You’ve managed to hurt a Taurus man and now aren’t sure what you should do to make it up to him or win his trust again. When a Taurus man is hurt, you’ve got to understand his point of view and do these other important things. Keep reading to find out what you can do to possibly save the love you have with him.
When a Taurus Man Is Hurt
If you’ve hurt your Taurus man, he’s probably already let you know in certain ways. He’s either ignoring you, is dodging your calls, is spending less time with you, or is making excuses to not talk to you.
He seems a bit like a little kid who didn’t get his way. He doesn’t know how to deal with his feelings so he just shuts himself down from the person who did the injury in the first place.
If this is the case, you’re going to have to work through it with him if you want to save the relationship you’ve cultivated with him whether that be close friendship, dating, or serious relationship.
Aside from ignoring you, he may dismiss you when you talk to him as though he doesn’t want to hear anything you have to say. He won’t find your jokes funny and basically he’ll be ice cold.
Knowing what to look for when he’s hurt is the first step in the process. You’ve got to recognize it, acknowledge it and then start taking steps to show him that you’re sorry for what happened.
Say You Are Sorry
If you have mistakenly hurt your Taurus man’s feelings without realizing you did it, you’ve got to own up to what you’ve done. The thing is, Taurus is untrusting of words alone, he needs to SEE that you’re serious.
However, the first step once you realize that you messed up and he’s hurting, is to tell him you are truly very sorry for having hurt him and that you really didn’t mean it. Explain what you meant by what you said or did.
Perhaps explaining to him what was meant by your words or actions, he’ll understand better and be more willing to work past it. Taurus doesn’t wound easy but when he does, he hangs onto it.
Taurus is one who holds grudges and if you don’t tell him how sorry you are, he will think you are cold hearted. He’ll also think that you did that to him on purpose therefore he’ll hold it against you.
The last thing you want is for him to hold it against you and be unforgiving. Even if he stays with you, he’ll keep bringing it up and throwing it back in your face if he cannot let it go.
Best is to squash it by making sure he really HEARS that you are sorry for whatever it was that happened and it was a mistake.
Play Naive
What this means is if you’ve hurt him but really don’t understand why, act as though you aren’t even sure what you did. Ask him something like “I can tell you are upset but what is it I did or said that has you so hurt? Please tell me because I can’t fix anything if I don’t know”.
When you say it, you’ll need to have a very gentle sound to it. If you say it and yet sound like you’re purposefully playing dumb, he’ll see through it and call you on your bluff with “you know damned well what you did”.
Remind him that communication is very important and you want to know what you can do to make it better. If you want to show him that you didn’t mean what you said or did, you can ask him for a chance to prove it to him.
Taurus men would rather see you never do or say what you did than just saying sorry and moving on. He has to know that you’re not going to be repeating some kind of pattern.
After You’ve Apologized
You’re going to need to give him a little space and time so he can cool down and think things over. Once you’ve actually let him know that you truly are sorry and didn’t mean it. He has to consider what you’ve told him.
He needs to think about himself, why he got upset in the first place, and if it’s something he can work past so that it doesn’t upset him again in the future, especially if it’s some kind of small personality conflict.
Be prepared to give him a little solitude. I wouldn’t suggest doing it for too long though because if you don’t reach out to him after a few says just to touch base, he may think you’re not into him anymore.
He’s an odd one as he wants space when he’s upset but if you let go for too long, he thinks you’ve moved on and then he’ll start shutting down again or he’ll be the one to move on.
You’ve got to be really careful how you tread. Tell him what needs to be said and then let him have some time to process everything. If he can tell that you truly made a mistake, he’ll soften up and forgive you.
If he perceives that you are not genuine in your apology, he may hang onto it and approach it at another inconvenient time. Of course if you really hurt him to the core, it may take even more time, if he will forgive you at all.
Read next: 4 Questions To Ask a Taurus Guy to Get Him To Open Up
Hurt By Others or Situations
If your Taurus man is hurt by other outer circumstances that had nothing at all to do with you, you can soften his mood by being sweet, making him laugh, cooking for him, or bringing him a sweet considerate gift.
You can cheer him up by being a warm woman who cares for him deeply. Showing him this will help him understand the good of you being around him.
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Wishing you all the luck of the universe
Your friend and Relationship Astrologer,
Anna Kovach
I would love some help if anyone has advice. I met a Taurus on on-line dating. We have been talking for about 2 months. We haven’t actually met, and he “hasn’t been able” to get video chat to work. He did friend me on FB So I can see pictures of him. When I talked about really enjoying talking to him and that I really liked him, he said “You can’t know that until we meet- you may see something you don’t like… or I might”. He has changed a great deal in the photos and I think he is sick. Things he has said also make me believe this, and I think it might be disfiguring whatever it is. We were finally supposed to meet 2 days ago and he cancelled at the very last minute (when he should have been leaving his house). I tried to tell him how hurt I was because I was really looking forward to finally seeing him, and he ended it in a text. He said this isn’t working for either one of us. I don’t blame you or me- it is just too hard with the pandemic and the distance (2 hour drive).
I really liked this guy and everything else we always agreed! Except Christmas lights- I like colored, he likes white. We are at the same place in our lives ( I am also sick and dealing with how it is changing my life) he talked more about age changing what he is able to do, except once he said “before my illness” after which I said “you didn’t tell me you had an illness” and I didn’t say it accusingly- I was hoping he would actually tell me more but he said ” No, not an illness, I had covid, I was talking about when I had covid”. SO- he has completely shut down after his text, won’t answer the phone or a text. I feel most bad that he feels I won’t want him after I see him! I don’t want anyone to feel that way about themselves! Is there ANY hope of getting this guy back?!?!?
Hi Linda!
If he hasn’t gotten video chat working and is coming up with other excuses then it sounds like he’s catfishing you. He’s not who he says he is otherwise he’d get on there and show you who he is. It honestly sounding like he’s telling you what you want to hear but is hiding something. Sorry to sound suspicious but I’ve seen this happen far too often on dating sites. This would also be why he would shut down when you called him out. He’s a scammer honey. You should probably move on and find someone who actually wants to be with you. I doubt he even has Covid. Sounds too convenient. If you want a real Taurus man, check out my series “Taurus Man Secrets”.
I have a much complexed situation with my Taurus man.. so to speak and would greatly appreciate any advice at all. This one is pretty darn long and detailed but I’ll make it as short as I can… breathes deep*….
So, all of this is through distance. I live basically on the other side of the country from where he’s at. He’s now 33 I’m 32. We began talking back in ‘19 and it was very intense/passionate just DM-ing each other on Instagram I’m an artist I do photography and graphic design as well as writing. He’s gamer but works at a well known university for media arts and entertainment. We’ve had this unorthodox relationship/situationship for some time and doesn’t want a long distance relationship and neither do I… but we’ve never brought up the whole meet n greet thing throughout all this time. In the first year he barely became stable with his job and I really wasn’t working then until 2020 up until the pandemic hit.. anyways we did have a fallout right before the lockdown took place whereas he told me he “went on a date.” And it set in mind to pursue it to reassure his future” blah blah blah.. after just one date… anyway fast forward, he had blocked me on Instagram after I unfollowed him and his gaming page that was building up for his dream job he was building. I unfollowed both his personal and business page exposing my heart to him (I know) saying that I was so hurt by what he said that I couldn’t see him with her nor risk seeing them in his business gaming page.. which had upset me greatly for when he blocked me because, I don’t understand why exactly that was!! It confused me. Because if he was so focused on the other woman he wouldn’t have time or bother to just block me. He knows me well enough to understand who I am and the fact that I have never disrespected him in any way at all, he follows my art page as well, well use to… anyway he had told me all that just three days before the lockdown. Keep in mind that before all that mess. We were very very intense with each other in both flirtatious and romantic. It was seemingly like a (LDR) sweet and passionate. We talked everyday.. now, I still felt I was naive n young in my actions.. I figured why he had said what he had said, which by the way I found out it was a lie.. or should I say? A test.. (you know those infamous bull tests) probably to see if my feelings towards him were real. Basically to get a reaction outta me. I figured it was by how he set it up. So cleverly… not talking to me for a week and blocking me for no real logic reason… I guess it backfired him when I did so. Because he had drew my my favorite adored cartoon character and displayed it on his personal page for all to see. Along with the other artwork drawings he’s done. Which I never saw any other special ones like mine. All others were just Random creative little artworks like band names bubbles eyes other things like that. But nothing as significant like mine, which tells me I’m probably the first girl that he ever did something like that for and to be displayed publicly where friends and family can see. His gaming business page was also special because I was the first to see his first design to creating his logo for it I was a first to be introduced to it. So like I said I don’t mean to prolong this just trying to be as detailed as possible to give you the situation as it is now and to help me figure out what is going on with him. There is much more detail to add to this far too much it is an extremely rare situation that we both got into with each other. I know he is sensitive to me just as I am to him only I am more verbally expressive about it than he is (ofcourse Taurean trait) stubborn as we both are we do try every now and then to forgive each other and our mistakes. He has his own Health issues medically and it’s not Covid there are other medical issues. Too personal to say. This will be one of the most complex longest comments you will probably have here, because there is still a lot I mean a great deal of a lot more detail to all of this. But I will not put it out publicly I am hoping that I can somehow email it to you instead… it’s a real in depth one. And I don’t mean to exaggerate but it can be written down for a book story. I sincerely apologize for this. But I’m just desperate to understand exactly how sensitive are bulls. Emotionally. Because as you are very may know they will never express it verbally. His actions do speak loud… we still talk as of now, but another mishap happened and I am hoping I can speak to you privately about it. All of this is just a tiny insight to what I’m dealing with, with this stubborn charismatic beautiful man. And I don’t say this lightly.
Hi Lin M.
Distance can definitely be difficult for a Taurus man. He’s good with it short term but not so much when it comes to a longer relationship. He has to have direction and a goal or he tends to just give up. I’m sorry that you both have health problems. That can also put a damper on things. As far as emailing me, I do have a free VIP consultation you can try with me. Email my support team for more information at support@annakovac.com .. I wish you all the best and I do hope to hear from you.
Hoping I could get any advice on my situation with my Taurus.
I’ve known my Taurus guy friend for about a year and a half actively as friends and just recently within the last 3mnths we became closer and became intimate. Now I will admit he is married but claims that he is separated and not actively in the home but still co-parenting which I have been able to observe and see for myself. Now I make sure communication with him is key because it is for me so I’ve been surely to lightly give him a guide on how to handle me properly in the midst of this very delicate situation with him as I’m beginning to love him and have very strong feelings for him. I do believe his feelings are mutual as well because displays all the classic traits of a Twitter patted or in love Taurus man towards me, (lots of touching, affection, attentiveness, attention to detail, in-depth curiosity to further engage with me properly, generousity, bringing me around close friends and family, lots of laughter and jokes, great sex, teamship, catering to my needs, high vibrational exchanges, lots of intelligent conversations toward goals and dreams, he’s very protective over me and always concerned for my well being, I live about 25mims from him and he never hesitates to come see me always taking me off with him for days at a time, always keeping me close to him etc. Now recently I feel as though he had a very basic but very unnecessary conversation with his wife in front of me over the phone to make me jealous and get some kind of reaction from me because nothing was really being said over the call but the fact that the lengthy phone call unnecessarily took place in front of me for reasons unbeknownst to me with what appeared to be with purposeful intent was enough to really tick me off. Initially I held myself together and excused myself in the middle of his call to let him know I wasn’t gonna sit there and continue listening to him talk to his wife as I felt like it was very inconsiderate with how he was going about it along with wanting him to know that my feelings were hurt. Of course he didn’t like me removing myself and leaving him by himself to finish his very unnecessary call. Later he facetimes me I began to calmly with slight irritation explain to him how he was making me feel behind his actions I also asked him what his reason for doing that was and he had absolutely no answer smh. That made me livid and then from there my mouth shot off like a bat out of hell and I know I said some really hurtful and mean things to him that I swear I never intended to say. Towards the end of the call he asked me if I was willing to throw our bond away over a phone call and I said yes that I didn’t care because I felt as though he no longer cared for me or respected behind what he did as if he was trying to intentionally push me away because why would you do that when you haven’t been doing that. You’ve been being extra careful and mindful of how you do things around me because your wife is still present and you don’t want to make me feel some kind of way if it’s really no anything going on. I told him that I no longer wanted to look at him past a friend and I told him never to call my phone on any kind of level except for a friendship level and after that I hung up in his face. Immediately after I felt so bad for saying the things I said to him even though he was the one that caused all this. I sent him a long heart felt and sincere text apologizing to him for what I had done and I explained in detail why I did it, how he made me feel and I also told him how much I value his friendship in my life along with letting him know what I wouldn’t do the next time around and that I would handle him properly with care next time a issue like this should ever arise again.I told him how much I love him and that I’m willing to be patient for as long as it takes for him to come around. I asked him to forgive me and to give me a chance to fix it by showing him with my actions that I’ll never handle him like that again. This was about 4 days ago and he hasn’t responded at all. Will he forgive me and come back around? Have I cut him to deep with words and he’s gone for good even though he was in the wrong and hurt me first? Will he give me the chance to make it right?
Hi Universegem1111!
Well 4 days really isn’t a long enough time to determine whether he’s willing to work with you on this or not. Taurus men aren’t known for speed especially when they have things going on in their lives that need repairing. If he’s really truly hurt then he may take awhile before he’ll be open to trying. I would text him every few days asking how he’s doing, how his life is going, and just saying friendly types of things. Actually once a week may be better. It gives him time to process and at the same time it lets him know you haven’t given up on him. If after 4 months goes by and he hasn’t indicated he wants to work on this then it may be too late. Give it a shot and see how it goes. I wish you nothing but the best!
Hello Anna, I’ve been using all your tips since I’ve been closed to this one Taurus guy.
So this man is my university classmate and I was the first to ask him out (as friends), he’s really funny, protective and kind. I never think of falling in love with him but eventually I fell for how kind he was. I’ve been flirting with him through text messages and he most of the time played along with me. We’ve been going to lots of places together and we really enjoyed going out.
However, he suddenly being distant and rejected me whenever I asked him out. It could possibly be because we’re too busy with school, and that’s the same answer he told me when I asked why was he being distant.
I made a mistake by asking him to choose either to keep our relationship or let me go because I’ve fallen in love with him. He took so long to answer, and after days he told me he’ll let me go bcs he cannot be committed to any relationship.
I told him we could figure our feelings out without rushing into a serious relationship but he started to blame himself of being too friendly with me.
I told him we could still be friends, however now anytime that I talk to him, he’s as cold as an ice, and honestly I regret of not being patient with him bcs I really liked him and wanted to make things work.
I really need your opinion and help of is it possible for me to be with him again and win his heart again. Thankyou.
Hi hannah!
Taurus man wants to the one chasing, not the other way around. He wants to be “the man” and it was alright when you were asking him out as a friend but now that it may be coming more, he doesn’t like it. He’s telling you the truth also that he’s too focused on his life and isn’t ready yet for a commitment. Ask him if you two can start over from the beginning and then let it be organic from there on out as far as where it may lead or not lead. I think he’ll be alright with starting fresh with no pressure. I wish you all the love you deserve!