Married Taurus Man In Love With Another Woman (Here’s How To Tell)

by Anna-Kovach, relationship astrologer
Here are the signs of a married Taurus man in love with another woman, and one warning that may assist you in going into this with a clear head...

Hello, my gorgeous lady! I hope you are doing well, especially since you’re navigating the confusing shores of being in love with a married Taurus man. A married Taurus man in love with another woman can be a complex situation, as Taurus men are known for their loyalty and dedication to their commitments.

This can often mean that a Taurus man will stay in a situation in which he is really unhappy, simply because he feels a strong sense of responsibility and obligation towards his marriage. Once he has made a promise he tends to keep it for life, which can make it difficult for him to navigate his feelings for another woman.

Are you in this situation yourself? Keep on reading to find out how to navigate a married Taurus man in love with another woman:

Does The Taurus Man Stay In An Unhappy Relationship?

The Taurus man’s loyalty and sense of commitment may cause him to stay in an unhappy relationship, even if he has developed feelings for another woman. is loyalty is something that may prevent him from easily breaking his marital vows or pursuing a new relationship fully.

Taurus is a fixed Zodiac sign which means that he tends to value stability and consistency in his life, but especially in his romantic relationships. He is unlikely to ever cheat or step out of a relationship, even if the dynamic between him and his wife is extremely toxic.

He values his promises and stability, and breaking them would go against his nature. However, he may step out of the relationship and live a double life in order to fulfil his emotional needs with the other woman.

His loyalty and commitment are some of his best qualities, but they can also cause him to stay in a situation that isn’t making him happy or fulfilled.

Married Taurus Man In Love With Another Woman (4 Clearcut Ways To Tell)

When considering whether a married Taurus man is in love with another woman, there may be certain signs to look for. Here are four potential indicators:

Emotional Distance

One potential sign is emotional distance. When a Taurus man becomes emotionally distant from his spouse, it might mean he’s withdrawing and looking for comfort elsewhere.

Taureans usually don’t like to talk about their emotions much, but they feel deeply, and if they don’t get the emotional support they need at home, they might unconsciously start seeking it with someone they feel more connected to on an emotional level.

Relationships are critical to a Taurus, and they often try to work through issues to maintain harmony. If he’s seeking emotional intimacy with another woman, it might be his way of finding the companionship and understanding he feels he’s missing with his wife. This other woman could start to feel like a confidante, someone he can relax with and be himself without judgment.

Changes in Behavior

When a Taurus man starts changing his usual behaviour patterns, it can signal something significant is going on in his life. If he’s suddenly more attentive to his appearance, it could mean he’s trying to impress someone – potentially another woman. You might notice he’s dressing sharper, grooming more meticulously, or even working out more.

If he’s out more often, maybe he’s found a new hobby or just enjoying some me-time – or it could be a hint he’s enjoying someone else’s company. And about the phone secrecy – we all appreciate a little privacy, but if he’s acting like he’s guarding the nuclear codes, it could mean there’s a private conversation he’s not keen on sharing.

RelatedTaurus Man Hot And Cold — Why Would A Taurus Man Act Interested Then Disappear?

Seeking Alone Time

Another potential sign that a married Taurus man is in love with another woman is if he starts seeking more alone time. If your Taurus man is carving out more me-time than usual, it could be a sign he’s got someone on his mind. Let’s say he’s picking up new hobbies that conveniently include the company of a friend – and not just any friend, but a specific lady pal he’s always chatting about.

Perhaps he’s lining up those coffee catch-ups or gym sessions like they’re going out of style, and they just so happen to align with her schedule. It’s not quite a smoking gun, but it sure is a breadcrumb trail that could lead to a cozy two-person picnic.

When a Taurus seeks solo time away from his partner with someone else, it’s like he’s got a favourite new song, and he’s putting it on repeat. Sure, it could be innocent – everyone needs a break from coupledom now and then – but if he’s escaping regularly into the company of the same person, his GPS might be set to the heart of another. It’s one of those things that makes you go “hmm” and might be worth a chat to see where those solo adventures are really taking him.

He Is Being Unreliable

If that stable, dependable Taurus man starts to become unreliable, it’s like a flashing neon sign that something’s up. When he says he’ll do something, a Taurus typically follows through – rain or shine.

But if he’s suddenly flaking out on plans, forgetting important dates, or generally acting out of character in the reliability department, it could be a hint that his mind is preoccupied elsewhere.

For example, if he’s always been the one you could count on to keep his promises but starts to come up with excuses for why he can’t make it, or if the simple things he used to manage without a hitch are slipping through the cracks, it could be that a new love interest is taking up real estate in his brain.

This shift could look like missed dinner dates, late arrivals, or an unusual disinterest in joint plans. You’ll easily be able to tell that something is up and going on with him.

You may also want to readWarning Signs That A Taurus Man Has Lost Interest

Will A Taurus Man Leave His Girlfriend? (4 Hopeful Signs)

A Taurus man may be steadfast and committed, but when he is really unhappy he will start to show signs of wanting to leave his girlfriend. Here are some hopeful signs that a Taurus man might leave his girlfriend:

1. He’s With You In The First Place

Think back to physics class and see if you remember the word inertia. They never told you, but they were talking about a Taurus back then! They remain unchanged and unmoved unless something radical changes that. A Taurus who is happy in all regards won’t be straying far from his loving home. Period. 

It is only they feel threatened for a prolonged that they even consider moving from their current lifestyle. Anything that requires effort is something that a Taurus needs to think long and hard about before executing. 

Considering that carrying on two whole relationships at the same time is a fair amount of effort, it’s safe to say that being with you at all required him to make changes and put in work. If he was agreeable to that, then it’s a sure sign that it’s because there is something unbearable at home. 

So, as it turns out, you may have already won if you’re with the right Taurus! Despite this, it’s important to remember that there is more effort that he’ll have to put in to fully detach himself and it can be difficult to motivate a Taurus to put in any extra effort if what he’s doing is already satisfying his needs.

RelatedWhen A Taurus Man Decides You’re The One (Signs He Is Ready To Commit)

2. He’s Been Thinking About Leaving For A Long Time

Now, your one saving grace when attempting to make a Taurus implement changes and get a move on is if he has been slowly reaching the end of his rope for a long time. If you caught him at the end of his contemplation cycle, then there is a little more hope! 

If he’s been on the fence for a long while and then you show up and act as that external force that can give him a shove in the right direction, then he might just surprise you by actually leaving his wife! 

You can help him process this decision faster by bringing up his reasons for being with you and why he got with you in the first place. Sometimes externally processing with someone is going to be helpful to the Taurus man, since he isn’t a natural over-analyzer on his own. 

3. He’s Feeling Critiqued At Home

If you know anything about Astrology you know that the Taurus man is the type that has no interest in making long term changes! This is one thing that can be both his greatest strength and biggest weakness. 

The Taurus man is going to feel backed into a corner when he is asked to make changes of any variety. He’s never going to respond well to being forced to do anything. As a result, he can feel threatened by critiques that others have for him.

When the Taurus man’s wife is constantly criticizing him and asking for changes, this feels like a lot of pressure for a Taurus man. He isn’t going to appreciate feeling budged into doing things he doesn’t want to do. 

The Taurus man is like an immovable wall and even though others could sling arrows at his fortress, he won’t be making big moves for anyone but himself. However, he might think about moving away from the one commanding the attack on him! 

If his wife does not being understanding and is attempting to force changes, the Taurus will try to deal with it for a long time. He has a lot of patience and his will takes a lot of chipping away at to make a dent. Over time, he may just find that he’s had enough and make the big decision to leave her.

4. Not Enough Physical Affection

Taurus is ruled by Venus, the planet of love, affection, and sensuality. Venus appreciates the feel-good things in life that make you all warm and fuzzy. This means that Taurus needs healthy doses of cuddles, gifts, and overall pampering. 

A Taurus deprived of physical affection will feel totally unappreciated and unloved. They have a highly physical love language, after all. They need tangible gifts and tenderness from their partner. In fact, a lack of affection is enough to trigger them to look elsewhere for it. 

Taurus has true resilience, and so he can last a long time in any situation if he puts his mind to it. To you, this is wildly frustrating since it means he is often not in a rush to leave. Even if he has intentions of leaving his wife, it might just continually be stuck on the back burner. 

So even though the Taurus is languishing in a loveless relationship, he’s likely going to be cool with this for a while since it’s what he knows. Settle in girl, because he may still have some humming and hawing to do. 

Is Dating A Married Taurus Man A Good Idea?

Dating a Taurus man can be a tricky situation that may leave you feeling unhappy and unfufilled. You will never have all of him because he will always be loyal to the woman he made a commitment to.

A Taurus man unhappily married may give you some hope that the connection the two of you share will eventually lead to a romantic relationship. However, if you just understand his nature and how loyal he is to his commitments, it becomes clear that pursuing a relationship with a married Taurus man is not a good idea.

Being involved with a married Taurus man can bring about emotional turmoil and dissatisfaction. You will always feel like his second choice because he will never be able to give you all of him and prioritize your needs and desires.

The Taurus man’s commitment to his marriage will always come first and you may end up feeling neglected and this could really affect your self-esteem and overall well-being.

It is important to prioritize your own happiness and consider ending the relationship if the Taurus man is not fulfilling your emotional needs. You deserve to be with someone who can be fully there for you and prioritize your happiness.

Read nextHow To Deal With A Taurus Man Sending Mixed Signals

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Sending you love,

Your sister and relationship astrologer,

Anna Kovach x

Anna Kovach

Hi, this is Anna Kovach. I am a professional Relationship Astrologer and author of dozens of bestselling books and programs. For over a decade I’ve been advising commitment-seeking women like you and helping them understand, attract and keep the man of their dreams using the astonishing power of astrology. Join over 250K subscribers on my newsletter or follow me on social media! Learn more about me and how I can help you here.

25 thoughts on “Married Taurus Man In Love With Another Woman (Here’s How To Tell)

  1. Hi Anna,
    I have been with a Taurus man for a little more then a year and a half but also in a very unhappy common law relationship and has two kids. His wife made the ultimate decision to end it officially in December 2020 but my Taurus man has come to terms with these changes but struggled quite a bit initially (because of the kids). during this transitional period for him. I am older then him by 10 years and our relationship has progressed over the time together but especially recently as his relationship ended. We worked together and that is how we initially met and started our relationship. Although a private man initially, he has over time come to confide in me a great deal and has opened up immensely. He tells me he trusts me. Yes I have struggled with reading his true feelings along the way, what he needs and his expectations (which are not bad). Your books/ wisdom have helped immensely with helping understand this man.
    I still remain afraid in some ways because of how our relationship started, I am an Aquarius woman, have had my share of relationship issues, and I have had to learn emotional maturity real quick and some new ways to operate when it comes to this man. He is serious about relationships and what he expects. I am drawn to this man and I believe he is to me too. Although we are compatible in many ways, we can be different too and sometimes our differences causes some issues.
    When issues arise he communicates his perspective, sometimes with some drama of how I messed up but it also makes me feel he wants it to work with me. He has also told me he loves me.

    So this is my experience with a Taurus man who was in a common law relationship, myself was ending a marriage ( not due to Taurus man). Still together and getting stronger

    1. Hi Milla!

      Thank you so much for sharing your experience with a Taurus man. I think you highlighted it quite well. It’s wonderful you two found the perfect formula to use with each other. I absolutely love when it works simply from proper communication. I wish you all the very best sweetheart. If you ever want to know more about Taurus men, you can check out my book Taurus Man Secrets. Blessings!

      1. I’m a cancer female dealing with a Taurus male who is currently in a relationship with a Scorpio female. We met at work and have been flirting and gotten closer emotionally and physically (not sex) over the past few years. I have since left that job and we secretly text about going out in dates and how much we miss each other. However, the communication has now become inconsistent. He’s told me plenty of times he’s going to leave his gf but hasn’t yet. The gf has contacted me in very passive aggressive ways (unbeknownst to him). Do you think he’s really going to leave? Do I need to be more patient? Or am I just someone he views to keep in his back pocket?

        1. Hi Tiffany!

          If he keeps saying he’s going to leave her then he doesn’t then he hasn’t told her anything and he has no real intention on breaking it off. I think she knows something and is waiting for him to fess up. It’s a sticky situation. I’d tell him he needs to choose because you deserve to be his #1, not his second choice. Make a stand honey. Don’t settle for less. I wish you all the best!

  2. I hope one day you bring up the topic “single taurusman in love with married woman”…For 8 years this man had å crush on me. And you can touch and feel the connection when we meet. We are neighbours you could say, so its inevitable.. I am decent and have no opportunity to end with my husband. Even though I quite in love myself, but I don’t show/say it. Why does not the Taurus man give up?

    1. Hi Elise!

      Oh wow… I hadn’t thought of that so thank you for the suggestions. I will put it in my list of future things to write. It sounds like your Taurus guy finds you safe because you’re already married and so he doesn’t have to commit to you fully. Is that what you would want for the long run though? You really need to find a way out of your marriage if you’re unhappy. Taurus me don’t typically commit to someone unless they can 100% be with them. He can be in love with you but he may find someone else to settle down with if you are still unavailable. Learn more about how Taurus men think by reading my books “Taurus Man Secrets”. Again, thank you for the suggestion. I really appreciate it!

  3. Hi,
    Thank you for posting this. It really resonated with my current situation. I’m Libra (f) and he’s a Taurus. I don’t even know how best to describe our relationship, he made me his girlfriend at one point… that was such a wonderful moment for me…

    He’s given me zero reasons not to trust him since the day we met. We built up a solid foundation of respect, trust, honesty, and loyalty. I was surprised by all of this since he rejected all my sexual advances, which is more natural for me. He courted me until he and his wife agreed to divorce, at which point he started interacting more romantically with me. He maintains that he’s old school like that haha. Then after his wife called me his girlfriend, he decided to make it official and asked me to be his girlfriend. Of course I was elated and said yes! Communication was open and forthright amongst all parties.

    The love we built up together was unparalleled in my experience and it’s given me the strength to carry on currently because we ended up being separated by distance…

    While we have been apart, his wife started guilt tripping him and making him feel like a terrible human being. I have been nothing but open, honest and supportive towards him, so there was nothing I could do to change his mind when he called one day saying “I feel like I have disrespected my family. I’m still going to divorce while in Florida but I’m not ready for a relationship right now. I’m not sure if I ever will be and I don’t want you to wait for me. I love you.”

    He asked for space and I have given him that for one month so far. (Don’t worry, I told him my wants and desires too, respectfully. He heard me quite clearly. He knows how loyal I am too…)

    A few days ago, I sent him a message to check in and see if he still needs more space? His wife responded for him – she texted me saying I have no right to text him. (She’s a Scorpio) Then I got a message from his phone at 11:30pm his time asking me to please not contact him. That he is trying to fix things with his wife and save his family.

    Now I’m left confused… he always said he struggled with how domineering and aggressive she can be. She also spied on his call logs and had many emotional outbursts while we all lived in the same state.

    Any thoughts?? My first thoughts and the feeling in my gut tells me to trust him and to give him time. Besides, he already has my whole heart, mind, body and soul. I was single for two years before him and I’m happy to be an independent lady in the meantime. Not to mention I’m loyal to a fault :/ and I really don’t know how to change my heart even if I wanted to. My plans are to move to Florida to offer him a greater chance to break free of her. But i won’t reach out to him directly at first. If it’s meant to be, we will run into each other naturally!

    Do you think she might be holding him emotionally hostage? I’ve heard this is a common Scorpio trait. But more importantly, does a Taurus man ever forget true love? Would he really rather stick with tradition than be at peace with himself?

    1. Hi Laurelei!

      Ok so he tells you that he’s trying to fix his relationship and family. You have to take him at his word. There is no confusion there sweetheart. It doesn’t matter if he decided or he is doing it for her the part that’s hard for you to accept is that he’s doing it either way. I am so sorry this has left you the way it has but it’s probably best to let him go honey. Find someone who doesn’t have to fight to be free and is already open to you alone. You’re right though… maybe one day he’ll break free and then be able to totally be with you. He might seek you out and only be with you. You cannot rely on it though right now. Do what you need to do to push yourself forward. You’ve got this!

    2. Hi Anna
      I have been with a Taurus man for a year now. We met a the gym, so we were seeing each other every day. We started off as friends and for months we could both feel something stronger building up and an amazing connection, but we wouldn’t say anything clear about it.
      One day we kissed and our relationship has been evolving since. He told me this day that he felt a stronger connection with me than he did with his fiance, and that he felt like we were a better match. He said he just needed some time to figure things out and proceed to the separation as softly as possible. He broke up 5 months later with his long-term partner with whom he has a child. She is a scorpio woman which has always been very controlling and a bit manipulative in most people’s opinion, although he insists she is a kind woman, who has many qualities which I am sure she does. A lot of people say she is controlling because he was never really allowed to have woman friends, and he always had to let him know where he was and what he was up to. She knows about me as he had told her about me (just as a friend) before things started to evolve romantically. Later, she suspected it strongly as she looked into his phone and found some strong evidence that we were more than friends (after the breakup). Fast forward to now, he is still living with her even though they both took steps to move out. She is going to be signing a contract for a new apartment shortly. Things have been evolving EXTREMELY slowly, but they are evolving. He is hiding our relationship from most people, and doesn’t really do public displays of affection as I can sense he is scared someone will see us. He says as long as they are living together he doesn’t want her to find out and live at home with the tensions and aggressivity that would come with it. He also doesn’t want to hurt her by openly being with another woman while they are still living under the same roof. For this reason, we only see each other in secret. He said to her that they had to move on and that she didn’t have to know where he was, and vice versa, so we see each other more, but he won’t spend the night elsewhere as he says it would be too hard for her.
      He was very clear with her on the fact that he would like the breakup process to move forward and is reminding her of that often when she seems to be taking too long to process technical things.
      However, when we talk things out, he tells me he feels very guilty for everyone involved, especially his daughter which he loves more than anything. He feels guilty for me as I am waiting in the dark, for her because he feels like he ruined what they had, and guilty for her daughter because he feels like her happiness relies on him. He tells I am his ray of sunshine and doesn’t want things to end, but it is hard for me to see him feel guilty towards his ex-girlfriend (even though I understand). When he tells me this, I feel like he regrets being with me. He includes me in his future plans and tells me things will get better once everything settles down, but I never feel reassured enough as I can feel he is concerned and suffers from the situation. I am asking for reassurance but he doesn’t really gives that to me as he says we never know what tomorrow holds. I think he has too many things on his mind to be able to give me the reassurance I need (I am aware that I need A LOT. I am an extremely sensitive capricorn woman and tend to feel like everything is going to go South as soon as I pick up on the slightest change in attitude, texting or distance). I am currently overseas and we see each other one week a month when I go back to our country. This situation might only last for a few months but that doesn’t help my mental state as I only see him a few times a month. He told me my absence was hard for him because he is going through all of this alone and no longer sees me at the end of the day at the gym to lift his spirit up.
      Do you think this will be a problem? Do you think he will end up wanting to go back to her? Or are you hopeful that things are on the right track?
      He doesn’t tell me he loves me that often but has done so multiple times, he is very affectionate when we see each other in person, he is very protective of me and seems to want to help me whenever he can. He has been taking slow but steady steps towards a definitive separation since we met. Things are evolving at snail’s pace but they are evolving.
      The thing he seems the most worried about is no longer seeing his daughter every day. He says things weren’t going too bad in their relationship with his ex and he could have stayed forever if it means his daughter would be happy. However, he says he knows staying wouldn’t be a good idea as it is not guaranteed that his ex-fiance wouldn’t have fallen for someone else later and leave him. He says in this case he would “lose” his daughter and would have lost both his lover and his daughter in the process. So deep down I think he knows he is making the right decision but is always worried that it might not be the case, reflecting on his decisions etc. That is hard for me. I love him deeply and want to wait but I keep overthinking things. I would be so grateful if you could give me your opinion.
      I really need it.
      Thank you so much Anna, your work is brilliant

  4. Hi Anna! Good day,

    Im a virgo woman and having relationship with taurus man for about 9 mons.
    Everything is doing fine between us but there’s one thibg keeps bothering me, does a taurus man will keep secret? I have issues about his marital status as it doesnt fit with what I saw in the photos I found out. He said that he is never married but I found out through facebook He is married but when I try to ask him he will always say he is not and Im just making drama and just thinking about myself.
    I do like him so much and this things bothers me alot. Also I dont want to ruin a family if ever its true I can give way. Its just that whenever he said never married I always feel something is wrong as it doesnt fit with what I saw.
    I would love to hear your advice Anna. Thank you and Godbless!

    Maria

    1. Hi Maria!

      Yes, Taurus men are human beings which makes him fallible including with secrets. Does he know that you found out via Facebook about his actual status? Maybe he says he’s married so that women won’t try to hit on him. It’s not unheard of. However, what’s important here is that you trust your own intuition about this. If you think he’s keeping a secret then try to go back to that status and take a screenshot of it and then show him and ask him why his status is what it is. Tell him you’re not creating drama, you’re just curious. If he still gets upset about this then yes, something is definitely not right and means he’s hiding something. No one will react in such a way when asked unless they’re trying to hide something. Remember.. trust your gut! I wish you all the very best!

  5. I’m a sagittarius with a taurus man and we gone through many ups and downs, outbursts of arguments and fights. But one thing is sure between us, we never left each other in a house and he’s been a loving, caring, responsible partner to me. The only thing I can’t stand is that he has a lot of ways and private time to stalk other women’s profiles, that’s where my questions erupt then and I know they hate being quiried a lot.

    It’s been bugging me until now and I’m trying to understand that it’s in their innate nature that they like to flirt and look beautiful imagery in people and not just on things. I’m a kind, loving, resourceful and reliable partner to him but I’m the curious and straightforward type to be feigning my knowing of him looking at other women.

    I know he’ll abide me through thick and thin because his statement rings truth to me when he said he only wants me for his wife because I’m the kindest, loyal and beautiful person he already found. But it’s still his activities that worries me a lot even though I can see how he is so loving and loyal to me.

    So why does my Taurus man always secretly try to stalk women’s profiles and seem to like staring on different photos of them when he’s so dedicated and devoted to me?

    1. Hi Marielle!

      It sounds like he’s not settled in the relationship. He’s restless and seeing what else is out there just in case. That’s great that you get stability from him but if you know what he’s doing in regards to other women then this needs to be addressed. I mean, unless your comfortable with it then you need to speak up. If he’s unhappy and he’s still looking to see what’s out there then this is a problem that will only progress with time or until he decides someone else is better. Don’t wait for that to happen! If you need more guidance on Taurus, check out my guides on Taurus Man Secrets. I wish you all the luck of the universe!

  6. I am talking to a Taurus Venus man. The connection was immediate and he seemed to want to spend all his time with me. He has a gf who lives far away and they barely see each other. Just once a month. Because of his Venus in Taurus he seems to be conflicted with the breakup, Tauruses can hang on to relationships that aren’t so great as we’ve read. I have distanced myself a bit because I have no intention of being the side chick,but it’s obvious we both still want to spend time together. I’m worried that if he does split with his girlfriend I will just be a rebound as Taurus men find it hard to move on and forget their exes.

    1. Hi Patty!

      Ok if his Venus is Taurus then it simply means that the type of woman he is best with is an earth sign such as Taurus, Virgo, or Capricorn. It doesn’t mean it gives him Taurus traits. You’re trying to make sense of Taurus via his Venus which isn’t exactly descriptive for such things. To know who he is is and what he wants, it’s better to look at his Mars because that’s who he is as a lover. Also his Sun, Moon, and Rising signs play a huge role. Compare yours with his and you’ll get far more more information. I hope this helps but if you would like more information then check out my guides on Taurus Man Secrets. I wish you all the very best!

  7. I’m an Aries with Taurus ex. We broke up years ago because I wanted to settle down then and he wasn’t ready. A few months after breaking up he wanted me back and said he made a big mistake and was ready to settle down with me. He pursued me for almost a year but I was in a new relationship and didn’t want to risk it. Fast forward years later, we are now both in relationships with other people and have young kids. I reached out to him to say hi, he suggested meeting up and we’ve been talking and catching up regularly now for months. The spark is still there. Recently we took things to the next level. I have feelings for him and I asked afterwards if he sees this as a one off or long term thing. He said he sees the sex as more a once in a while thing as it’s hard to do (sneaking around) too often. Does that mean he’s not serious about being in a proper relationship with me? I want to continue to see him if we have something real and can have a proper relationship in the future but if it’s just a fling for him and leads to nothing serious and could never lead to something serious, I don’t want to continue. How do I know? I don’t want to pressure him by asking directly or say I expect him to leave his partner for me or give him an ultimatum. That’s what broke us up last time. I also don’t want to get my hopes up and sneak around indefinitely. I already feel guilty about it. Thank you for reading.

    1. Hi Sarah!

      Well… him saying that he sees “sex” as more than once in a while as being just that. Sex. Just sex isn’t going to provide a long term relationship. Just that statement he made speaks volumes. It’s up to you to trust your intuition now. It sounds like he doesn’t want to be in an actual serious relationship with you. Trust your gut… guilt often means it’s not the right thing. I wish you all the luck of the universe sweetheart!

  8. Im a Sagittarius women with a taurus man. We met through streaming online and I instantly connected with him. We weren’t looking for anything but we felt drawn to each other instantly. He has 2 kids and told me he and his wife weren’t really together and that he stayed in the 9 year relationship due to the kids, they were married at 19. We were talking for a couple weeks when oneday I was sleeping on video call and his wife was there. She said that he didn’t tell u I live in this house but separate bedrooms. We both talked. We confronted him together and he said he wanted to be with me infront if his wife and that he loves me(for the first time) she said I can be with him if I wanted and that she’s done with him but I told her no. He trued to contact me and told me that he’s Bern telling her he’s been seeing me but she didn’t believe our relationship was real since its long distance. He would send recording of her saying laughing at him about the seriousness of him wanting to leave. She tried to keep him in the house and he jumped off the balcony to stay at motels so that I would talk to him. In the end she agreed to sign the papers and he moved away and is now staying with his grandparents. I don’t know how to feel. He said he will do whatever it is to prove that he wants to be with me and his serious. I push him to go back to his family but he will not but I knew I met him to push him out of his karmic cycle. My question is does he really love me, will he do to me what he did with his family, stay even though he wasn’t happy? He said he hasn’t really ever felt live untill he met me. Are we just another karmic cycle is he a forever soul mate?.

    1. Hi Ramen!

      I think if you really want to know the answers to your questions then you need to ask him flat out. Ask him if his love for you is true and is there a future between you. Taurus likes the more direct approach like this so they don’t have to guess what you want. Ask for the two of you to come up with a plan so that you can finally be together for the long haul if he does say he wants to be with you and loves you. Get answers!!! I wish you all the very best in all ways!

  9. Hi Anna
    I have been with a Taurus man for a year now. We met a the gym, so we were seeing each other every day. We started off as friends and for months we could both feel something stronger building up and an amazing connection, but we wouldn’t say anything clear about it.
    One day we kissed and our relationship has been evolving since. He told me this day that he felt a stronger connection with me than he did with his fiance, and that he felt like we were a better match. He said he just needed some time to figure things out and proceed to the separation as softly as possible. He broke up 5 months later with his long-term partner with whom he has a child. She is a scorpio woman which has always been very controlling and a bit manipulative in most people’s opinion, although he insists she is a kind woman, who has many qualities which I am sure she does. A lot of people say she is controlling because he was never really allowed to have woman friends, and he always had to let him know where he was and what he was up to. She knows about me as he had told her about me (just as a friend) before things started to evolve romantically. Later, she suspected it strongly as she looked into his phone and found some strong evidence that we were more than friends (after the breakup). Fast forward to now, he is still living with her even though they both took steps to move out. She is going to be signing a contract for a new apartment shortly. Things have been evolving EXTREMELY slowly, but they are evolving. He is hiding our relationship from most people, and doesn’t really do public displays of affection as I can sense he is scared someone will see us. He says as long as they are living together he doesn’t want her to find out and live at home with the tensions and aggressivity that would come with it. He also doesn’t want to hurt her by openly being with another woman while they are still living under the same roof. For this reason, we only see each other in secret. He said to her that they had to move on and that she didn’t have to know where he was, and vice versa, so we see each other more, but he won’t spend the night elsewhere as he says it would be too hard for her.
    He was very clear with her on the fact that he would like the breakup process to move forward and is reminding her of that often when she seems to be taking too long to process technical things.
    However, when we talk things out, he tells me he feels very guilty for everyone involved, especially his daughter which he loves more than anything. He feels guilty for me as I am waiting in the dark, for her because he feels like he ruined what they had, and guilty for her daughter because he feels like her happiness relies on him. He tells I am his ray of sunshine and doesn’t want things to end, but it is hard for me to see him feel guilty towards his ex-girlfriend (even though I understand). When he tells me this, I feel like he regrets being with me. He includes me in his future plans and tells me things will get better once everything settles down, but I never feel reassured enough as I can feel he is concerned and suffers from the situation. I am asking for reassurance but he doesn’t really gives that to me as he says we never know what tomorrow holds. I think he has too many things on his mind to be able to give me the reassurance I need (I am aware that I need A LOT. I am an extremely sensitive capricorn woman and tend to feel like everything is going to go South as soon as I pick up on the slightest change in attitude, texting or distance). I am currently overseas and we see each other one week a month when I go back to our country. This situation might only last for a few months but that doesn’t help my mental state as I only see him a few times a month. He told me my absence was hard for him because he is going through all of this alone and no longer sees me at the end of the day at the gym to lift his spirit up.
    Do you think this will be a problem? Do you think he will end up wanting to go back to her? Or are you hopeful that things are on the right track?
    He doesn’t tell me he loves me that often but has done so multiple times, he is very affectionate when we see each other in person, he is very protective of me and seems to want to help me whenever he can. He has been taking slow but steady steps towards a definitive separation since we met. Things are evolving at snail’s pace but they are evolving.
    The thing he seems the most worried about is no longer seeing his daughter every day. He says things weren’t going too bad in their relationship with his ex and he could have stayed forever if it means his daughter would be happy. However, he says he knows staying wouldn’t be a good idea as it is not guaranteed that his ex-fiance wouldn’t have fallen for someone else later and leave him. He says in this case he would “lose” his daughter and would have lost both his lover and his daughter in the process. So deep down I think he knows he is making the right decision but is always worried that it might not be the case, reflecting on his decisions etc. That is hard for me. I love him deeply and want to wait but I keep overthinking things. I would be so grateful if you could give me your opinion.
    I really need it.
    Thank you so much Anna, your work is brilliant

  10. I’m in a situationship with a married Taurus man. In the beginning I was attracted to him and just wanted sex, he told me he’s not that kind of guy and opened the door to the possibility of a future together. We talked all the time on the phone, met eachother places, never had sex. But things got more sexual, we would have phone sex, but again never kissed or went too deeply in person. He would talk about future plans and say he was waiting for his two older kids to go to college, one is in it now and the other is a year and a half away. In this time he’s done a lot to teach me to build up my self esteem, taught me more about budgeting and how to go after my goals and be the person I’m meant to be. He’s even gone so far as to do things to help my career behind the scenes.

    We’ve known eachother in this situation for a year and a half now. Average talking on the phone for almost 10 hours a week. One day we talked/video chatted for 5 hours. Suddenly he stopped talking about the future and pretended he never said those things. We got into a big fight about his inconsistency and I stopped talking to him for a month.

    We’ve just started talking again. Picked things up like nothing changed, though I’m more guarded then I was before. We discussed picking our “friendship” back up after the holidays. My mind is not where it used to be with the hope in this situation anymore and I’m just…on the fence now. I’m sure he can feel that. Everytime I’ve tried to walk away he’s stopped me. I don’t know what to think or do.

    1. Dear Kay,
      The fact he is married, additionally complicates things.  Taurus man cheats when he doesn’t feel respected, appreciated or loved, and therefore protected emotionally enough. More than any other astrological sign, Taurus guy needs to be praised by his special woman so he could feel special too.
      By the act of cheating, he proves to himself that he is sexually attractive, highly respected, adored or needed. And in this sense, be aware that most affairs don’t happen just like that, all of a sudden. It takes time.
      Don’t ever allow him to make you his second choice. You always need to remember that he is married and unless he has a clean situation on his plate, you won’t settle for anything else. Sending Love!

  11. Hi Anna
    I have fallen madly in love with a taurus man after 2 months of being inseparable since we met, he has now told me that he is in a kind of relationship with another woman. He said he’s been seeing her for a about a year but lives alone, he is extremely busy with work & constantly on the phone to me at all hours of the day when he wakes he messages me morning & last thing at night, when he has free time he’s with me or I’m at his place but when I address his situation he says it’s difficult and doesn’t want to hurt anyone but please don’t leave him he doesn’t want to loose me. I don’t want to get hurt but I’m so in love and don’t understand how or when he has any time for her he says he hasn’t had time to spend with her since meeting me but why won’t he just end it they have no children or commitments together will he leave her or is he playing me I want to be with him but don’t want to waste my time if he’s lying??
    So confused and not sure what to do??

    1. Dear Hayley,

      You need to know your worth. Save space for people who matter.
      Accept what cannot be changed and leave what isn’t for you.
      Don’t ever allow him to make you his second choice.
      It is obvious that he wants to keep the door open for intimacy.
      If you want to be in a non-committed relationship, things may work well for you both.
      If not, then you should not hold high expectations that this relationship will grow into an exclusive relationship.
      Best of luck to you!

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