being smothered, Cancer. You are very into lavishing your love all over your partners, all of the time.
He prefers those sort of things to be very private for the most part and both of you are incredibly trustworthy. But, if you doubt in each other’s trust, you can feel insulted.
You have a tendency towards pessimism which causes you to be a bit possessive, too. This is something you’d think he’d understand as he can be this way, as well. But all too often, what’s good for this goose- isn’t good for the gander.
Allowing yourself to meet him halfway here will help a great deal in preventing him from veering into the jealous cold shoulder- but also, prevent you from pushing him away by making him feel you do not trust him.
Both of you may need to work on the possessiveness issue, as both of you can sometimes be a bit on the over the top side with that.
Yours tends to express itself in a much more positive fashion than his does and this is another thing to be careful of.
If you spoil him too much and act as though you want nothing in return: that may be what you get! Maintain some healthy boundaries and make sure that you are both on the same page and that he is reciprocating.
All too often a Taurus man may think that it’s okay to kick back and be spoiled, leaving his Cancer woman wanting and confused! This doesn’t have to happen, however, and can certainly be avoided.
Because you have a strong tendency to worry a lot, his at times, thoughtless behavior may get the better of you. You both love that security- except, he’s just not as mindful as you are, and often, this manifests in situations where you may not be clear on how he feels because his actions seem to say he doesn’t.
Again, though Taurus men are prone to showing how they feel in their actions- when it comes to forgetting things or thoughtlessness, it’s hard to take that one on face value with them. They do tend towards being a bit prideful when called on this: so gentle reminders usually do the trick as opposed to nagging.
With a Taurus man the best communication is the simplest. Though you may feel like you should fully illustrate your feelings using your words, this can often be very confusing to him and even intimidating. Just keep things very simple and plain. And always, always, always say what you mean and try to avoid ever speaking out of your anger or frustration!
Taurus man as a Fixed, Earth Sign, Cancer woman as a Cardinal, Water sign
I talk about this a great deal more in my book, but, here’s the low down on your elements and modalities.
Though his Earth is the opposite of your Water- this is actually a highly compatible pairing that can be a way of knowing there’s more to life than just stability. Both carry a need for pure and loyal love.
And, though the concept of unconditional love is a bit perplexing to an Earth sign- it’s highly appealing. With the elements, this is only one small part of the overall picture of compatibility between you, but, generally, your element, Water, works very well with his element, Earth.
It goes a step further into modalities. You may not know this, but your sign’s modality is Cardinal, whereas your Taurus man’s is Fixed. This is where a bit of a problem comes in as you lead through kindness and love whereas he’s not likely to budge.
If you see that there is a problem, you are inclined, usually, to try and change it- even if he sees a problem, sometimes, he won’t do anything about it and this can be VERY frustrating!
What you MUST remember about Taurus men, as a Cancer Woman
Though you do have a tendency towards pessimism, you shouldn’t allow this to cause you to panic too much when he’s distant, Cancer. This relationship has got everything it takes to be a long term, stable relationship that has a lot of shared ideals between the two of you. This not only makes for a strong relationship- but a powerful friendship, as well.
When you get to the guts of this, you will find that the fact that you both crave security matters a great deal here. You’ll find that you balance one another out very well. Of course, from time to time there will be clashes due to your emotional intensity. He can understand where you’re coming from very well when you do talk about it plainly and clearly with him.
You may find that you two do not go out a whole lot together. You’re pretty private and so is he- though he may be a bit more reticent in terms of showing affection publicly than you are.
This is simply because he’s a traditionalist at heart and something that can change as time goes on. You’ll find though that, when the doors are closed, the affection is most certainly there!
Now, if you find yourself getting that famous Taurus cold shoulder, Cancer woman- here’s what you need to do while you’re pulling back and allowing him some time.
For now, ask yourself these questions:
● Are things actually going as well as you thought or are you only seeing what you want to?
In the case of a Cancer and Taurus pairing sometimes you may move a bit more quickly emotionally than he does. Don’t get ahead of yourself or him with your feelings and you should be just fine.
● Before he dropped out of touch, what were the things he tried to tell you?
You may have misread some of the things he said- owing to his keeping such expressions as simple as possible.
● Have you been unclear with him about the level of commitment you felt you had or that you wanted?
If you were intimidated or nervous about broaching the subject, he may just not know where he stands or where you stand.
● HOW have you communicated with him so far?
If you were engaging in a little emotional projection, he might not have cared much for that. He is someone who says what’s on his mind and not always what’s on his heart. Although, it is there and if you made some assumptions, this may be what’s hanging you up.
Famous Taurus man – Cancer woman couples
- Jack Nicholson and Angelica Houston
- Anthony Quinn and Katherine DeMille
- George Lucas and Linda Ronstadt
I think at heart, there’s a tendency in all of us to want to connect well with others. For you, Cancer, this is the utmost important thing. It just so happens that this is also the way that a Taurus man feelings. Though to you, it may really not seem that way at times.
Fear might cloud his mind (and yours too). Often we put up a lot of walls due to our past hurts and with a Taurus, those are very prideful walls. Whereas, with you, they may be more doubtful, more worrying. When we know more, we can allow ourselves to feel more profoundly.
If you’re ready to understand more about how compatible are Taurus man and Cancer woman, check out my brand new Taurus Man and Cancer Woman Love Compatibility Guide, and if you want to catch him and keep him click here to learn more about Taurus Man Secrets.