Your opposition on the astrological wheel guarantees a magnetic polarity. A Taurus man and a Scorpio woman often have an irresistible chemical attraction!
The two sun signs have so much to offer each other. Taurus has an inner calm that soothes the churning Plutonian emotions of a Scorpio, while she has a burning intensity and passion that ignites the Bull’s normally placid imagination.
It was opposites attracting…until it wasn’t!
The two of you seemed to have SO much in common, with just enough differences to make it interesting for you. You both deeply enjoy being in the moment and fully experiencing the pleasure it can hold- but, you are, unfortunately, both remarkably demanding in your own ways and this can cause some serious problems!
Before we go deeper, let me introduce myself. I am Anna Kovach, a relationship astrologer, and I have spent years helping women understand the Taurus man they love. The Scorpio woman and Taurus man pairing is one I get asked about constantly, because the pull between you is so strong and the friction can be just as intense. If you want the complete picture of how your two signs fit together, my Taurus Man and Scorpio Woman Love Compatibility Guide breaks it down step by step. For now, let me show you what really makes this connection work.
You are both so quick to forgive…yourselves. Each other, not so much
In addition to being just a bit on the self-indulgent side, you’re both also just a little bit reluctant to deal with the whole “making up” thing. Once bitten, twice shy describes both of you- yet, you go about your own ways expressing that.
There’s nothing at all wrong with wanting good things for yourself, and there’s nothing wrong with wanting the best out of life- another thing you share an appreciation for. Where it gets a bit weird is, you want things to be fully explored, no stone unturned and you want to know it all, no matter how messy or complicated it gets.
Taurus, on the other hand, is just adamantly opposed to such things and he’d rather they be cut and dried. His insistence on this sort of thing may come across as obnoxious- and it may also lead to him dismissing your feelings if he feels they weren’t “expressed properly”. (And make no mistake, “What does that even mean?!” is an entirely appropriate response.)
Both of you are deeply invested in making relationships work but you go about it totally different ways. This can create a lot of confusion and upset between you but that needn’t be the case.
The Truth About Whether a Taurus Man and Scorpio Woman Can Last
Here is what most compatibility articles will not tell you. The Taurus man and Scorpio woman sit opposite each other on the zodiac wheel, and both of you are fixed signs. That combination is the reason this relationship can feel like the deepest love of your life one week and an immovable standoff the next. Two fixed signs do not bend easily, so when you dig in, you both dig in.
But opposition is not the same as incompatibility. Opposite signs often share the same underlying needs and simply express them differently. You both crave loyalty, depth, and a love that is built to last. In a survey of over 5,600 women involved with Taurus men, 64% said they felt a genuine, definite connection with him. For a Scorpio woman, who does not give her heart lightly, that kind of connection is worth understanding rather than walking away from.
What decides whether you last is not chemistry, because the chemistry is almost guaranteed. It is whether you learn to work with his fixed earth steadiness instead of against it. When you do, his stubbornness becomes a foundation rather than a wall, and your intensity becomes the warmth that draws him out rather than the pressure that shuts him down.
Understanding the Taurus man mind- from a Scorpio woman’s perspective
Scorpio, you would do well to think of him as more a complex puzzle and less an insensitive jerk. I know how hard that can be, but if you write him off in your mind as being thoughtless- then, thoughtless he will likely be until one of you ends it and moves on.
Extremely masculine, Taurus men tend to be a bit more of the traditional male- even when they don’t seem to be, outwardly. I’ve known more than one poet, musician, and artist that for all intents and purposes seemed every ounce the enlightened male- right up until you got him to open up.
Then, you realize, he’s got an inner Ward Cleaver the likes of which will startle you with its stodginess. They are remarkably physical men who also are deeply tapped into the collective unconscious- which, for a man can be particularly difficult, let alone one that has such a deep need for traditional values inside of him!
You may have noticed he can be just a little on the vain side, at times, too- and while he’s not dropping the benjamins on spoiling you: oh, he’ll pay out the nose for a good haircut and odds are good he’s wearing the best cologne.
This makes him appealing from the outset- because, well, he’s foxy, he takes care of himself: but when you two decide to take steps further, it can be very annoying to see this play out. After all, he should be spoiling you! Isn’t that what the blogs typically say of these men?
That is true in a lot of cases, but, for Taurus, particularly one who’s been single a while: he’s the priority, then you are. It takes him a bit to adjust to any change, let alone considering another person’s feelings! But, it can be done. This is not a lost cause at all- but how do you unlock that romantic nature they’re supposedly so famous for?
Keep it simple, Scorpio!
Taurus men tend to be very simple- not simple-minded, now, but they value pragmatism and simplicity to the very core of their being. All too often, women make the mistake of over complicating things- especially Scorpio women- with a Taurus man.
You try delving into this one to figure him out and you’re going to overthink it. If you want him to treat you special- or just right, read on. You need to remember to keep things simple. That’s the start.
A long conversation about this isn’t going to work out very well. Open, candid honesty will but only if you’re going about it the right way: and that right way is one that doesn’t stab him right in the ego. Taurus men have notoriously easy-to-wound egos and you’d do well to remember that as you go.
There is another breed of Taurus man, too- the one who is all about that clean living. He may be very much an environmentalist, he may be active and always on the go: and he will also want you to be, as well. If you’ve managed to snag one of those- get ready to get fit, because he will see that as a perfect way to spend time together.
Now, you probably already know that his passion is an intense, powerful thing- but, it may seem to wax and wane, which is a little bit on the “too little” side for you. He doesn’t like innuendo and he cannot stand anything that looks like a mind-game- so, again, being direct is the only way to go with him and never, ever assume there’s so much more beneath the surface. Mostly. His feelings are another matter from his thoughts.
If you’ve already lost your cool- you probably know, their reactions can make this so much worse. Notorious for not being easily ruffled, you may have been on the receiving end of a Taurus man telling you that you were being over emotional or that perhaps, you just don’t see things the right way.
Using your strengths as a Scorpio woman to snag that Taurus man
You know, much has been said about Scorpio and I’ll try to refrain from such jokes here, but, one thing that works for a Scorpio woman when it comes to seducing a Taurus man: that stare. Your eyes are probably going to be a bigger draw to him than you might imagine- because, in them, he can see that there’s a depth he’d like to explore, and he can almost sense the passion beneath.
I don’t really think I have ever seen a sign that gets more misunderstood than you Scorpio women. Of course, most of you tend to like it that way: not so much being misunderstood as being mysterious and enjoying playing with people just a bit.
This may not be your best bet with a Taurus but it can also be a big, big draw if done correctly. Think about it in fractions- you want to be about 85% consistent and stable and 25% mystery that keeps him on his toes for good measure and that will be a nearly intoxicating blend.
Though people say what they do- the truth is, deep down, you’re looking for that profound connection, the once in a lifetime love that just maybe your soulmate- and your Taurus man could be that for you. Maybe.
One of the assets you possess- and one that might put off your Taurus, too: you are remarkably perceptive and can get to the heart of things pretty easily. In a well-played sense, this enables you to see past his tough exterior, the veneer of not really caring and get to the love that is underneath- and probably, the fears he has about it as well.
On the other hand, if you push or prod him before he’s comfortable opening up- you might just find your calls go unanswered. You will want to just keep your observations to yourself on that front for a little while, while you build the trust between you.
He needs to know that you are a safe person to open up to, in order for him to open up fully on his own- which is exactly what you want from him. This may bug you a bit because you can see the areas where he’s a bit on the hypocritical side with stark clarity: but woe betide you mention it and end up on the receiving end of that patronizing tone he takes!
It’s really best to allow yourself to be open with him in a calm fashion about the things you think and feel: he will typically follow suit, albeit perhaps a little slower than you’d like.
How to Win a Taurus Man’s Trust as a Scorpio Woman
Trust is the hinge this entire relationship turns on. A Scorpio woman reads people faster than almost anyone, and a Taurus man opens up slower than almost anyone. That mismatch in pace is where so many of these pairings stall. You see straight through him, and he feels exposed before he feels safe.
The way through is patience that does not feel like withdrawal. Let him see your consistency before you ask him to reveal his depths. In a survey of over 5,600 women involved with Taurus men, more than a third said the relationship was not progressing at all, often because he needs far more time to feel secure than his partner expects. Your job is not to speed him up. It is to make staying feel safe enough that he chooses to move forward on his own.
Show him steadiness in the small things. Keep your word. Stay calm when he goes quiet. Resist the urge to test him the way you might test others, because a Taurus man experiences testing as instability, and instability is the one thing that makes him retreat. If his silences have been leaving you guessing, my guide to why a Taurus man ignores you will help you read what his quiet actually means.
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Here is where it gets tricky for a Scorpio woman in trusting her Taurus man
You have to understand one thing about a Taurus man: when he can make your face light up and he can make you just radiate joy, or, well, an orgasm: he’s at his happiest, believe it or not. If he knows that he can take care of your needs, make you laugh, get you thinking, this is what he’s going to do and he will relish every minute of it. Doesn’t sound like the Taurus you’re dealing with? Read on.
At his core, Taurus is a very primal Earth sign. He has this innate desire to provide, particularly for his woman. I think all too often, we have come to this point in our culture where we think that “men providing” is an outdated relic- and for a lot of people, it’s not possible anyway, because most households now need two people working. However, that doesn’t mean that men have lost touch with this and certainly not Taurus!
So, how do you bring this out in him? You have to trust him to do it and he will know if you don’t. He may not say so, he may not relay his observations as much as you do: but he knows. This urge to provide for loved ones goes very deep into his being and if he can make sure you are taken care of on all fronts- that’s what he will want to do. But he has to know you want that and he has to know you’re receptive to it, actually receptive.
All too often we allow fear, insecurity and even pride to stand in the way of the relationships we deserve- and for a Scorpio woman, this one’s a toughie because it can be hard for you to be open and vulnerable in these ways: but that’s exactly what you should do in order to appeal to that side of the Taurus man.
You might wonder what it is he wants in return when he’s being kind to you, or when he’s being romantic- and that’s something he picks up on. It’s important to bear in mind that of course, he wants something in return! Not what you’re thinking, though- I am sure he wouldn’t say no to that, either. No, the Taurus man is looking for that one woman that he can spend the rest of his life with, the companion and best friend that he can trust above all else. Not too bad, right?
The key is, being open and letting him know that woman just might be you. Being receptive and vulnerable yourself will go a very long way in encouraging similar behaviors in him.
Taurus in the bedroom
As I mentioned above, Taurus men tend to be remarkably physical and the sex is usually amazing. However, you have to be careful with this one- because, well, they’re indulgent and if you’re a match for them in bed: don’t assume you’re a match for them otherwise.
Even a Taurus man who has a wife but isn’t satisfied sexually has been known to step out for some strange- but, they won’t leave that stable relationship no matter what they say to justify the cheating. Typically, though, a Taurus man IS a highly loyal one.
You have to understand that what’s been said about the possessive nature of a Taurus is absolutely one thing you can bank on, no matter how it manifests in him. He won’t have a problem with public affection…as long as it shows other people your his. If it’s just a little over the top, he may balk at that, but, he’ll probably throw his arm around you or otherwise indicate “She is mine” which is always kind of nice.
Problem is if you’re looking for a guy who’s going to be sort of mellow about this, if you want someone who needs a bit more openness- he may not be the guy for you. If you are able to accept your role in his life as just the booty call on the side, he may stick around if he’s married, he may not. Either way, he’s unlikely to upset the applecart at home.
Stability is everything for them, even in the bedroom. Playing hard to get will pretty much assure he darts off to easier to get: so your directness is an excellent strength for you in this regard. He CAN be romantic- but, conventionally so.
If he hasn’t gotten around to clarifying your position in his life- you also shouldn’t assume that he sees you as some sort of “on the side” or that he sees you as only a sexual playmate, either- he may just be waiting things out, seeing how it goes and making sure that you are a safe bet for him.
In the bedroom, your best bet is to keep your expectations known and clear- without damaging his ego. They take a great deal of pride in their ability to satisfy their lovers, and depending on how you broach the subject- you might accidentally hurt his feelings when all you wanted to do was have a little sexual exploration! Be sure you open with some praise for his prowess and then, go from there to gently talk about the things you’d like to have in the bedroom.
Here is where things get just a bit tricky because you will need to be highly tolerant of some behaviors that don’t make a whole lot of sense. You are remarkably compassionate, but, if he’s not opening up to you about whatever it is he’s afraid of: it’s hard for you to be all that compassionate.
As a Scorpio, you really dislike anything that sniffs of laziness and he often engages in that, as well. You aren’t one to get stuck in a rut at all- but he is. Matter of fact, many is the Taurus who has remained in a bad relationship just because it was all he knows! This is actually not as bad as it sounds here- all these areas where you vastly differ from your Taurus man can be a HUGE asset once you get into the long-term scenario you’re after.
The most important thing for you to rely on, the thing that will get you through just about anything else on the list is your ability to communicate, Scorpio. You cannot afford to play the mysterious with him on this front- it just will not work. Clarity and calm are needed whenever you express yourself with him and you cannot push him- he’ll push back and bullheaded as he is: it may hurt.
Warning Signs This Pairing Is Struggling, and How to Turn It Around
Because both of you feel so deeply and hide so much, this relationship can drift into trouble quietly, without either of you saying a word. Knowing the early warning signs lets you catch it before resentment sets in.
The first sign is the standoff that never resolves. Two fixed signs can hold a grudge for weeks, each waiting for the other to bend. When you notice a disagreement has simply gone underground rather than been settled, that is your cue to be the one who reaches out first, calmly and without keeping score.
The second sign is his growing silence paired with your growing suspicion. When a Taurus man withdraws and a Scorpio woman starts probing, the cycle feeds itself. He pulls back further, you dig deeper, and the trust erodes on both sides. Breaking that loop usually means softening your approach before demanding he soften his.
The third sign is passion turning into a power struggle, where the intensity that once bonded you starts to feel like a competition. If you recognize these patterns and want week-to-week guidance on reading his moods and steadying the connection, you are welcome inside my Taurus Man Love Club, where I help you understand what he is feeling before it becomes distance.
Final Thoughts
You might have noticed that the two of you have a small handful of important things in common: but when it comes to most things, you are completely the opposite. Still yet, the magnetism here is too much to resist!
You probably enjoy a remarkable amount of chemistry which, sort of creates an intense bond between both of you. Because you’re both a bit on the jealous side, you may find yourselves going back and forth on that one quite a bit- but, for you two, this one will be MUCH easier to talk out.
Go slowly and gently when talking about what creates jealousy within you and allow him to do the same and you’ll find that helps a great deal. This may be a little difficult because of the vast differences in the way the two of you feel things- he’s fairly simple, you are very complex- but, if you put aside your stubbornness and meet him halfway, you’ll find his stubbornness subsides a bit, as well.
Much has been said about the potential for a soulmate connection in this pairing- however, you have to understand that a soul mate is meant to challenge a person: and this relationship, soulmate or no, will do just that! You will find that, between the two of you, when one compromises a bit, the other also does.
You are both much more apt to make changes based on rising to the challenge another one of you presents in their actions than you are being nagged or talked at. That much you certainly have in common!
Both of you have a strong tendency towards hiding emotions: though you hide different feelings for very different reasons. Taurus men tend to hide the depth of their love for another person out of fear of rejection or being hurt, whereas you tend to hide intense feelings of anger or hurt out of not wanting to be perceived as “too intense”.
But I think we both know people think that anyway, so you may as well go for it. For you, conveying the things you feel in a calm fashion when you aren’t in the heat of the moment will almost be cathartic- and, more than that, it will enable him to trust you enough to be vulnerable with you, too.
This can be a remarkably intense yet complicated relationship between the two of you. Though you’re just drawn to him- you may at times also feel like maybe you hate him and he likely feels about the same way: that’s what happens when passions run the gauntlet and it’s pretty normal!
Both of you enable the other to open up about things you might not feel like you can with anyone else- and that’s not something to sneeze at! You’re going to have to, however, allow each other the time and space to work through those more shadowy sides of each other, especially if there’s been hurt in your pasts!
You both may be very hesitant to allow yourselves to be vulnerable and you’re careful not to trust without good reason: which is a powerful point of understanding that can be used to grow closer, as well, when you talk about it together.
Questions Scorpio Women Ask Me About Taurus Men
“Are a Taurus man and Scorpio woman a good match?”
Yes, though it is a match that rewards effort. As opposite signs you share a hunger for loyalty and depth, and the physical chemistry between you is often extraordinary. The challenge is that you are both fixed and both proud, which means neither of you bends easily. When you each learn to compromise by choice rather than by pressure, this becomes one of the most devoted, magnetic pairings in the zodiac.
“Why does my Taurus man shut down when I try to talk deeply?”
Depth comes naturally to you and feels risky to him. A Taurus man processes emotion slowly and privately, so a long, intense conversation can flood him before he has had time to sort out what he feels. Keep it simple and calm, give him room to respond in his own time, and he will open up far more than he ever would under pressure. What feels like avoidance is usually just his slower pace.
“How do I keep the passion without the power struggles?”
The passion and the power struggles come from the same source, which is how strongly you both feel. Channel that intensity into closeness rather than control. Praise him before you ask for change, especially about anything tied to his pride. Be direct about what you want without turning it into a test. When a Taurus man feels admired and secure, his stubbornness melts, and the fire between you stays warm instead of turning into a fight.
So, who am I and how can I help you with your Taurus man?
My name is Anna Kovach and I have been working with astrology for a long, long time. One of the biggest things for a Scorpio woman is understanding. That deep urge to know, to get to the bottom of things- and I can help you do that in a number of different ways.
What if I told you that you could use astrology to know his innermost secrets, what makes him tick, how he emotionally relates to you- and others- and what might be in his past, present and future that makes him the way that he is?
What if I told you that you could have in your hands, a roadmap to understanding his mind a whole lot better and being able to get things right on track?
If you’re ready to understand more about how compatible are Taurus man and Scorpio woman, check out my brand new Taurus Man and Scorpio Woman Love Compatibility Guide, and if you want to catch him and keep him click here to learn more about Taurus Man Secrets.
Tell Me About Your Taurus Man
Are you a Scorpio woman in love with a Taurus man? What is the one thing about him you are still trying to understand, or the moment you knew the connection was real? Share your story in the comments below. I read every single one, and your experience might be exactly what another woman here needs to read today.
I am a Scorpio woman, falling fast for a Taurus man. This man does something to me that is undescribeable. Yes, as a Scorpio woman, I can be very jealous and emotional, but with him, I don’t want to be. I try my HARDEST not to be jealous. The emotional part, yeah, I’m working on that too. I don’t want to come off too emotional and run him off.
The Communication is OK so far but I know it will get better as we continue to learn how to effectively communicate with each other. The only thing is that right now, since the relationship is early, my Taurus is very reserved in his feelings. When I tell him how I feel or say sweet things, his responses are borderline sarcastic/sincere. It’s sort of like, he doesn’t know how to respond because he doesn’t fully trust that I am being genuine with him. We talked about it a little, and in his defense, he stated that sometimes when people open up to others, they take their kindness for weakness, therefore he is reserved in his actions for now.
The article talks about building trust on both ends, so for me, building trust is giving bits and pieces of me at a time to see how he responds before I trust him with my full vulnerability. With him, I know it will take consistency and proven loyalty, and for this man, I have never been more willingly to give him my everything. Whatever it will take to gain this man’s heart I will do.
The articles I have read, talk about the compatibility between Scorpio and Taurus being intense and frequently destructive, but I believe that that can be true without a true understanding of the two personalities. If both parties are willing to compromise, and at times, be able to Agree to Disagree, it can work. All relationships are work, you just have to find that person that you are willing to work with and fight for:) I hope to return with positive updates on us 🙂