You’re just starting to feel close and connected when your Taurus man suddenly pulls away and becomes either physically or emotionally unavailable. Is your Taurus man pulling away, and you don’t know what to do?
These time-tested tips based on relationship astrology will help you understand what scares a Taurus man away and what to do when a Taurus man pulls away. This is going to give you the skills to create a healthy relationship with your Taurus.
But the first thing I want you to know is that your Taurus man may actually not be over you but just temporarily focused on solving another problem that has nothing to do with your relationship!
A Taurus man has a one-track mind—just like a bull looking at that red flag—and they don’t multitask well. The very first thing you need to do is stop panicking and ask him what is going on in his life without hurling accusations or being negative.
You don’t want to assume your Taurus man has lost interest in you. It’s part of his personality to go through hot and cold spells due to his sensitive and caring nature. Let me explain.
Why Is A Taurus Man Pulling Away? What Scares Him Away?
When a Taurus man pulls away, this could happen for several reasons. One of the reasons would be your constant neediness and tendency to ask him for validation. This is what a Taurus man cannot stand.
At times, he is prone to insecurity and tends to pull away. Speaking in riddles is also going to pull him away. Is your Taurus man overwhelmed, and this has led him to blow cold and pull away? Totally expected.
Also, your Taurus man may be experiencing trust issues in the relationship. A Taurus man loves security and stability, and if he senses that he cannot trust you or that he cannot anticipate your next move, most likely he will withdraw because he doesn’t like uncharted territories.
Good communication can be crucial in saving difficult relationships, and bad communication can destroy good relationships. Communication is the biggest indicator of whether a relationship can stand the test of time.
If a Taurus experiences conflicts or disagreements with you, he will most definitely seek solitude to reflect on the whole situation. Here’s more on how to communicate with a Taurus man effectively <<
If you’re in a situation where your Taurus man says he doesn’t think it’s going to work and you’re feeling lost and unsure of what to do, I strongly recommend my 30-day Taurus Man Love Challenge. This program is designed to give you all the tools you need to bring back the passion and connection in your relationship. Start your journey today!
4 More Reasons Why Does A Taurus Man Pull Away
1. Your Irresponsibility Is A Deal-Breaker
Taurus men need respect and trust in a relationship—otherwise, there’s no foundation for him.
If your Taurus man pulls away, you must show that you’re responsible enough to trust and then responsible enough to respect. This is especially true when it comes to matters of love and money.
If you’re constantly getting fired, emptying your bank account, losing your wallet, or behaving carelessly with your possessions, he won’t be able to relate. Even worse—act irresponsibly with his heart, his hopes, and his sensitive spots, and you’re finished.
A bull can smell instability, and it turns them pale. He’s always trying to walk the line and can grow resentful of those who can’t or won’t.
2. Emotional Meltdowns Pull Your Taurus Man Away
The slow and deliberate processing of emotions is the Taurus way, and that includes both actions and reactions. They’re slow to anger, slow to love, and slow to digest. If a tornado blows through their lives, they’ll either survive because they were tied to something steady or die because they thought quickly enough to run.
If there’s one thing a Taurus doesn’t understand, it’s a meltdown. The chaos of emotions and the suddenness of impact are totally bewildering to the bull.
It’s likely that a Taurus man won’t understand what cocktail of triggers upset you, and worse, he won’t see why you reacted so strongly. The lightning-strike timeline of many meltdowns is also nerve-shredding to the average bull, who cherishes safety and predictability.
Some people can take a little drama in stride, mostly because they understand the hows and whys. Not Taurus. They’re some of the most supportive and emotionally generous creatures out there, though, and they want to be your rock when something’s going down.
Read also: When A Taurus Man Decides You’re The One (Signs He Is Ready To Commit)
3. Your Shabbiness Is Not Helpful
In truth, Taurus loves beauty. A lot. And part of their initial attraction to you was likely physical, even though you’re definitely funny, sweet, and great to be with, too.
And it’s not necessarily the facade of beauty that Taurus is drawn to. Makeup, good hair, and nice clothes are a great bonus, but if it isn’t you, they’ll know.
Natural beauty is at the top of the list for a Taurus man, and that means beauty you can see both inside and out—a fresh-faced kind of beauty homegrown from good health, sunshine, and, sometimes, good genes.
It may seem contradictory, then, to say that makeup and all that doesn’t matter in the face of natural, inner or outer beauty. Because it actually does.
Let me explain—your accessories and embellishments should only enhance what you already have, not hide imperfections or create illusions.
4. Speaking Vague Pushes Your Taurus Man Away
Taurus loves absolutes; that’s what they understand. They love the simplest, purest, most classic, and most exquisite versions of everything because they believe in simple, classic, and exquisite purity, of course!
Coca-Cola, blue jeans, rock n’ roll, Chuck Taylors, little black dresses, Disneyland, chocolate chip cookies, steak dinners, hugs, and red roses—your Taurus guy totally gets the appeal. This is a taste issue, a value issue, and a concreteness issue. He loves to choose sides, to define, construct, and hold.
His opinions are often fixed, and so is his morality. He often knows exactly what is “right,” what is “wrong,” what’s “cool,” and what isn’t. He’ll say that what’s time-tested is what’s best, solely because it’s time-tested. Taurus Man pulls away simply if you undermine his opinions.
So be prepared to argue with your Taurus sometimes, but adopt an agree-to-disagree mantra!
If you’re someone who changes with the weather, who’s allergic to “yes” and in bed with “maybe,” a kook whose resolve is as porous as a sea sponge… Well, how did you find yourself interested in a Taurus?
A dreamy, soupy personality is confusing to the male bull. He might initially find himself amused and intrigued, but he will find little to hold onto.
If you can make a list of your favorite things (keep it simple), pick a restaurant (nothing too adventurous), and show up on time at least three times in a row (wow!), you’re on your way to charming your Taurus sweetie.
What To Do When A Taurus Man Pulls Away
If you feel like you’re lacking structure, try to plant a few roots. Tidy up and upgrade your home, perhaps with some comfy, stylish new furniture. You could open a savings account, buy a few Tile trackers for your keys, or start a side hustle with one of your secret skills.
Someone with her feet on the ground and her eye on the prize—now that’s something that really turns a bull’s head.
Don’t sound needy or clingy; don’t display a variety of emotions all at once. Dial back the tears, swallow your anger, and count to 10 before choosing your words. Then ask for his help. You’ll be curled up in his arms in no time.
Always take care of yourself and your appearance. To show the extreme end of the spectrum as an example: if you stop taking care of yourself, your diet worsens, you skimp on sleep, and you start living in stained old T-shirts, your Taurus man will notice.
Take him somewhere nice. If you can make a list of your favorite things (keep it simple), pick a restaurant (nothing too adventurous), and show up on time at least three times in a row (wow!), you’re on your way to charming your Taurus sweetie.
If you’re frisky, free, and flirty on a regular basis, Taurus is not the best match. But if your wild spirit is finally ready for a safe harbor, Taurus would be happy to have you—as long as you stay true.
Learn more about what a Taurus man likes and dislikes in a woman here <<
When A Taurus Man Pulls Away — Don’t Make These 5 Mistakes
1. Blaming Him For Your Problems
Ladies, don’t tell your Taurus man that it is his fault that you spent all night awake worrying about your relationship. Don’t blame him for your feelings or mood.
Remember how I said you might be jumping to conclusions about why he has been distant? If there is something bothering him, be patient and listen to why he may be unsure about things.
Show your Taurus man respect—he is very big on respectful communication.
2. Trying To Force Him To Come Back
If you are feeling lonely, it’s OK to suggest a plan to get together, but don’t demand that he drop everything to come and make you feel better.
First, address your assumptions, and then find a time to calmly discuss how he is feeling about the two of you or what else is going on in his life.
3. Texting And Calling Him Incessantly
If he is in the middle of a project, he may not be able to answer you right away. If you bombard him with messages, it might give him the impression that you’re not stable.
A Taurus man craves level-headedness, so just allow him time to respond without harassing him. And when you do communicate, keep it calm, collected, and positive without making him feel pressured to call you.
Check here for the most common reasons a Taurus man avoids your texts <<
4. Trying To Make Him Jealous
It’s easy to fall into the trap of trying to get your Taurus man’s attention with jealousy. You might think that if you go out with someone else, it will make him realize what he could lose.
This is never a good idea because your Taurus man needs to be able to trust you. You do not want to push that button, my friend.
5. Talking About Him Online
Avoid posting about your emotions online—if you do, it may haunt you when things turn around and he remembers feeling disrespected. Taurus is big on feeling valued, and if he has been spoken about in a negative manner, he won’t soon forget it.
His self-esteem is fragile, so don’t say or post something you might regret later, even if you’re upset now.
When A Taurus Man Stops Talking — Does That Mean He Is Losing Interest?
Maybe your Taurus man isn’t a typical bull. Maybe you’re sitting there scratching your head, pretty positive he is actually pulling away.
We are influenced by all aspects of our birth charts, and your Taurus may have other traits that strongly influence his personality apart from his sun sign. Take a look at his chart or get some advice on how to interpret it if you suspect this is the case.
For example, if he rushed into your relationship and has never been very reliable, he probably has other elements affecting his chart that will help you understand him.
The more you understand his unique astrological blueprint, the easier it will be to get along with your Taurus man.
If you would like to look out for the warning signs that a Taurus man is losing interest in you, check out my recent blog post.
Distancing Yourself From A Taurus Man — When To Walk Away From A Taurus Man?
If you’re someone who likes your man to check in with you once a day, let him know. He may not know how to best support you, and you can’t expect him to act as someone else did in the past. Make it clear what will help you feel safe and secure in the relationship, and ask what you can do to make him feel the same way.
If he doesn’t correspond well with you and you have a total mismatch of expectations, this would be a sign that you should walk away from your Taurus man.
A Taurus is not cut out for this sort of life, and once real feelings are off the table, he’ll become confused, jealous, resentful, and impossible to put up with.
If you don’t feel appreciated, if you constantly chase his love, affection, and attention, sometimes the real closure to this story is realizing you deserve better.
FAQ On Taurus Man Pulling Away
Are you struggling to figure out what to do about your Taurus man pulling away? Well, luckily for you I have compiled questions that might come up in your relationship.
Hopefully, this can help you navigate your relationship with your Taurus man.
Is My Taurus Man Testing Me By Pulling Away?
The Taurus man will test a woman through observation. This means he needs to be present in the relationship. He will test your compatibility, commitment, and trustworthiness, and he cannot do that from a distance.
Your Taurus man is pulling away because his feelings run deep while he is trying to figure you out. He wants to protect himself through the process of pulling away. This is nothing unusual; they just tend to act this way every now and then.
Will A Taurus Man Come Back After No Contact?
Your Taurus man will come back, but only if he hasn’t lost his feelings and trust.
He will not come back if he breaks up with you and then pulls away. This means there was a reason that made him act that way, but if he pulls away without explanation, most likely he will be back as soon as he figures out what made him pull away in the first place.
Take a step back, breathe, and don’t assume that your Taurus man has any idea that you’re all worked up and worried! He truly might just be digging into a new project, as he tends to do.
He can be a bit absent-minded that way. If you speak openly and calmly, he will let you know where he stands, but if you’re emotional and not direct, he won’t understand why.
Here’s more on how to get a Taurus man back and never lose him again <<
How To Get A Taurus Man To Chase You Again?
Taurus men take their time to observe a prospective partner, and they examine all the evidence you present to them as they weigh up the potential of a romance to become a stable relationship.
He may seem to lack interest, but he is probably watching you quite closely for any signs of red flags that will set him off or break his heart. If you show signs of being interested, available, or faithful at this time, he will start to chase you again.
Does Your Taurus Man Disappear After Intimacy?
Does your Taurus man pull away or get quiet when you’ve just had a deep emotional connection? Or does he seem to disappear just when you thought he was getting closer?
Have you felt confused by his hot and cold behavior?
If so, then he might have an avoidant attachment style. He could be Dismissive Avoidant and completely terrified of commitment… Or he could be Fearful Avoidant and REALLY want commitment… But get scared when he feels himself getting closer to you.
If he has either one of these attachment styles, you’re going to end up feeling extremely confused at times.
And both are caused by childhood trauma.
When you can see the scared little boy inside him that had to shut down his feelings if he’s dismissive avoidant… Or have a parent not provide his needs consistently if he’s fearful avoidant…
It can make it easier to have empathy and compassion for his confusing and frustrating behavior.
But that won’t fix it.
And while advice on attachment styles can be helpful… What you really need to stop this frustrating hot and cold cycle is to understand him better.
Thankfully, there is a simple system to TRULY understand how he ticks based on his astrology <<
It will stop your Taurus man from pulling back when you begin feeling closer. And it will accomplish in only 30 days.
So no more crying yourself to sleep when your Taurus pulls back… No more feeling incredibly confused. And no more wondering what in the heck is going on with him…
Even if he has an avoidant attachment style.
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xoxo,
Anna
My Taurus lover is extremely possessive and was not happy I was chatting with other guys. I asked for forgiveness and told him I would stop if we could work things out…we are back together and it’s amazing how we get along and have such fun…I promised him I’m his for as long as he wants me
Hi Aquarius Nurse!
I’m very happy to hear that you were able to work it out with your Taurus guy. Be sure you’re always being truthful and honest with him from here on out though. You can rest assured that even while things are going well, he’s still holding on to what happened and it can come out at any unsuspecting moment.He isn’t likely to forgive you again if something happens so please be careful!
My current situation with a Taurus that I’m interested in, he has pulled away. He asked me to back off, nicely. I text him occasionally and give him reassurance. I’m at a loss, I dont know where to go from here. I feel he is interested in me as well, he has opened up to me about personal things. So now, I am just waiting.
Hi Mary Ellen!
Well, that’s basically all you can do at this point. You cannot push him or he’ll close you off and never speak to you again. You have to be patient and give him some time to figure himself out and what he wants. You can text maybe once a week or so to “check in” by saying something like “was thinking of you, hoping all is well for you” or something like that. It’s simple and lets him know that you are indeed still there for him. Keep it simple!
Pls send me information on a Cancer man I am not interested in a Taurus man tk u
Hi Martha!
Please visit Cancer Man Secrets page.
I’m at a total lost! I was seeing my Taurus for about 7 months and everything was wonderful. He said he really liked me & enjoyed the time we spent together. But all of a sudden he just stopped reaching out. When I finally talked to him he said he lost interest but he was not sure why. We haven’t spoken since then. I really miss him & want this to work. Is there still hope or have I lost him?
Hi Kendra!
I’m sorry to hear you are going through this. If he’s actually said that he’s lost interest then you have to rely on him telling you the truth. I don’t think he would say it if he thought there was actually something between you. At this point I’d be inclined to tell you that it’s probably best for now to let it go and move forward in your own life. If he changes his mind, he’ll come back but otherwise, you’ll be doing what is right for you and staying open for someone else to come in and give you all you could ever imagine!
So the Taurus I have been with has a wandering eye, He is completely vague and speaks in fractured sentences – everything listed here is what my Taurus does – not me. Not sure if I am with a Taurus by these definitions. Wow I was hoping that this article would help
Hi Deborah!
There is a lot more to it honey.You should read the book and if you still need help, I am able to guide you with your one free VIP consult so that you get personal guidance. Hope to hear from you again soon!
Hi Anna
I recently got in touch with a Taurus guy on social media, we went to school with years ago and exchanged numbers, it’s been a month we speak almost everyday, he flirts, wishes me goodmorning and tells me I’m pretty/beautiful on my pics, he asks me to visit him but I’m actually delaying it because I don’t feel confident right now. I’ve quickly grown attracted to him and I believe he is too, he told me I was in his dream (naughty) but didn’t give the details but we have had naughty chats a few times. But then other days he pulls away and acts casual like he’s only responding to be polite. As far as I’m concerned he’s a single man but after a certain time I don’t hear from him then I wake up to a goodmorning text. He is confusing me, I know he likes me but then other days I feel him pulling away and then he comes back. I sent him some sexy pictures which he complimented and said “that looks sexy” and then the next day he was completely normal like he’s there but not there. I know he has a lot of girl friends so he could possibly be talking to other girls, I really want to catch this fish and have him interested but I have no clue his intentions.
Hi Carolina!
Darling you need to ask him where he sees things going between you two. It’s important you ask him because if you don’t then he may keep going as is and not see any problem with it like you do. Communication is very important with Taurus man so they know where you are coming from and what you need as a partner or potential partner. Ask him and you’ll find out. You can also read my book for more support.
I’ve been with a Taurus man for 8 years. And after that, I got attracted to a guy then he found out and break up with me. Is there any posibility to pull him back again? And what are the things that I should do? My zodiac sign is Cancer.
Hi Angel!
It’s likely that your Taurus guy doesn’t trust you anymore because you were attracted to someone else. You would have to prove to him that it will never happen again but it won’t be easy for him to believe. It will take lots of time and showing him that you’re only into him and won’t ever stray from him again. He may give you another chance but you definitely have to reach out to him and tell him you’re willing to work toward healing and proving to him that you will be loyal.
‘My’ Taurus and I have known each other for almost 2 years. He lives in neighbor country and works in my country. So he comes every week for 4 days…he and his ex bu about 3 months ago and right that time clicked between us. They have been together for 10 years. We had 2 dates and kissed on a 2nd…he said that he doesn’t want to hurt me and we can’t be together bc he and his ex might get together again. Then he kept texting and also lots of juicy texts. If he didn’t I’d be ok but…I fell in love and he has been telling me all sorts of things how sexy I was, how he enjoys talking to me etc. He always initiated first, then I initiated twice and he suddenly disappeared. I know I didn’t do anything wrong. I didn’t ask questions and force anything. I know he likes me but this situation with Corona is making things worse. We all have to be in quarantine and I am 100% that he is stuck with his ex or idk maybe they are back together…it’s so frustrating. I know if I texted him he would reply bc he’s very polite. And also he’s not a player, he never cheated…he’s a good guy. I have no idea what to do. I don’t want to lose him even as a friend. Please help…
Hi Moyca!
Yikes, sounds like this Taurus guy is in it for sex or sex talk. Taurus men aren’t normally that aggressive sexually but when they are, it’s not about someone they want to be with long term or even marry. Telling you that he might get back together with his ex is a huge red flag to me and tells me he’s keeping you at arms length so he doesn’t have to commit to you. He’s basically having you as a friend he can get sexy with. I wouldn’t rely on him to ever be more sweetheart. Friends is good but you’ve got to put your foot down and not let him talk sex with you anymore. Tell him you just want to be friends if that’s what you are cool with. I think it’ll be alright!
My Taurus and I met online last Feb. It’s different countries and not an easy reach. Up until Oct when we met irl for the 1st time he behaved as if he is looking for an LTR. We had great time and matched really well emotionally and physically and all; however in that same week he has been with another woman twice; he had made attempts to avoid contact but she was very pushy and since he never mentioned I existed they had sex on two occasions; I found out and felt miserable; talking about it with him relaxed me; we split on good terms and kept in touch; He promised he has cancelled any virtual relationships with other women; Later on he admitted he had sex with some that came over; At some point he told me he is in touch with that woman he cheated on me with, rarely.
Beginning of Feb I went over to him for a week or so; he behaved as if things are different and I expected it will be great this time; I had misunderstood the signals obviously and he was obviously testing me; he had been in touch with her the whole time and they met end of Feb. He is also keeping in touch virtually with some women just for fun; While I was there we had a few fights over his ways; I had caught a cold at the beginning and had that worsened; emotionally I was a wreck – I don’t function well when under that kind of stress and still we had good moments, he looked after me, making soup and cutting fruits; looking after my human element as he calls it; Sex was great; He does love me in his own way I am sure; his behaviour is as if he is testing us if we are compatible as LTRs. I stopped contact with him as soon as I got home a month ago. He reacts to my posts on social media and tried to contact me on few occasions. I did not respond. Last Friday he was telling he is sorry, he loves me, thinks of me, adores me, etc. I do know we are a great match although work is necessary. I have never been cheated on before and kinda don’t want to accept the obvious; I am afraid if I start talking to him again I will fall in his net;
Wondering if should fight for him, burn all ties, stay in touch as a friend or what? Staying silent has not yet given me the answers I am looking for…
Hi Polly!
Yikes! I’m sorry your Taurus guy cheated on you. There is no way to know for sure whether or not he will do this again. If I were you, I’d be really careful and make him work for it if he wants to be with you. He has to earn your trust from the get go again which will take time. Don’t forgive him right away honey. Make him show you that YOU are the only one and that you’re the one he’s committed to. I wish you the very best!
I’m a Leo woman who’s been seeing a Taurus man for about 7 months. He told me about 4 months into it that he wasn’t looking for commitment right away because he didn’t know if he’d take a job in another country and had a few months to decide but asked if it was okay if we kept seeing each other. I agreed and we went on a couple trips, and every time we’d spend time together he’d ask to take me out somewhere to eat or to a show. He started texting me more frequently showing more interest but insisted that he doesn’t want commitment. Then I asked how about we stop seeing other people (5 months into it) and he flipped out on me acting like I was trapping him, so I said fine; we can keep things how they are. Now he told me this month that he’s leaving the country for work by the summer and said let’s spend time before he leaves and I agreed, yet again. I kept it pretty casual, occasionally expressing that I miss him (cause he works in a different state) and only texting him every few days, not always answering when he texts. But then I got upset about finding makeup in his house lol and he told me maybe we should just be friends for now because we’re not on the same page if I get upset about something like that and that he doesn’t want to be tied down or have to answer to things like this. And assured me it could’ve been his roommates stuff (this was the second time I expressed that it bothered me) and he doesn’t like making me unhappy to which I had to get stern and had to enlighten him that he doesn’t control my happiness, that my concern was him sleeping with other people and me wanting to start to use protection, and asked him what makes him think I’d ever want to tie him down when he’s moving to another country and that I know he probably sees other women and that if he wants to leave, I’m not gonna stop him. That pissed him off and he said “I know you’re too good for me and we should stop seeing each other and best of luck” and I replied oh you’re mad because you’ve treated me like shit this whole time? (Which he just didn’t give me consistency) And I said “you’ll be back”. I know he told me he wanted things to stay casual from the beginning but his actions when he was in town were always romantic and he always treated me sweetly and insisted on making time for me and he’d even check in when he was away and see how I was doing. I just feel confused. he didn’t text me back after we ended the fight and when I said he’d return eventually. Of course maybe this isn’t someone I could ever have a committed relationship with but wow, 7 months you start to really care about a person so this is bothering me more than I thought. This was the first time I’ve ever stood up to him like that because I was pissed off that he acted like he was too good to commit to me so I felt like he needed to be knocked down a couple notches. I just wonder if he’ll ever try to reach out to me again. I’m a Leo and feel to prideful to be the one to apologize especially if I don’t feel in the wrong. I never once asked this man to be with me. But maybe I let him get away with too much this whole time. Help please 🙂
Hi Dani!
It sounds like it ended in a very hurtful way. The things you said to him made him feel guilt and made him feel bad about himself. Taurus does not do well with their emotions and when someone makes them feel bad about themselves, they shut down. He also had told you that he didn’t want to commit and stayed pretty true to that so the fact that he still didn’t want to shouldn’t have been any surprise nor would finding make up at his place be that shocking. I know it hurts and it sucks but I’m not sure if he will reach out to you again or not. He may very well have decided to close that door. Taurus men do hold grudges. You might try reaching out to him to see how he’s doing with his move. Maybe that will get him talking again but if not, you’ll probably need to move on.
Hello Anna. I’m so much worried. My taurus man feels interested in me. We were friends and class mates. We talked on texts on and off. He always complements me on my pictures that i am beautiful pretty girl and also used to say that I’m his dream pretty girl.. we also have romantic talks. The way he admires me I love that. He said he wants to date me and meet me. I was happy. We are long distance away. He belongs to another city..
He was comming to meet me on weekend.. I just told him on call that i have feelings and want to discuss about marriage. And He suddenly act cold and said we are friends very good friends. He have not seen things like this way I was shocked. He then didn’t came and gets cold. I was also in anger. But I never misbehaved with him. After that we didn’t talked for 3 months. And i really missed him so badly.. he don’t talk and admire me and even not commented on my status. And I also don’t talked to him because i was hurted deeply that he didn’t came to meet me I felt insulted and angry. And thought that he ditched me and he was not interested he was lying to me.
After 3 months one day he commented on my status. And I also started talking. And told him that I like him. And missed him. He said he will come and meet me. And on weekend he really came that was our 1st date. And he was happy to meet me and i was too. We talked and eat. And spent a good time together.
I told him that my parents have a proposal of their friend’s son and wanted me to marry him. But I’m interested in you. He said don’t give them positive response. I said ok. I also asked him about his interest and he said wait and then let’s see. And he also said i hope it will work btw me and you. I said yes it can if we both want. And I was happy after meeting him and he was too. One month going everything fine and better than before. He texts me. We talked every day. We also talked on calls. He told me about his family and all members.
But now problem is I was so much stressed and tensed last days because of my parents they’re forcing me to marry that guy they’ve selected for me. I told my taurus man that I don’t wanna marry him. And I’m interested in you. I want to tell my mom about you. And want a 100% guarantee that you will come in near future and meet my parents and marry me only. So that I can refuse to that proposal. And i really really want to be with you not with another person.
He said don’t tell about me to your mom right now. It’s so early. I need time. I can’t commit with you because you don’t know me properly. And it’s your personal problem what your parents are saying to you. We haven’t spend long time together. I want first to satisfy myself with anyone. I m not the person who jumped to commit early. I’m not such type of person.. and he said that it’s the matter of human beings and decision of whole life.. and you’re forcing me on this matter. I can’t do this right now and can’t guaranteed about anything. So you can do what your parents said. I don’t want to hurt you but this is the way things are.. I said how can we spend time together we are far away, he replied I don’t know.
And I’m now completely disturbed..
Please help me Anna. Tell me something that what i should do right now. What should i text him now.
I’m scared to loose him. I’m scared that he will pushed away now. I don’t know will he now texts me and marry me in future. Please help.
Hi Areeba!
It sounds like your cultures differ. You sound like you’re parents are trying to arrange your marriage. Taurus men don’t like arranged marriages because it forces them to be with someone when they’re really not ready. He’s telling you he wants to take it slow and get to know each other and basically you are putting pressure on him by bringing up marriage and talking to your family, etc. If you want to keep him and work through with him, you’re going to have to be patient and give him time. If you cannot do that then he may not stick around. If you can give him the time then tell him via text that you will give him the time he needs and that you’re still there for him.
I’m a cancer woman trying to work things out with a pisces man with a taurus moon.. He’s much more like this sign than his pisces sun sign. He’s starting to come around a lot more now. I’ve missed him so much
Hi SLG!
A Pisces man with Taurus moon will still possess Pisces though as it is his sun. He may not show you this side of him as Pisces men are really private people. He also doesn’t open up very easily so actually he’s being pretty typical of Pisces. With a Taurus Moon, he probably is guarded and will want to take things slowly instead of jumping in like a Pisces would do. So he’s being cautious. Be patient with him and let him figure out when he wants to get closer.
My Taurus man and I have been texting for about 4 months now, we met on snapchat, but we haven’t met in person yet when we started talking he was do sweet romantic lol and talked to me a lot, he even told me he would want to come to my city soon when he has enough money, as time went on, he stopped being all this, but we were still talking every day, I confronted him about it, that he is acting different but he insisted that he hasn’t, and that his feelings for me hasn’t changed too, he told me he has a lot going on in his life, so that’s the reason he is acting different
But I feel like things are getting
worse as time still went on
For some few days now, we barely even talk at all, I confronted him about it and he said he has been very occupied with a lot of things, and he said I’m not the only person saying this
What do I do. Am I wasting my time with him or not, will he come back around, or is he deceiving me
I am a capricorn woman by the way
Hi Laura!
It sounds like you two talked long enough for him to get comfortable enough with you to stop trying so hard to impress you. This happens all the time. If he says everything is fine and that he still is in this with you then you need to trust that. You need to tell him you feel he’s acting differently though. He can’t fix it if he has no idea something is wrong. If you need more information about Taurus man, please check out my book “Taurus Man Secrets”.
I’m seeing a Taurus man (40), who was married for 12 years, then dated somewhat on and off a couple of times. When we first started talking he was just too busy to date though he was interested. 6 day weeks on thirds and an 11 year old at home single dad. Which I did and do understand. But what started out as seeing eachother when he had time time, felt more like I was being hidden. He didn’t want labels because “they mess everything up because of expectations”. He has some issues and major trust issues and sometimes says he doesn’t want to fix it. It felt right now I don’t feel sure about it and it sucks. I want to give him time because when we’re together I know he cares. But he is very guarded and won’t explain or talk about stuff because he says he doesn’t know how. Which.. I have BPD. This drives me insane because I want reassurance we’re ok or to know there is a problem. We’ve only been talking a couple of months but I hate just seeing him sometimes and that it’s always at my place. We cuddle, hang out, and have sex. Then cuddle some more and he leaves. I want more but can’t approach it without him backing off. I know how I can be so I’m just worried I’m hanging on for nothing and filling a need of his. When he is with me I feel so sure but apart it’s very hard. But I knew going into it he didn’t have time and energy for a relationship. I just want it to be worth the patience and the wait because I know he’s been through alot. I just hoped you’d have advice. He shuts down easily and while he hasn’t this time around since I asked him not to, the first time (I was back and forth and broke it off because he got scared of the attachment and ran and I freaked) he has ignored me before and is the type to just people off. Am I filling a void for him right now or am I just not who he wants to date? Go with the flow he says.. or does he want easy? I don’t know.. I want to go out on dates and have fun without feeling hidden or like he doesn’t want that future with me. He has stated he cares but ugh. Please halp
Hi Rachel!
If he wants to go with the flow then it means he is in no hurry to dive into a commitment. It doesn’t necessarily mean that he’s interested in others. He may be afraid to plunge into something more serious. It’s alright for you to text him first or initiate. Taurus men typically don’t mind that. He’s trying to decide where you are in his life and until he does, you should just try to relax. Keep conversations simple and you just may find he comes around. If you would like more info, check out my book Taurus Man Secrets.
I went on a date with a Taurus coworker. The date was amazing. Absolute gentleman. It ended with him excited to see me again but I needed to tell him when. Each time I mentioned a day he wasn’t available. He text me everyday afternoon not morning. At work he only pay attention to me. Amazing attentive to my needs that’s not work related. Hold doors and offer to pick me up stuff from outside but have not planned date #2. It’s been 3 weeks. And he hasn’t texted all day tues but Wednesday when I texted he texted back right away. Text feels one sided but in person he does most of the talking. His face lights up soon as I walks in. I’m so confused. How do I equally pull back.
Hi Virgo female!
Oh brother. Tell him you’d like to see him but you need HIM to decide when he can since he hasn’t been available upon the dates you’ve suggested. You’ll find out by his response if he wants to do this or not. If you want to decode Taurus man’s behavior a bit further, you should check out my books on Taurus Man Secrets. It may give you the upper hand knowing more about his sign.
Dear anna please to hide my comment and your reply…. I’m in a toxic relationship with a Aquarius I’m Sagittarius, a Taurus men his in a newly relationship close by. He keeps watching me from afar I thought it was creepy at first but then he sent a drink with someone to give me now I thought he was just being kind. He started a friendship with my toxic bf he knows we go almost everywhere together, he called him one day and told him to let us go out and took us along with his girlfriend bought food (expensive food) but he only bought one meal and told my bf he doesn’t take care of men women ♀️ he drives but keeps calling my bf to bring him places like to go buy stuff or to pick up his gf, he keeps looking at my feet, something everyone dose because I have really small feet’s sooo… I didn’t take it personally. He keeps telling us me and bf problems he has with his gf not everything he will just hint us. When he talks to me he keeps coming closer so I had to keep backing off which later I thought was very cute☺️ he’s becoming protective of me and when he looks into my eyes I feel like he literally took my close off he bought a new vehicle and gave it to my bf to drive and told me to go with him thing is he decided to come along with his gf but told her to sit with my bf at the front seat she didn’t want to, he called my bf one day asking if he had not finished cooking as yet but I’m the one who cooks more often I think he likes our company, he leaves my bf inside the house with is gf to come outside a look over my home I was home that day. I’m falling for him he hand me something and I touched him on the hand on purpose a few minutes later when we where driving home he touched me on my shoulder while saying something and laughing he seems jealous to me when my bf is close to me he sends him to the shop or to borrow his charger or something else I think my bf and his gf started noticing so me and my bf had a little argument I told him it was over he was to bring me home now my bf told me it will never b over until he decided it to b, the Taurus herd it all he was also calling my bf out earlier to tell him some problems he had with him I had the same problems with my bf also well anyway I stopped going by his home the Taurus home thought it was best for everyone. But he started coming by my home to talk to my bf and one day he sent some body splash and lotion with my bf to give me then he disappeared now I miss him things are not working out between me and my bf it never was but y did he disappeared I miss him
Hi Tam,
It sounds like things were a bit complicated from both sides and it was too much for him to handle. By the way, any man who tells you that it will never be over until he says, is psychotic so please be careful. I would hate to see anything happen to you by some nut job threatening you. As far as this other guy… I would wait until things calm down a bit before you worry about it. Make sure you are totally free of your bf and back on track with yourself then you can seek out what you want. I wish you all the best but if you want to know more about Taurus men, check out my books on Taurus Man Secrets.
Hi Anna, thanks for this article.
I am cancer woman dating Taurus man. We have been dating for 7 months with 4 months of long distance without even meeting first. But it has been great so far. Just from last month we have had a couple of small arguments where he does not communicate and I end up feeling ignored. I at times burst out due to my past experiences which has left him shut down. And now he feels that he is alone and I m not supporting him. But he does not tell me what goes on in his mind. How do I make this better. I want to be there for him but also want to feel valued too. I feel taken for granted at times.
Hi Al!
Taurus men aren’t exactly forthcoming with feelings. That is just who they are. You cannot change him but you two can talk and find compromise so that both of you gets what you need. Be sure you’re taking good care of him and showing him love so he doesn’t feel ignored but ask him once in a while “how do you feel about this?”. You can also tell him “I need you to tell me sometimes what you’re feeling so that I can get it right and we can be healthy together”. When you two talk, be calm and rational. That will appeal to him better than an emotional outburst. Taurus man kind of shuts down when he’s approached with strong emotions. You can do this but you need to also be very patient. I hope this helps give you a bit of direction. Check out my guides on Taurus Man Secrets if you need any more tips! I wish you all the very best!
My Taurus guy and I have been together for 8 months. He has brought me home, introduced me to his family, we’ve been discussing starting a family of our own in the near future. He has never said the words, “I love you”, but his actions prove otherwise. Lately, he has been hot and cold. There are days he will send me sweet (sometimes kinky) messages and other days, he won’t respond to my messages. I am a bit confused. Is he perhaps seeing someone else? Why does he flip like a coin? Why is his behavioural pattern so unstable?
Hi Applemabe!
It sounds like he’s undecided what he wants with you. I mean after 8 months and cannot tell you he loves you? That’s not a good sign actually. They do take their time but after 8 months, they know whether or not they love someone. The hot and cold thing is because he isn’t sure if this relationship is what he really wants. Flipping like a coin is indecisive behavior. I would ask him how he feels about the relationship and what he wants going forward then you’ll know where his head is at and if you want to continue or move on. I wish you all the very best sweetheart!
Anna, I feel so lost…I have been involved online with a Taurus man (with alot of Capricorn energy too) for 3 1/2 months, and he says the most wonderful things to me – he says he loves me “so much”, and I’m his dream girl, and he talks about how things WILL be when we are together in real life…but he has made NO moves to meet me yet. When I asked him a couple of weeks ago, he said he definitely wants to meet “someday”, and told me what his plan is for that (us meeting halfway)…BUT…NO date or even hint of when!! What does that mean? We text 3-4 nights a week for about an hour, and then several times during the day on the weekends. I am always happy and sweet to him, and I am never demanding or needy, and I know he loves that about me…but I’m so confused and unsure of what he WANTS. He did tell me when we first met that he had been cheated on, and didn’t want to rush things with me because I am so special to him, which I appreciated, but I am just SO nervous all the time that he doesn’t’ really want me…or that he will change his mind about me!!!! I don’t want to keep questioning him, because I feel like that is unfair to him, but he doesn’t act “in love” the way I recognize – wouldn’t he want to meet me in real life, at least once? Wouldn’t he want to talk to me for hours every night? I am very willing to wait longer if he really does love and want me, but how do I know that he’s not just content to keep me at a distance? Or is he just keeping me around until someone BETTER comes along…would he do that?? I have asked him from the beginning to please be honest and tell me if he changes his mind, and he always says he will, and asks me to do the same…can I trust that? When we are talking, I feel so sure and convinced that he loves and wants me for real, but when we aren’t talking, the doubts are constant, and they hurt! Should I trust what he has told me about his feelings and keep waiting…? Or should I give up and tell him we aren’t right for eachother? I don’t want to hurt him either if he just needs more time!!! UGH…what do I do…???
Hi LisaDiane!
Online makes it easier for someone to make up a huge fantasy in their minds and even make plans but when they don’t do anything about it and there is no actual tangible proof that what they say is true, it leaves you hurt and confused. You need to call him out on it. Tell him you need to meet him in person so that you can see if the two of you have chemistry. Tell him that you cannot agree to commit to someone that you’ve not met even if the connection online feels real, you want to know how it is in person. Don’t let yourself go further with him if he cannot do this for you. Trust me… a Taurus man in love will move mountains to be with you physically. If he isn’t doing it then he’s full of it. I wish you all the very best sweetheart, trust your gut!
Thank you for responding Anna!
I did what you suggested, and it turns out he was worried about pushing ME, so I was misreading him completely!! We have made arrangements to meet in two weeks from now, so I guess we are going to step into REALITY and out of the fantasy…EEEEK!!!! Lol!! I think it’s time to order your Taurus Man Secrets if I’m really serious about making him happy!!! I really appreciate that you took the time to advise me! 🙂
Hi
I feel very lost. I have been involved online with a great Taurus man. From day 1 a very deep connection and talking for hours on the phone like 3 times a week and texting daily. Never had this before, we can talk about literally anything and also the silences feel natural.
He said he has feelings for me. He said he loved me (meant as feelings of that moment) and asked me right away how that made me feel when he said it in those words. He used Spanish words for that in stead of English.
After a week or 3 he started to slow down a bit with texting but on the phone he was still very much the same, loving and caring. I realized to late his texting was a push on the brake so I did not change my texting.
He told me had been hurt in the past and is afraid to get hurt again and is not ready for the next step. And that it al goes so superfast between us. He can’t keep up with.
Then we agreed in that call to set a routine for calling and chatting as he also told me that he gets stressed when he sees my texts and cannot respond right away because he is working or something.
After that call he went silent out of the blue. After a day or 5 he contacted me and said he would contact me mid next week to see what time is best for both of us to have a chat. And the next week he texted me hi how are you.
And I responded with how happy I was to hear from him. And I also expressed feelings for him, too much at that point, I know…
And that’s it, since that response of me he does not respond to anything. That is now 3 weeks ago and I totally do not understand. I read your books but difficult to handle this. As I feel the connection was very real and deep. And I am 200% sure that he has/had feelings for me.
I am a cancer woman by the way.
I send him a message once a week now and maybe I overwhelmed him with those as I told him what I feel for him but also that he does not need to respond until he is ready. But the messages I send are long. He only reads them (I see it) but does not respond.
What to do now?
I am doubting between telling him how I feel in this space or just a short ‘how are you, hope you are well’.
Afraid that the first one, as it goes deep again, will push him away further. As he almost gets into panic revealing his feelings when I asked directly, so I heard earlier on the phone. I already noticed that he shows his feelings with actions but I realized that too late…
Thanks for your input from a desperate cancer woman :)!
Hi Ladylng!
Don’t send him long winded messages or he’ll read the first sentence and ignore the rest. He isn’t one on texting so trying to read long messages are a no no with him. Give him some space and don’t text him for a few weeks at all. Then when you do say simple things to him like “I’d love to see you, how are you?” Short messages get his attention far more than you’ll know. Give him that space. I know it’s hard for you to do as a Cancer woman but you can totally do this! I wish you all the very best sweetheart!
Started off very hot online with my Taurus man. For 4 weeks calling often and texting and it felt like coming home. Could talk for hours about really everything. Like a magnet!
And he expressed he had feelings developing for me. He also said he was very attracted to me inside and out. He also said that we go so superfast, a bit too fast.
And then he said ‘te amo mucho’ and he asked me right away how that made me feel that he said that. He said it were not just random words for him when I asked him about it.
In our last call, he told me he was hurt in the past, deep hurt and is afraid of getting hurt again. He said he has feelings for me but not ready for the next step. I asked a bit further but heard him panicing and he wanted to hang up the phone.
And then he was completely off the radar for a week. Before we had contact every day!
Then he suddenly texted me he was going to text me in the next week when we could see he can have another chat. And so he did but only asked how I was. But I was so happy to hear that I expressed that very much in my reply. And that was his last text…
And the I didn’t hear from him for 3 weeks, just nothing! I send him a text every week to let him know I was still around and also put my feelings in it.
After almost 4 weeks I told him that I really wanted to know how he was and that it hurts me not knowing.
And then he replied this:
Thanks for your messages. I stopped talking to you because I needed space and my own time. It’s nothing you did or said and it had everything to do with me. Sorry but I don’t want to talk. All the best!
Is he now gone for good? What is this? I think there is some past thing he is dealing with from his previous relationship, because he was hot all the time and expressed his developing feelings. And then, boom, gone when I came close.
What should I do? Let him now for a longer time? And check in after a few months if he is ok?
Tnx so much Anna!!
Hi Ingrid!
It sounds like he’s made a decision not to go forward with what you two had. It’s not a nice way of doing it but it does sound like he’s ended it. “All the best” in a situation like this is definitely a way of saying goodbye. I am so very sorry sweetheart. Whether he’s gone for good or not remains to be seen. Try going on with your life and dating for awhile without reaching out to him at all. If he does decide he cares, he’ll reach but if not, you’ll already be moving forward and should keep yourself open for someone who knows what they want and what they want is you. I wish you all the luck of the universe sweetheart!
Hi Anna! I’ve known my Taurus for 15 years. And we were FWB off and on,,,younger then, in our late 20s. We moved to different cities, stopped talking for some years. Fast forward he reached out to me, we stayed in contact over the phone for about 2 years. I eventually ended up moving to his city for work. We started seeing each other again. He was consistently texting, calling, wanting to see me, and inviting me out. I’ve never had him open up to me (not to this extent) telling me about his past relationship, his relationship with his son, he was inviting me out, bringing me around his friends and his family (not mom, but like cousins, uncles). We did eventually sleep together. After years of not seeing each other, I think that was an itch we/I had to scratch. He couldn’t keep his hands off of me whenever I was around him. But I knew I didn’t want to start up another FWB relationship…I’m 43 now, not 28. Eventually I told him that, but I told him this, right before he tried to become intimate with me. He became frustrated because I told him no, and it turned into this heated conversation. He asked me if I wanted something long term…and he wouldn’t respect whatever decision I made. As awkward as it was, I told him yes, and I didn’t want a relationship where we see each other and then he goes away. I wish I would have elaborated more on the conversation. But there was awkward silence…for the rest of the night, and into the morning (I spent the night at his place). Granted he had been consistent. It was my fear too,,,I really was trying to do everything right. To allow something real between u sto grow. And now he isn’t talking to me. I did reach out after a month or so. And told him that, I understood that he had life/responsibilities and I didn’t want to rush or force anything. Which I genuinely meant. I really want to take things slow. But his response was…he respected my wishes and he didn’t want to play around with me. I truly do miss him…his calls, text, seeing him. What can I do…should I remain in contact or just leave him alone. In my gut I do feel there was something special between us, I think he knows that too. I’m a Gemini woman by the way. Thank you for your help! And do you offer any personal coaching?
Oops meant to say he said “he would respect whatever decision I made”.
Hi Anna,
I am Scorpio and texted with my Taurus coworker crush for almost 3months , 2 months of which I was treated in Silence Treatment (2-3 weeks) periods from his side. He said I’m ideal for him but he is not sure about Himself. He asked for some time from me and I told him that he can take his time. More than 1.5 month is passed and I am tired of waiting for nothing.
Should I wait more or all is finished by now?
How should I treat him if he texts?
Thank you
Hi there, i am in need of some advice on my Taurus man. I’m a Capricorn woman and we met online and instantly hit things off. We had been talking for about 3-4 weeks and everything was perfect to the T. Had so much in common we talked about everything under the sun. He knew i went through some real trauma with an ex so he was very patient with me loving kind helpful and sensitive with me. He opened up to me about his own personal life and trusted me. He started to fall in love with me while i was apprehensive because of my past and didn’t believe him so I’d often seek validation and reassurance. He’s provide the reassurance always, he asked me to be his girlfriend 2 weeks after talking and said he was in love with me which i believed was a little fast but he was always sincere and his actions seemed to show as his words. First date he brought things for my kids, took me to her my nails done even offered me to take his card to hold onto to pay, he was very physical with touch holding my hand, kissing, catering to me, and sexual. 2nd date was the same. We both were self conscious however and both would look for reassurance and validation from eachother. Me as a Capricorn over thinking and over analyzing while having the anxious attachment style went into full panic mode after having sex because i was afraid that he would leave me. I even outrightly asked and he assured me that wasn’t the case. He was still very sweet to me and we talked everyday. Two days later i exploded with emotion about needed reassurance and telling him I’m starting to close back up bc I’m unsure of what he feels for me and proceeded to nitpick a handful of things i felt he didn’t do this week vs last week. He ignored my text, i apologized and he totally ghosted me. Now i am confused and hoping he comes back. He still watches all of my stories on social media and even hearts them but still hasn’t responded. Please help!
Your blog on reasons why a Taurus man pulls away is incredibly insightful! The depth of understanding you provide into the Taurus man’s behavior is both reassuring and eye-opening. The practical advice and empathetic approach make this a valuable resource for anyone seeking guidance in their relationships with Taurus partners. Thank you for sharing your wisdom and helping us navigate the complexities of love with a Taurus man!
Hello, I’m needing some counsel on my Taurus man. I’m a Capricorn lady and we met on the web and quickly hit things off. We had been talking
Dear Psychicragunath canada,
It’s likely that you two will find your common interests something that will draw you into each other. The possibility for you to build a solid relationship appeals to you both.
The Taurus man can tell that you, being a Capricorn woman have no-nonsense attitude and this will be something he’ll appreciate for a long time to come. Now he’s into getting to know more, so let the things play out the way they should!
Best of luck to you both!
Hi Anna,
I’ve been knowing my Taurus guy for some years, like over a decade. We are dating right now, not committed. He tried to see me a few times and our schedules were conflicting, had to tell him no like a few times in a row,,,work, family etc. I could feel him pulling away, I would text, he would respond right away but very short one answer responses. So I text him, and asked if he was ghosting me (he did it some years ago.) I was calm about it, he picked up the phone right away to ask why I would think that. I told him he just seemed distance and quiet…and of course he responded you’ve been so busy and also said he was working a lot. We had a nice conversation about that, and then chatted about some other things. I haven’t heard from him in a few days. I’m thinking everything is okay, he made need a little space. What are your thoughts?
By the way I’m a Gemini Sun, Pisces Moon, Scorpio Rising…I have to be very intentional about patience and not being overly emotional. Over the years I have learned a lot about Taurus men. Been following your research for awhile too, you’re very helpful!! Thank you!
This is such an insightful post. I appreciate the deep understanding you’ve shared about why a Taurus man may pull away. Clarity and thoughtful explanations make it easy to understand his behavior. Thank you for helping us gain more insight into Taurus men.